TuffCookieX Posted July 24, 2011 Posted July 24, 2011 I posted a topic here: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t286756/ This guy and I finally went out and the chemistry was amazing. We talked and cuddled ALL night I literally got 30 minutes of sleep. (That was Wednesday night). Since then he texts me all the time, says he can't wait to see me again, blah blah. Tonight we were supposed to go out to dinner for date #2. He said he was gonna get home at 9:00 and shower and head over. 9:30 rolls around and I text him asking when he thinks he will be heading out. No response. At 10:30 I left my place to go out to dinner without him, at a bar. It was fine, I made new friends as I always do, they bought me drinks, dessert, and the manager even comped my meal (being a girl and sitting at the bar alone has it's MAJOR perks). But anyway, I left the bar a little after midnight and no word from the guy I was supposed to go out with! I get home and check facebook. He had recent activity, changed his profile pic, and had even logged into the dating website where we met at 11:30 PM. Then at 12:30 AM as I'm getting ready for bed, I FINALLY get a text with him and it says this: "Ugh I just woke up and wish I didn't fall asleep cuz I wanna be sleeping with you now." (Just a note - we are not having any sexual relations just yet, he meant just cuddling). Anyway, I'm quite livid. He wasted my time, and he LIED. He was sleeping yet he was logged into plentyoffish? I didn't respond to the text cuz wtf am I supposed to say? The catch is I REALLY like this guy. My friend says there might be a way to turn it around and get him to be good. I hope there is, I don't want to let him go just yet. As for now, I'm giving him the silent treatment, he has a lot of sucking up to do. What are your thoughts?
TaurusTerp Posted July 24, 2011 Posted July 24, 2011 Hrmm.... Here in front of you is a magic apple. It will be the most delicious thing you have ever tasted, but it will kill you after you eat it. Do you do it? You already know he's a liar and you're not even dating yet. Why are you wasting your time?
musemaj11 Posted July 24, 2011 Posted July 24, 2011 Just bang him once and get that lust for him out of your system and forget about him.
oaks Posted July 24, 2011 Posted July 24, 2011 Anyway, I'm quite livid. You should be. He flaked and then lied about it. Move on to the next one.
Imajerk17 Posted July 24, 2011 Posted July 24, 2011 (edited) I posted a topic here: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t286756/ This guy and I finally went out and the chemistry was amazing. We talked and cuddled ALL night I literally got 30 minutes of sleep. (That was Wednesday night). Since then he texts me all the time, says he can't wait to see me again, blah blah. Tonight we were supposed to go out to dinner for date #2. He said he was gonna get home at 9:00 and shower and head over. 9:30 rolls around and I text him asking when he thinks he will be heading out. No response. At 10:30 I left my place to go out to dinner without him, at a bar. It was fine, I made new friends as I always do, they bought me drinks, dessert, and the manager even comped my meal (being a girl and sitting at the bar alone has it's MAJOR perks). But anyway, I left the bar a little after midnight and no word from the guy I was supposed to go out with! I get home and check facebook. He had recent activity, changed his profile pic, and had even logged into the dating website where we met at 11:30 PM. Then at 12:30 AM as I'm getting ready for bed, I FINALLY get a text with him and it says this: "Ugh I just woke up and wish I didn't fall asleep cuz I wanna be sleeping with you now." (Just a note - we are not having any sexual relations just yet, he meant just cuddling). Anyway, I'm quite livid. He wasted my time, and he LIED. He was sleeping yet he was logged into plentyoffish? I didn't respond to the text cuz wtf am I supposed to say? The catch is I REALLY like this guy. My friend says there might be a way to turn it around and get him to be good. I hope there is, I don't want to let him go just yet. As for now, I'm giving him the silent treatment, he has a lot of sucking up to do. What are your thoughts? Your response back: "Hmmm.... OK, so how are you going to make it up to me?" Although his excuse was flimsy, even barring what you saw RE his activity on PoF. I wouldn't oversleep to miss a date with a girl I'm excited about, and I don't think most guys would. Edited July 24, 2011 by Imajerk17
joeLove Posted July 24, 2011 Posted July 24, 2011 Confront him... that he didn't warn you he had some type of sleeping disorder ... j/k Wash him out of your system and move on ...
veggirl Posted July 24, 2011 Posted July 24, 2011 I think you like him too much too soon, you hardly know him. You know he is a liar though, ditch him. What is it that you REALLY like about him? Dang if it'd been me I don't think I'd have been able to resist texting back something like "wow you should change all your passwords then, looks like someone was logged in as you all over the internet tonight!"
kiss_andmakeup Posted July 24, 2011 Posted July 24, 2011 He's a liar and a flake...you can do better...next.
tigressA Posted July 24, 2011 Posted July 24, 2011 I think you like him too much too soon, you hardly know him. You know he is a liar though, ditch him. What is it that you REALLY like about him? Dang if it'd been me I don't think I'd have been able to resist texting back something like "wow you should change all your passwords then, looks like someone was logged in as you all over the internet tonight!" :lmao: Love it. Yeah, he flaked and lied. Next.
Mme. Chaucer Posted July 24, 2011 Posted July 24, 2011 I think you like him too much too soon, you hardly know him. You know he is a liar though, ditch him. What is it that you REALLY like about him? Dang if it'd been me I don't think I'd have been able to resist texting back something like "wow you should change all your passwords then, looks like someone was logged in as you all over the internet tonight!" If I were in your position, I would definitely let him know that his dumb excuse wasn't working. But PLEASE don't think he's going to "turn good." If this is his behavior at the very beginning when things are just sparking and exciting, I'm sure they would get worse rather than better. Flake.
Author TuffCookieX Posted July 24, 2011 Author Posted July 24, 2011 You guys are right. Does anyone think I should respond at all? Also, not that anyone really knows why, but LOTS of men I've dated flake exactly like that, same stuff goes for all my girlfriends. Is there a reason? Maybe some of you men have good input. He was more head over heels for ME, or so I thought...
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