lalalandman Posted July 20, 2011 Posted July 20, 2011 So I ran into this chick I haven't seen for 5 years. Used to Have a crush on her. We had some texts, back and forth. Here's the last of it: Me: I get off around 3 everyday. Would be Nice to catch up with you sometime. Me: When are you Free? 7 hours later... Her: Oh the next 2 weeks are going to be really hectic for me because I'm moving. Me: Cool. It was good seeing you again though. Peace. Her: haha ok? Well just hit me up in a couple weeks if you want to hang out. Me: I won't. Good luck though. Her: haha ok bye
Rinas Posted July 20, 2011 Posted July 20, 2011 Well, you could have been a tad more kind about it, but otherwise it's reasonable to move on if there is no interest.
Author lalalandman Posted July 20, 2011 Author Posted July 20, 2011 thank you. I'm not great at being kind when I feel like i'm given the run around.
rafallus Posted July 20, 2011 Posted July 20, 2011 What made you think you are? This? 7 hours later...In case of people I haven't seen for a good while, "benefit of the doubt" situation is plausible. They can really be busy after all, and since they aren't really close, there is no reason to hold them to some extra standards yet. If they don't, I'll just get busy and forget, they will respond, when they can.
chuckles11 Posted July 20, 2011 Posted July 20, 2011 Yeah, I don't understand why you needed to get catty at the end. You should have just replied with "ok" or "great" and never contacted her again. The way you replied just lets her know that you were really upset by her rejection of you.
Author lalalandman Posted July 20, 2011 Author Posted July 20, 2011 Sorry but I'm quite proud of my exit
DuskCrush Posted July 20, 2011 Posted July 20, 2011 Lol...yeah your exit was funny. I think you did good.
Author lalalandman Posted July 20, 2011 Author Posted July 20, 2011 I'll hit her up in2 weeks and ask her out. Like nothing happened. Fun times.
sm1tten Posted July 20, 2011 Posted July 20, 2011 Let us know how that goes. I'd be surprised if she answered.
catchthedrift Posted July 20, 2011 Posted July 20, 2011 She didn't think you were flirticious. Maybe she just thought you wanted to hang out as friends. After all, she is busy in her life at the moment and offered for you to contact her after. You wrote that you wont. That is a huge turn off to her. I think you blew it. I have this friend who sometimes writes to me on facebook chat or wherever, and when I dont reply right away he writes "i hate you, you dont like me, cause you dont reply"... seems to me you have a similar issue... its not like you guys have been dating or so.. you just reconnected... she has a life... get over it, accept it or move on, because if you dont have the patience now it shows you are no good bf-material!
Author lalalandman Posted July 20, 2011 Author Posted July 20, 2011 Im not expecting much. But I don't know what you mean by move on. Move on from what Lol?? It's not a big thing. I'll hit her up and see what happens. I'll let you all know
catchthedrift Posted July 20, 2011 Posted July 20, 2011 Im not expecting much. But I don't know what you mean by move on. Move on from what Lol?? It's not a big thing. I'll hit her up and see what happens. I'll let you all know I just meant that her text wasn't bad and yours was mean. I wouldn't expect much and I wouldn't hit her up anymore because she probably didn't think it was funny, unless she is under 20.
Author lalalandman Posted July 20, 2011 Author Posted July 20, 2011 Well I guess we'll just wait and see right?
Author lalalandman Posted July 20, 2011 Author Posted July 20, 2011 Btw she did think it was funny. See how she laughed at the end?
Imajerk17 Posted July 20, 2011 Posted July 20, 2011 Eh maybe she thinks you're joking, maybe it came across that you weren't interested, depends on the girl and how you came across to her. Hard to go from sending a text like that to asking her to hang out though. A good response back to her is: "PS, I like sarcasm." That way she'll have some idea that you were joking, without you looking weak or wussy.
TeeStar Posted July 20, 2011 Posted July 20, 2011 You didn't really ask a question, so we can only project our thoughts on the exchange. "7 hours later" - She may have been busy (& focused) at work, studying, preparing & packing to move...etc... You're acting as if she owes it to you, to respond straight away. She doesn't. You hadn't see each other in 5 years & just got re-acquainted. I'm currently moving apartment (1.5 weeks to go) & it really is busy, stressful & hectic. (plus working) I've had to reschedule plans with (actual) friends as there is just not enough time in the day. - She left the ball in your court when she said to contact her after, "if you want to hang out" That is not giving someone the run around. You need to remember that at the moment you guys are acquaintances. Your "exit" was very immature. It's pathetically amusing how you said you "won't" contact her in 2 weeks when it's what she suggested anyway.
Imajerk17 Posted July 20, 2011 Posted July 20, 2011 (edited) Rule #117: Don't try to be so clever that you make life difficult for yourself. Especially in texts. Think about this in relation to the text you sent. Edited July 20, 2011 by Imajerk17
TeeStar Posted July 20, 2011 Posted July 20, 2011 oh I forgot, you did ask her "when are you free" she told you, it clearly wasn't the response you wanted so you threw your toys out the pram.
sm1tten Posted July 20, 2011 Posted July 20, 2011 Btw she did think it was funny. No, she didn't. She thought you were weird.
Author lalalandman Posted July 20, 2011 Author Posted July 20, 2011 I'm just sort of amused by some of the comments here. If she doesn't respond then no big deal. I'm sorry that I'm just a little more out there with my reactions to certain circumstances. Maybe I'm doing myself a favor and some of you are jealous because you didn't have the guts to say what's on your mind. Instead you may have held back and let the girl just walk over you.
Author lalalandman Posted July 20, 2011 Author Posted July 20, 2011 When one door closes another opens. It's always happened for me. Maybe I'm just better at flushing out the scrap
chuckles11 Posted July 20, 2011 Posted July 20, 2011 (edited) I'm just sort of amused by some of the comments here. If she doesn't respond then no big deal. I'm sorry that I'm just a little more out there with my reactions to certain circumstances. Maybe I'm doing myself a favor and some of you are jealous because you didn't have the guts to say what's on your mind. Instead you may have held back and let the girl just walk over you. Well, I can't speak for anyone else...but I'm not jealous, I just don't understand what you think you accomplished. You told off a girl who had already indicated to you that she had little to no interest in seeing you again. If anything, you probably gave her a slight ego boost by letting her know that being rejected by her affected you. If your message to her was part of some larger effort that you are making to start standing up for yourself and develop a backbone, congratulations. Otherwise, what you did was the dating equivalent of yelling, "You can't fire me! I quit!" Edited July 20, 2011 by chuckles11
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