flirtatwork Posted July 17, 2011 Posted July 17, 2011 I met this girl at work and I started very early to like her. I began flirting with her alot and she liked it and even flirted back. It has been so much fun to go to work because I know she'll be there and Ill get to flirt. She often gives me a ride home cuz I dont have license atm. And we talk alot in the car and then she unfortunately has to go to whatever she has to do. Why unfortunately? Because I really want to be with her longer and spend time with her. Soo I asked her to have a ice-cream with me one day and we decided a day and that worked out really well, we went to the mall and we had a great time. I started texting her a little and began showing more and more interest in her. She told me she was going out of town for one week to this festival thing and okay she is there right now. The last two days before she went I tried to see her as often as I could, I went to work to see her when she was working, and she shows all signs of liking that and we hug often and all (the touch barrier has been broken) I often give her massages. I just tried to show her that I care about her and she appreciates it. She recently started working at a small coffehouse as a part job and the day before she left I went there and had a coffee, and when I was about to go she said "wait" and gave me a kiss on the chin and I did the same. Sooo I know she clearly likes me at some level, but the thing is now I have been trying to text her and starting conversations like how are you doing, how's the festival and all those and I seem never to get an decent answer and when I get an answer I'll just get "all good, but my phone keeps dying atm" and when I call and she doesnt answer she wont call back to talk to me even when her phone is obviously on. She answered a call yesterday and I heard there were concerts in the background and she obviously couldnt speak and just hang up, but didnt call back not even the day after. She is coming home tomorrow I think and we will work together on Tuesday or Wednesday. This confuses me so much, I dont want to be sending to many texts or calling to often so, when she does this I dont call or text for some time and in the meantime I hope she calls or texts or I think about her. I dont think she knows how much I like her. What should I do? What should I say, should I ask why she isnt returning my calls or replying my texts? The time I have known her she hasnt been very actively texting me or calling and answering phone calls but when I am with her she acts so diffirent. If I would be getting texts or see missed call on my phone I would immediately call back doesnt matter who it is, that is why it is confusing. Is she playing games?? Please help
Author flirtatwork Posted July 17, 2011 Author Posted July 17, 2011 Had an idea just to call her when I think she's back and ask her out or something. I don't really know what to do on the date with her.. Nr. 1 because she has a car and I dont, I think it doesnt matter but is it lame to ask out on a date and she drives. . Im sure she's okay with driving and I would even pay gas and everything. We have already gone and done something together. I really just want to hang out or go to her place to watch a movie or something, something that we do alone and note in a hurry just spend time together. I think its stupid to go to the movies on the first dates because you dont really talk much while in cinema do ya? Do you have any ideas? And I really want to break the ice and tell her that I like her at some point, maybe after a good night or something, do you have any ideas for this? Where to take her, what to do with her and how to confront her with my feelings?
OrangeSnack Posted July 17, 2011 Posted July 17, 2011 you sound like you're in the same boat as me hahaha. I also met someone recently and i just can't get over her. Long story short we went out and afterwards she agreed to a second date. However, i've been burned before where a lot of them have flaked. I tried to text her over the weekend and I even tried calling her. No responses. I mean she could be out of town, but if she was interested she would either pickup or call back/text back. My plan was to, (most likely she will cancel on me for the second date), call her or text her in a few days and just say hey i know you're busy but when you're free lets grab some coffee. If she calls back, Great, you can break the ice and admit that you have feelings for her. If she doesn't call back, move on, stop wasting your time. I dont know if this helped but if you guys have better ideas please post'em
sm1tten Posted July 18, 2011 Posted July 18, 2011 How do you know her phone is "obviously on?" But most importantly, she was busy and you probably should have just left it to a couple of "hope you're having fun" texts instead of trying so hard to reach her while she was away. I would probably just wait until Tuesday to talk to her.
robdrm32 Posted July 18, 2011 Posted July 18, 2011 dont contact her again and on tuesday let her come to you. don't be overly nice, just keep yourself occupied and be receptive, but don't initiate flirting or conversations. If she can't be bothered to return a call then she isn't making an effort. And thats when you stop putting effort in. Make her wonder about how much you like her.
Author flirtatwork Posted July 18, 2011 Author Posted July 18, 2011 How do you know her phone is "obviously on?" But most importantly, she was busy and you probably should have just left it to a couple of "hope you're having fun" texts instead of trying so hard to reach her while she was away. I would probably just wait until Tuesday to talk to her. You have a point there about the phone obviously on, I didnt really know it, I just assumed that cuz the phone rang didnt go straight to voicemail when I tried to reach her. I just tried to call two times, maybe that is much. I just thought about what I would like if I were in the same position, if I were on a trip I would like being called by a girl or texted while I have some spear time. Maybe she was busy all the time. dont contact her again and on tuesday let her come to you. don't be overly nice, just keep yourself occupied and be receptive, but don't initiate flirting or conversations. If she can't be bothered to return a call then she isn't making an effort. And thats when you stop putting effort in. Make her wonder about how much you like her. Okay, I will not contact her When at work, It's so frustrating letting her come to me, because it's like an addiction talking to her LOL but I have done it before and it was a nice feeling, what about if she initiates conversations should I then maybe ask her out or flirt with her? When I did this before she thought something was wrong because I wasnt all over her if you know what I mean and she was interested in what I was thinking and asking if everything was okay. What do you mean make her wonder how much I like her?
Author flirtatwork Posted July 18, 2011 Author Posted July 18, 2011 If she calls back, Great, you can break the ice and admit that you have feelings for her. If she doesn't call back, move on, stop wasting your time. I dont know if this helped but if you guys have better ideas please post'em Happy to hear that someone is in the same position as me But how should I say it? How do you admit that you have feelings for someone, lol, I have an idea of what I would say but, if someone else would say what they would, then I know Im not going to say something stupid.
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