Is He Into Me Or What?

[Je t'aime]

SO, long story short: I was a freshman in high school this past year. I was in marching band. I love it. Anyways, the drum major(a senior) is great. He's funny and cute and smart and nearly every girl was crazy for him. So, naturally, I had a bit of a crush on him. And my friends, they all insisted that he felt the same way. Because he would always eat lunch with me and seek me out when we had breaks during band practice. This went on for about a year. Nothing ever came of it until summer break when he IMed me on Facebook and we started talking. He jokingly asked why I never text him and whatnot. We talked for two solid hours and then I promised him I would try to text him more often. (I thought nothing of this encounter because he's super friendly and is always talking to and texting everyone.) Anyways, I checked my Formspring that very same day and I had one new question, by an anonymous asker. It said, "I might like you... just for your knowledge." Immediately I knew it was my drum major. So, boy was I excited! But I played along for a little while longer. I responded, "Well, I might like you too. But I must first know your identity. You could be a creeper for all I know." He then said, "Well I am definitely not a creeper, I am instead extremely cool. I want you to know that I am interested in you and I'd enjoy taking you to a movie sometime, perhaps next week?" I told him that if he revealed his identity straight away, I'd go with him. And in that very same minute he texted me and asked me out on a date to see a movie. Haha, I thought it was clever how he did that and I was giddy with excitement. So, the entire week before our date, we talked every day, nonstop. I asked him how it was that HE could like me. And he responded honestly. He told me that he didn't want to hurt me, and that he wanted to move very cautiously with this because he's going off to college this fall. (His college is like, 2 hours away. So, if we dated, we'd only be able to see each other maybe once a week.) He'd been praying a lot about it. But, he said that he was very much interested in me and wanted to see how hanging out a few times went. To see if I was worth the effort, I guess. Anyways, so the day of our date, I woke up feeling extremely nervous. But when he got to my house, all nervousness immediately went away because he's so friendly and open and knows how to make a girl feel like a million bucks. We talked nonstop(I was afraid there were going to be awkward silences in his car) and he was very gentleman-like. He payed for my movie ticket, offered to buy me concessions, and opened every door for me. During the movie, we were leaning in towards each other. He'd whisper funny things in my ear and our faces were SO close. I loved it. After the movie, he was taking me home and because we were talking so much, he took the LONG way home. (Which may not seem very significant, but it was 8 and he still had to drive to his sister's house that night...which was roughly 3 hours away.) We were laughing and flirting like crazy and it just felt very natural and comfortable to be with him. When he dropped me off at my house, he told me what a great time he had with me and told me that he'd be seeing me at band camp, if we didn't hang out before then. Then he gave me a quick hug and that was it. I did not expect a text or phone call that night because again, he'd be driving to his sister's. So, that's the hunky dory side of it. Here's the sketchy part: I half expected him to update his status on Facebook about what a great night he had. But he didn't. You're probably thinking, well that's no big deal! Here's the thing: He's one of those guys who updates his status every hour. And on previous dates with other girls, he's posted on Facebook about the date and how great it was and whatnot. On top of that, he's not texted me since the date, which was yesterday evening. You're probably AGAIN thinking about what a NOT big deal that is, but on a regular basis, that boy texts me at 10 every morning. So, now I'm worried that after hanging out with me a little bit and seeing how I acted towards him, that he might not be into me anymore. And NOW I feel like I should text him first and just remind him about what a great time I had. I really like him.

 

Reading over this now, it's obvious that I am completely over thinking things. Still, any advice would be greatly appreciated. OH! And if you're going to say that a senior is MUCH too old for a freshman girl like me, and that I shouldn't even bother with him, think again! I'm 16, and he is 17. He graduated early and my mom started me WAY late in kindergarten. I could be a junior. Haha, alrighty. Thanks for reading.

[sp89416]

Yes, he is in to you. He's probably just uneasy about a few things (you are under 18, he's 18 or so and that can get a guy in trouble). Be affectionate and be patient; men are a little slow

 

Secondly, please put your posts into paragraphs. Its easier to read that way

[DuskCrush]

Yes he's into you but if you keep overthinking things and acting insecure like this you'll totally kill the vibe between you two. So relax and distract yourself fromthinking about him.