sanlucascerveza Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 Found out gf is 9 wks pregnant and sometimes am wondering if it is mine. I've asked her 3 times if it's mine and she said "of course I've only slept with you". But you never know. I have no reason to think she's cheated. Would a girl lie if she's been asked that question. Need re assurance.
oaks Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 I have no reason to think she's cheated. Good. So why did you need to ask her the second time? Also, congratulations! (or, Oops, depending on what you wanted.)
Andy_K Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 Don't they reckon about 5-10% of guys who think they're the dad actually aren't? Not to get you too worried
NeoGen85 Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 Why did he ask her multiple times? If he's a young single man who wasn't thinking about kids and surely doesn't want any most likely he'll ask until she says no.
Waffles Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 Feel free to look at the statistics. Don't they reckon about 5-10% of guys who think they're the dad actually aren't?It's higher than that I believe. There are a lot of ignorant fathers out there, and a lot of dishonest mothers. Maybe I'm just trying to scare you. I wonder what your exact motives are OP...
Chocolat Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 Found out gf is 9 wks pregnant and sometimes am wondering if it is mine. I've asked her 3 times if it's mine and she said "of course I've only slept with you". But you never know. I have no reason to think she's cheated. Would a girl lie if she's been asked that question. Need re assurance. You need reassurance? What does she need? Presumably, you are in this together.
denise_xo Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 Well, you have just stated that you don't believe she has cheated, so that would make it yours. If you're so much in doubt, have a paternity test done when the baby is born. Sounds to me like you're just looking for a way out of the situation, though. Like others have said, I expect she'd need a bit reassurance, too, rather than a partner who continuously questions her integrity.
vsmini Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 I would be PISSED if the guy I was with admitted that I've never given him a reason to cheat but was repeatedly badgering me on if it was his. It's an insult and would be weary of staying with a guy that had trust issues. We can't give you reassurance but it's best to do a paternity test when the baby is born so it can be put to rest and you can't worry about it anymore.
zengirl Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 I would be PISSED if the guy I was with admitted that I've never given him a reason to cheat but was repeatedly badgering me on if it was his. It's an insult and would be weary of staying with a guy that had trust issues. Seriously. I mean, I imagine the kind of person who would cheat would probably lie about it (makes sense) so in terms of "Would a girl lie about this?" . . . Well, maybe, if she's the kind of girl who cheats, yeah. But if you have no reason to believe your girlfriend cheats, then why on earth are you so worried? I don't get it. And it's really crappy to keep asking her.
oaks Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 Weird! Or he doesn't want to become a father in February (which isn't weird at all).
Jynxx Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 Paternity test, op. Don't let her or anyone else talk you out of it. In the mean time, assume it's yours but don't sign any documents until you're sure.
Casablanca Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 Maybe he is hoping deep down that she did cheat = kid not his and would be a welcome relief.
oldguy Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 (edited) Nothing brings a couple closer together than questioning the paternity of the baby your SO is carrying. If you think she was cheating you should have, at the very least, been more careful. I'm a bit of a prude but I don't like being second choice but that's my personal hang up. Seriously, you asked her 3 times and she calmly said, 'of course, you the only one I've been sleeping with'? I can't imagine this. I would have thought if I had posed that question even once to any woman I've ever known that I would have had to remove all sharp objects from the house before even thinking about sleeping there again. That just sounds like it should be at the top of the list in the; 'deal breaker' hand book. Basically you've said to her, 3 times, 'I think you may be a skanky, cheating, whoe'. I can not imagine why this girl isn't crying herself to sleep or wants to kill you, or both! Edited July 21, 2011 by oldguy
Enchanted Girl Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 You're an ass who just wants to get out of the responsibility of a kid. I'm sorry, but sleeping around means you may get STD's and get a girl pregnant and you just have to face the consequences of that. Either that or you should have stayed abstinent. I would understand if your girlfriend is the type to cheat, but if you think she cheated just because she's pregnant and obviously YOUR SPERM isn't the type that could EVER impregnate a woman so she must be wrong, then you're seriously delusional.
Art_Critic Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 Nothing brings a couple closer together than questioning the paternity of the baby your SO is carrying. If you think she was cheating you should have, at the very least, been more careful. I'm a bit of a prude but I don't like being second choice but that's my personal hang up. Seriously, you asked her 3 times and she calmly said, 'of course, you the only one I've been sleeping with'? I can't imagine this. I would have thought if I had posed that question even once to any woman I've ever known that I would have had to remove all sharp objects from the house before even thinking about sleeping there again. That just sounds like it should be at the top of the list in the; 'deal breaker' hand book. Basically you've said to her, 3 times, 'I think you may be a skanky, cheating, whoe'. I can not imagine why this girl isn't crying herself to sleep or wants to kill you, or both! Word up... the old man has it right.. You're an ass who just wants to get out of the responsibility of a kid. I'm sorry, but sleeping around means you may get STD's and get a girl pregnant and you just have to face the consequences of that. Either that or you should have stayed abstinent. I would understand if your girlfriend is the type to cheat, but if you think she cheated just because she's pregnant and obviously YOUR SPERM isn't the type that could EVER impregnate a woman so she must be wrong, then you're seriously delusional. I also think EG has it right too... I'd be willing to bet that there is no way in hell that the OP though she was sleeping with another guy when he let his load lose inside her.. only after she gets pregnant does he now doubt it...
sm1tten Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 Maybe he is hoping deep down that she did cheat = kid not his and would be a welcome relief. This is what I think too. Dude is looking for the escape hatch. His posting history indicates that he thought she was cheating before but couldn't find any evidence. Even he admitted that he might be paranoid.
Feelsgoodman Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 Found out gf is 9 wks pregnant and sometimes am wondering if it is mine. I've asked her 3 times if it's mine and she said "of course I've only slept with you". But you never know. I have no reason to think she's cheated. Would a girl lie if she's been asked that question. Need re assurance. Of course she would lie if it's not yours. Duh!!! Statistically speaking, 8-15% (depending on which study you choose to believe) of "fathers" are unknowingly raising other men's children. If you have no reasons to think she has cheated, stop harassing her and simply do a paternity test once the kid is born. That way you will know for certain. Just make sure your name is not listed in the kid's birth certificate until the test results are complete.
oaks Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 Can't help it: Oh. Wow. Everything about that (apart from the baby girl) is just scary. Poor kid.
StoneCold Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 Would a girl lie about somthing like that? sure...wouldnt have been the first time thats for sure. But if you dont think shes cheated then why is this entering your mind?
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