Consolidated Discussion - Older/younger woman/man and age gap dating

October 11, 2015

You call it male entitlement when a man you are not attracted to decides to hit on you? Hogwash. None of us are so special that we get to pick and choose what people decide to hit on us. I have had old, fat, ugly women hit on me, but I would never consider going out of my way to insult those people, insinuate they are not women, or compare them to criminals.

It is truly a shame that you have to go through life as angry as you are. Angry at the media, angry at men, angry at society...it really is sad. Your anger also illustrates a big part in why so many men do try and hit on younger women. It takes a while before that kind of anger starts to take hold of a person. Younger ladies don't tend to be so angry at men.

Oh baloney. I am not angry at 'men'. I am angry at people who feel entitled to hit on relative children and the institutions that support that. if that describes you, and you happen to be a man, then oh well. It's not about gender.

What I believe the OP and lots of other women are quite sick of is how we are expected to tolerate this.

As for the statement in bold... Just the opposite is true. Lots of men hit on younger women because of their hatred and anger at women in general. Claiming that same age women are bitter and angry is just their justification for dumping their own garbage onto a younger woman. That's the entitled attitude I am talking about. It's ok for the guy to be jaded and bitter, as long as he can suck in some youngster. Who doesn't have enough life experience to know when she is being taken for a ride. Way to go...

Finally, about the lame examples given about being hit on by older women... We're any of them your boss? A popular coworker? A professor? Your physician? Did you ever feel your job was at risk if you rejected them? Or if you rejected them in the wrong way? No? Then you don't really have a clue what women put up with... Especially from older men who should be their mentors and trustworthy... Not one more dude looking for a place to put his d*ck.

October 11, 2015

Nothing of the sort.

Relationships fail or succeed, yes? Of all ages, sizes, shapes and colors.

Age difference does not determine success or failure. Compatibility and respect will determine the quality and duration of a relationship; any relationship, be it romantic, familial, friendship, work related or what ev's.

I must say from personal experience and as a woman who has never done OLD; since I was a teenager and to this day, older men have been fairly aggressive.

As far as older women seeking younger men, I agree, it happens. Some older women do seek out younger men in an equally solicitous manner. '*I* don't know nothing about birthing no babies' on that front. Truth.

October 11, 2015

Exactly

It take a lot of arrogance to assume that what "I" deem inherently icky and predatory actually IS.

Again, you must live or work in a place without a lot of men. It takes no arrogance at all to know what it feels like to have a power imbalance and another trying to exploit that. It is predatory.

What I find sad is women who support this behavior... But I get it. Some women need a dad, and if they never had one, then I guess dating someone old enough to be their dad is the best they can do rather than deal with their issues. If those women don't want to consider themselves victims, I get that too. Everyone likes to feel like they are above what happened to them... Even when their actions show otherwise.

October 11, 2015

relative children

Oh no not that again, childhood is NOT RELATIVE I tell you!!!

;)

What I believe the OP and lots of other women are quite sick of is how we are expected to tolerate this.

Why should any of us women be "expected to tolerate" who goes out with who, except for ourselves??? How is that actually our business??

Finally, about the lame examples given about being hit on by older women... We're any of them your boss? A popular coworker? A professor? Your physician? Did you ever feel your job was at risk if you rejected them? Or if you rejected them in the wrong way? No? Then you don't really have a clue what women put up with... Especially from older men who should be their mentors and trustworthy...

RR I think that you lose this message when you focus with such bitter venom on older men / younger women relationships. That is DIFFERENT from people in positions of power taking advantage of those they have the power over. I have to say that it DOES happen women on man, too. A person I know very well had it happen to him at his work and it was so bad he had to bring it to the HR department and it all got ugly and humiliating. There have been some pretty high profile news stories about women teachers with students … Maybe it's more often men, but in any case these are "abuse of power" situations, not "age gap dating."

October 11, 2015

Oh no not that again, childhood is NOT RELATIVE I tell you!!! ;)
Why should any of us women be "expected to tolerate" who goes out with who, except for ourselves??? How is that actually our business??

RR I think that you lose this message when you focus with such bitter venom on older men / younger women relationships. That is DIFFERENT from people in positions of power taking advantage of those they have the power over. I have to say that it DOES happen women on man, too. A person I know very well had it happen to him at his work and it was so bad he had to bring it to the HR department and it all got ugly and humiliating. There have been some pretty high profile news stories about women teachers with students … Maybe it's more often men, but in any case these are "abuse of power" situations, not "age gap dating."

Agreed - that is an important distinction

October 11, 2015

I don't think that way at all, but there are a few women who are oldish here who write a great deal about how HORRIBLE it is if an older man and a younger woman are dating. I have NO idea why they should care so much unless they are taking it personally?? :(

I AM a young woman (24), I have ZERO interest in dating any old men, I think it's funny when old men try to hit on me, I think it's depressing when I read about old men who only are interested in young girls - but inspite of ALL THAT I am NOT upset by couples with age gaps and also I don't think that a girl just like me who feels alot differently than I do, and who actually WANTS to date old guys, is to be pitied or seen as a victim!!! I don't understand her taste, that's all!

Why should I care? I have family and friends your age. I would hate to see them brainwashed into thinking they are actually compatible with someone much older than them. I'd consider it a great tragedy for them.

If all you think is that it is 'funny' when an older man hits on you, then you are fortunate to live and work in a place where the older men around you don't use their position to try to eff you. You can thank all of the women (and some men) who came before you who made that possible.

You are welcome.

October 11, 2015

Why should I care? I have family and friends your age. I would hate to see them brainwashed into thinking they are actually compatible with someone much older than them. I'd consider it a great tragedy for them.

If all you think is that it is 'funny' when an older man hits on you, then you are fortunate to live and work in a place where the older men around you don't use their position to try to eff you. You can thank all of the women (and some men) who came before you who made that possible.

You are welcome.

I don't think that was her point, f I understand it. Wasn't she just saying that the real problem is when there is a power disparity?

October 11, 2015

Oh no not that again, childhood is NOT RELATIVE I tell you!!! ;)
Why should any of us women be "expected to tolerate" who goes out with who, except for ourselves??? How is that actually our business??

RR I think that you lose this message when you focus with such bitter venom on older men / younger women relationships. That is DIFFERENT from people in positions of power taking advantage of those they have the power over. I have to say that it DOES happen women on man, too. A person I know very well had it happen to him at his work and it was so bad he had to bring it to the HR department and it all got ugly and humiliating. There have been some pretty high profile news stories about women teachers with students … Maybe it's more often men, but in any case these are "abuse of power" situations, not "age gap dating."

I dunno. Can you use a calculator. Subtract 25 from 45. What does that equal? 20, correct? A 20 year old is old enough to be a parent... That makes the 25 year old a child...relative to the 45 year old.

... Perhaps when you gain a bit more life experience you will understand that age gap 'relationships' and the (usually) men who go after that are ALL ABOUT POWER... no different than men who use their position of authority in the workplace or elsewhere. None whatsoever. It's just that the guy trying to date the younger woman he may not work with or have any direct authority over doesn't have quite as much leverage. He does have the experience of being more crafty than men her own age. responsible older men and women know that... Which is exactly why a lot of them wouldn't be caught dead dating someone that much younger than themselves.

October 11, 2015

I love how my examples are lame, but you still use yours to make your points. Yes, I have been hit on by all kinds of women. One was a former boss of mine, a business owner who ran a bakery. She put her hand on me and asked me to model for her naked man cake she was commissioned to create. The difference is, I laughed it off instead of making blanket sexist statements about women exploiting men in the workplace, and how she was like a pedophile. This woman is over 30 years my senior, and she is not attractive by any measure.

Why did you laugh it off? Because you knew she wouldn't do anything if you rejected her?

How bad did you need that job? How easy was it to find another?

Is that the only example you have? I can easily count 20 examples... Maybe even double that..of that kind of thing happening to me in one form or another. Bosses, co workers, professors, a physician... And I am not alone. I am not even counting the random grab ass from strangers on the street or on mass transit.

See, you really have no clue at all, That entitled attitude is shared by a lot of men... And it bleeds into every thing they do. It starts with this attitude of, 'it never hurts to try', and it's up to the woman to reject him, rather than him having a clue in the first place.

October 11, 2015

I don't think that was her point, f I understand it. Wasn't she just saying that the real problem is when there is a power disparity?

Age gap 'relationships' = power disparity

thats the problem.

That's probably why so many women have such strong negative reactions to them, no matter how 'attractive' the guy might be for his age. Sure is for me...and why I would never date a guy (younger, same age, or older) who went in for that thing. Even as a 'phase'.

October 11, 2015

Healthy boundaries.

Never knew that people were "entitled" to hit on a person..When did that get passed thru Congress?

When unwarranted advances are made, nip it in the bud.

Not a fan of age discrimination ...more annoyed about how the propositions come across and the level of vulgarity in which its conveyed.

October 11, 2015

I dunno. Can you use a calculator. Subtract 25 from 45. What does that equal? 20, correct? A 20 year old is old enough to be a parent... That makes the 25 year old a child...relative to the 45 year old.
Which is exactly why a lot of them wouldn't be caught dead dating someone that much younger than themselves.

I don't know what part of the world you live in and where you find these severely abused women and 'old' men blackmailing them into relationships but here in the UK, men of all ages hit on WOMEN of all ages and vice versa. What determines the outcome is the level of attraction they feel towards the hitter. I find much more cases of older women going for younger men - especially in the workplace. That's certainly the case in MY workplace.

We get that YOU don't want to be hit on by anyone greater than 5yrs older, we get that many categories of people that are undesirable to YOU aren't entitled to approach you. For the rest of the world, we understand that we won't be attracted to everyone but ADULTS are allowed to pick from any category they like, be it older, younger, gayer, straighter, blacker or whiter.

As you may know, I'm in a very happy 2yr now relationship with a man almost 19yrs older than me - the most awesome man that ever lived . He's never been with anyone this much younger and I subtly encouraged him to go for it. It didn't help that we're an interaccial couple! I grew up at home with both parents, I speak with them every other day so no daddy issues here. My dad is more concerned that I'm with a white man! I'm near 40, I'm plenty educated, with an awesome job, my own money, house and car, previously married now divorced, have a son... There is no manipulation here whatsoever. If there was, it was from me! Age-gap relationships are no big deal. There may be challenges and difficulties but that's their problem but nothing for you to just despise from the outside.

So, I think your thinking is very skewed to bad outcomes. If it's not perfect in your eyes, it's wrong for the whole world. Sorry, you and the few bad experiences you've had don't represent the whole adult community.

The OP was having a moan at how many men THAT SHE LIKED on OLD wanted a younger woman, even 2yrs younger! The horror! Thats her own moan and experience and she's entitled to it. She's even allowed to moan about how the nice guys are taken by younger women, just like how I used to moan about the nice ones being married. When I was online dating, I kept getting messages from people younger than me and just a few years older when my criteria said 7yrs older to 15yrs older.For me, a man 5yrs older hasn't experienced enough of life 'relative' to me. I used the contact filter to block people outside the range. Only to meet my SO randomly

So, I'm not a child relative to anyone aside MY OWN mom and dad. I don't get the venom thrown at men who have the courage to approach any WOMAN. If it's personal, keep it so.

October 11, 2015

Here is a point that I am not sure was brought up or not...

Some people(men and women) just don't follow the same path as their similarly aged peers...I can tell you that I don't, that's for sure...I'm just not ready for a quiet and sedentary life and probably never will be..Most women my age are looking for quiet walk in a park or a candlelight dinner...Id be more inclined to go rock climbing or raft in rough water or go to a gym and throw some weights around for an hour or so...

When we take the kids to the beach, I usually wind up playing with the kids, while the other parents are lounging under the umbrellas, reading a magazine and complaining about their ailments..

Even though chronologically I am considered middle aged, outside of maybe worrying about retirement, I have virtually nothing in common..If I listed my interests, hobbies and what I would want in a typical woman, 90%+ of "age appropriate" women would probably not be compatible or interested...

Its a moot point as I am not looking, but that would mean if I stayed in my age range, I would have to search for a needle in a haystack, before I even started to weed out prospects for other areas of compatibility ..

I'm sure there are women who feel the same way...They dont want the fat couch potato with the remote in hand and a pizza in the other..Should they also be denied the right to seek out a partner who may be younger for the sake of a better match..?

I just think some posters are confusing the issue as simply some stupid creepy guys hoping to catch some naive young girl at a weak moment...Those things are stupid and everyone knows it...

TFY

Edited October 11, 2015 by thefooloftheyear

October 11, 2015

Again, you must live or work in a place without a lot of men. It takes no arrogance at all to know what it feels like to have a power imbalance and another trying to exploit that. It is predatory.

What I find sad is women who support this behavior... But I get it. Some women need a dad, and if they never had one, then I guess dating someone old enough to be their dad is the best they can do rather than deal with their issues. If those women don't want to consider themselves victims, I get that too. Everyone likes to feel like they are above what happened to them... Even when their actions show otherwise.

My father was and is wonderful. I had a very loving, balanced childhood. My father still adores my mother after 55 yeas.

I do not have daddy issues. No relative molested me. I have dated men who are older. I have dated men who are younger, my last LTR was with a man 1 year older.

Again, the condescending arrogance to suggest any woman who has dated an older man is damaged is astounding.

October 12, 2015

My father was and is wonderful. I had a very loving, balanced childhood. My father still adores my mother after 55 yeas.

I do not have daddy issues. No relative molested me. I have dated men who are older. I have dated men who are younger, my last LTR was with a man 1 year older.

Again, the condescending arrogance to suggest any woman who has dated an older man is damaged is astounding.

one year older is same age. Jeez. Way to twist my words. We are talking about large age gaps here... I wouldn't date anyone with more than 5 years difference, younger or older... but for the sake of argument, lets just say more than 10 years is 'large'.

You don't think you are damaged... Great. Then check this out...

A study done recently by Emory University shows that the chance of divorce goes up significantly when the age of the partners is more than 5 years apart. Even those who are as few as 5 years apart have a divorce rate of 18% compared to those who are within a year or two of each other.

Long story short... age gap relationships don't work. It's not condescending to be right, lol.

So yea, if the young lady wants to date an old guy (damaged or not), just don't marry him.

More scholarly...

https://www.advisory.com/daily-briefing/2014/11/10/why-to-marry-someone-your-own-age-it-reduces-divorce

More funny....

The Link Between Age Compatibility And Relationship Success | Renee Fisher

October 12, 2015

I don't know what part of the world you live in and where you find these severely abused women and 'old' men blackmailing them into relationships but here in the UK, men of all ages hit on WOMEN of all ages and vice versa. What determines the outcome is the level of attraction they feel towards the hitter. I find much more cases of older women going for younger men - especially in the workplace. That's certainly the case in MY workplace.

We get that YOU don't want to be hit on by anyone greater than 5yrs older, we get that many categories of people that are undesirable to YOU aren't entitled to approach you. For the rest of the world, we understand that we won't be attracted to everyone but ADULTS are allowed to pick from any category they like, be it older, younger, gayer, straighter, blacker or whiter.

As you may know, I'm in a very happy 2yr now relationship with a man almost 19yrs older than me - the most awesome man that ever lived . He's never been with anyone this much younger and I subtly encouraged him to go for it. It didn't help that we're an interaccial couple! I grew up at home with both parents, I speak with them every other day so no daddy issues here. My dad is more concerned that I'm with a white man! I'm near 40, I'm plenty educated, with an awesome job, my own money, house and car, previously married now divorced, have a son... There is no manipulation here whatsoever. If there was, it was from me! Age-gap relationships are no big deal. There may be challenges and difficulties but that's their problem but nothing for you to just despise from the outside.

So, I think your thinking is very skewed to bad outcomes. If it's not perfect in your eyes, it's wrong for the whole world. Sorry, you and the few bad experiences you've had don't represent the whole adult community.

The OP was having a moan at how many men THAT SHE LIKED on OLD wanted a younger woman, even 2yrs younger! The horror! Thats her own moan and experience and she's entitled to it. She's even allowed to moan about how the nice guys are taken by younger women, just like how I used to moan about the nice ones being married. When I was online dating, I kept getting messages from people younger than me and just a few years older when my criteria said 7yrs older to 15yrs older.For me, a man 5yrs older hasn't experienced enough of life 'relative' to me. I used the contact filter to block people outside the range. Only to meet my SO randomly

So, I'm not a child relative to anyone aside MY OWN mom and dad. I don't get the venom thrown at men who have the courage to approach any WOMAN. If it's personal, keep it so.

Well, your relationship has a 95% chance or greater of ending in divorce compared to a same age person.

I have no doubt that there are women who need a relative 'dad' for some reason. Just like there are men who need a relative 'mom' in a relationship. There's a power disparity, and some people do actually prefer there be a disparity. Lets not get anyone confused though... and pretend those relationships are in any way equal or more likely to last, or anything else compared to those who are similar age.

If you don't care how long your marriage lasts, or even about getting married, then I guess those stats won't mean anything. *shrug*

October 12, 2015

Isn't that romantic. Anyone who gets married is taking a chance at divorce, considering around half of marriages end in divorce. I know mine did. None of that matters. If you find someone you want to be with, and they feel the same way, you should go for it. With all of the people out there who cannot seem to find love, I wouldn't let some study discourage me from being with someone special.

uh, huh. But what about the young lady? Does SHE know it's orders of magnitude more likely it will end in divorce and/or won't last?

Not likely due to the BS fed her by society, media, and (sadly) even other women... if this thread is any indication. The truth is that women are fed all kinds of baloney about how being with an older man will result in MORE stability, commitment, whatever, but the truth is just the opposite.

Edited October 12, 2015 by RedRobin

October 12, 2015

uh, huh. But what about the young lady? Does SHE know it's orders of magnitude more likely it will end in divorce and/or won't last?

Not likely due to the BS fed her by society, media, and (sadly) even other women... if this thread is any indication. The truth is that women are fed all kinds of baloney about how being with an older man will result in MORE stability, commitment, whatever, but the truth is just the opposite.

Were you preyed upon or abused by an older man?

Edited October 12, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Repair punctuation.

October 12, 2015

one year older is same age. Jeez. Way to twist my words. We are talking about large age gaps here... I wouldn't date anyone with more than 5 years difference, younger or older... but for the sake of argument, lets just say more than 10 years is 'large'.

You don't think you are damaged... Great. Then check this out...

A study done recently by Emory University shows that the chance of divorce goes up significantly when the age of the partners is more than 5 years apart. Even those who are as few as 5 years apart have a divorce rate of 18% compared to those who are within a year or two of each other.

Long story short... age gap relationships don't work. It's not condescending to be right, lol.

So yea, if the young lady wants to date an old guy (damaged or not), just don't marry him.

More scholarly...
https://www.advisory.com/daily-briefing/2014/11/10/why-to-marry-someone-your-own-age-it-reduces-divorce

More funny....
The Link Between Age Compatibility And Relationship Success*|*Renee Fisher

That research is compelling, and I would hold it as a reason not to seek or encourage seeking an age gap relationship.

If two people with an age gap organically fall in love, however, I wouldn't suggest the research is a reason they shouldn't be together and marry. Patterns within groups don't predict individual success. Love and connection isn't so commonly available that I'd dismiss it based on a study.

October 13, 2015

Were you preyed upon or abused by an older man?

Jeez, read the thread please... I've been hit on by plenty of older men. I have always considered it repulsive and a betrayal.... Probably because I never have been abused or 'preyed' upon by older men. Men in my family don't date women young enough to be their daughters. We have no pedophiles in my family. In fact, I don't even think that any women in my family in the past two or three generations have even been raped. So I come at this from a perspective that is probably out of the ordinary compared to other women or families with considerable dysfunction. Heck, I can count on one hand the number of divorces in my family.

Anyway...any older person who hits on a much younger person is attempting to prey on them or exploit a power imbalance. By default. That is why they do it. That is why they are attracted to them. That is why they sexualize relative children. It just so happens that more men do it than women because society condones or even encourages it.

They can't deal with someone their own age or close to it.

Those who go after much older people... Same thing but in reverse. Maybe they were abused or preyed upon when young, and are seeking to deal with that by recreating the scenario. Or they like being daddied or mommied.

October 13, 2015

That research is compelling, and I would hold it as a reason not to seek or encourage seeking an age gap relationship.

If two people with an age gap organically fall in love, however, I wouldn't suggest the research is a reason they shouldn't be together and marry. Patterns within groups don't predict individual success. Love and connection isn't so commonly available that I'd dismiss it based on a study.

Really? Are you a statistician?

Patterns in groups absolutely do predict individual outcomes... Within the 95 percent confidence interval they likely used to determine their sample size. That is why they do the study.

that's pretty shyty odds... And this isn't the only study that has confirmed this...despite what Hollywood and tabloids would like us to believe.

Sorry to burst some peoples bubbles.

October 13, 2015

Well, your relationship has a 95% chance or greater of ending in divorce compared to a same age person.
I have no doubt that there are women who need a relative 'dad' for some reason. Just like there are men who need a relative 'mom' in a relationship. There's a power disparity, and some people do actually prefer there be a disparity. Lets not get anyone confused though... and pretend those relationships are in any way equal or more likely to last, or anything else compared to those who are similar age.
If you don't care how long your marriage lasts, or even about getting married, then I guess those stats won't mean anything. *shrug*

I thought you said you had a PhD. Very surprising because YOUR interpretation of data and YOUR use of another piece of research without firstly analysing the environment and other factors is faulty. Here in the UK, everyone knows that an ad saying '95% of women 'agree' that x is great for you' doesn't mention the fact that the respondents have been given said item for free!

In this study, firstly, the sample size is 3000 - hardly a statistical weight when speaking of such a widespread occurrence like marriage. Also why marriage? is there a difference if we stayed together forever forsaking all other? As long as a minister and marriage certificate is exempt, we're fine eh?

Secondly, polled in one area of the US. We all know trends in anything are different from place to place. What if that area is a 'young' town? They most likely had far more people in one category than others. I know this because larger statistics are not as dramatic with the figures.

There is no mention of people's background and upbringing. Your trusted research will be the opposite in many other non western cultures and even more traditional wealthier communities in the western world. A study was done over here about age disparity across social classes in the UK. Turns out the 'poor' were more likely to marry partners close in age and divorce quicker. But there's always more to such studies.

I'm not saying the study itself is wrong for that sample area, I'm saying it's unreliable in context of this discussion. This is especially because you keep saying, 'your marriage is 95% more likely to end in divorce' as though you are completely certain of the facts. Disappointing really, I expected more from you!

A study shows that marriages with a black woman and white man are this much more successful than marriages between white woman and white man. Does this mean white couples shouldn't marry? Doesn't that sound ridiculous? But statistics say it.

So, yeah, that's what I think of your citing of that study. Rubbish.

October 13, 2015

Really? Are you a statistician?

Patterns in groups absolutely do predict individual outcomes... Within the 95 percent confidence interval they likely used to determine their sample size. That is why they do the study.

that's pretty shyty odds... And this isn't the only study that has confirmed this...despite what Hollywood and tabloids would like us to believe.

Sorry to burst some peoples bubbles.

Maybe I am

Research speaks to group patterns, not individual results. Some individuals will have positive outcomes. This particular research doesn't shed light on the factors that contribute to a positive or negative outcome within age gap groups.

October 13, 2015

Anyway...any older person who hits on a much younger person is attempting to prey on them or exploit a power imbalance. By default. That is why they do it. That is why they are attracted to them. That is why they sexualize relative children. It just so happens that more men do it than women because society condones or even encourages it.

They can't deal with someone their own age or close to it.

You're painting with a pretty wide brush. While I don't disagree with most of that statement I do dispute the use of "by default" and the word "any".

Take my situation. I'm 56 years old. I'm very much in love with a 20 year old co-worker, who has also become a very cherished friend. I have not told her of my feelings and never intend to, though I have good reasons to believe she knows. I didn't look for this, it just happened. It has NOTHING to do with "exploiting a power imbalance" nor am I "preying on her". I consider her my equal, she is amazingly smart, mature and self sufficient. She is also a single mother. I respect her more than any woman I've ever known.

I'm no pedophile. I hate the age difference. I curse it every day.

Sometimes things happen. I wish it hadn't, but it did. By your reasoning I'm a horrible perverted old man. She would tell you much different.

October 13, 2015

Jeez, read the thread please... I've been hit on by plenty of older men. I have always considered it repulsive and a betrayal.... Probably because I never have been abused or 'preyed' upon by older men. Men in my family don't date women young enough to be their daughters. We have no pedophiles in my family. In fact, I don't even think that any women in my family in the past two or three generations have even been raped. So I come at this from a perspective that is probably out of the ordinary compared to other women or families with considerable dysfunction. Heck, I can count on one hand the number of divorces in my family.

Anyway...any older person who hits on a much younger person is attempting to prey on them or exploit a power imbalance. By default. That is why they do it. That is why they are attracted to them. That is why they sexualize relative children. It just so happens that more men do it than women because society condones or even encourages it.

They can't deal with someone their own age or close to it.

Those who go after much older people... Same thing but in reverse. Maybe they were abused or preyed upon when young, and are seeking to deal with that by recreating the scenario. Or they like being daddied or mommied.

That you cannot see the offensiveness and arrogance in this makes me pause. Typically this kind of anger only comes from one who has experienced something negative (or is close to someone who has).

You broad brush is, quite simply, inaccurate. And perhaps looking up the actual definition of pedophile would be helpful. While I do not understand the appeal of a 55 year old man dating a 25 year old, that is certainly NOT a pedophile.

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