friendlyguy Posted July 24, 2011 Posted July 24, 2011 Hey there love shack. This has probably been talked about before but here we go.. I recently met up with a girl from a dating site. It went really well and we went out or she came over to my house to hang out a further 8 or so times. We always had a laugh and always talked! There was never a time we didn't have something to talk about! I hadn't met a girl recently I had got along with so well and actually felt butterflies when I saw her. We had made plans to go out for lunch yesterday, but I got a text msg in the morning saying "i don't think i should come for lunch. You are a great guy and have so much to offer but I just don't feel a connection". She did reply to my texts I sent after receiving her text and then she said "she's happy to be friends but nothing more". I don't understand because I had no negative signs from her texts during the week or during the last time we saw each other. We did sleep with each other once a couple of weeks ago. Everything seemed happy days until out of nowhere this happens! I really do like her and felt we did have a connection because we wouldn't have seen each other that many times..and she was always super keen to see me! She was always affectionate towards me. Should I try just meet up again purely as friends? Just to see how things go? Or just let her go? I just feel we did have chemisty! Just feeling a bit down at the moment. Thanks.
KathyM Posted July 24, 2011 Posted July 24, 2011 Hey there love shack. This has probably been talked about before but here we go.. I recently met up with a girl from a dating site. It went really well and we went out or she came over to my house to hang out a further 8 or so times. We always had a laugh and always talked! There was never a time we didn't have something to talk about! I hadn't met a girl recently I had got along with so well and actually felt butterflies when I saw her. We had made plans to go out for lunch yesterday, but I got a text msg in the morning saying "i don't think i should come for lunch. You are a great guy and have so much to offer but I just don't feel a connection". She did reply to my texts I sent after receiving her text and then she said "she's happy to be friends but nothing more". I don't understand because I had no negative signs from her texts during the week or during the last time we saw each other. We did sleep with each other once a couple of weeks ago. Everything seemed happy days until out of nowhere this happens! I really do like her and felt we did have a connection because we wouldn't have seen each other that many times..and she was always super keen to see me! She was always affectionate towards me. Should I try just meet up again purely as friends? Just to see how things go? Or just let her go? I just feel we did have chemisty! Just feeling a bit down at the moment. Thanks. Let it go. She doesn't feel chemistry with you. Trying to be just a friend isn't going to work. You obviously want more than that, and she doesn't.
Author friendlyguy Posted July 24, 2011 Author Posted July 24, 2011 Thanks for the reply. I just don't know why it took her so long to realise this. We sent texts to each other everyday for the past 2 months. And we were always excited to see each other. I thought if she realised there wasn't chemistry she would have known from the first couple of times we went out?
KathyM Posted July 24, 2011 Posted July 24, 2011 Thanks for the reply. I just don't know why it took her so long to realise this. We sent texts to each other everyday for the past 2 months. And we were always excited to see each other. I thought if she realised there wasn't chemistry she would have known from the first couple of times we went out? Sometimes it takes a while for people to realize it's not going to work for them. Chemistry doesn't always happen right away. People tend to try to get to know someone first to see if chemistry develops, and when they realize it hasn't, then they break it off.
Eternal Sunshine Posted July 24, 2011 Posted July 24, 2011 Honestly, she probably knew from the start but was hoping that she could perhaps feel something in time. She was also most likely lacking in other options... As for being affectionate - it's just something you do when you are dating someone. It doesn't have to mean chemistry. Also, she could have met someone she liked more recently.
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