jms_nov28 Posted July 14, 2011 Posted July 14, 2011 Here's the deal, during the Spring semester there was this really cute girl that was taking Cal 3 before my class, so I would see her occasionally like 1 time a month based on right timing I guess? (haha) anyways, I walked her to her car sometimes or the local food court in my Uni. however I couldn't stay for lunch or anything like that since it was crucial that I couldn't miss class. She said she was going to take my Physic class this summer, the same one I'm taking and sounded pleased to know I signed up for it too. Right after that day I didn't see her again (semester ended), that was just before I was going to ask her for her number. Well Summer II comes around, she wasn't in my class. So I facebooked her name and found we had a mutual friend. I asked him what happened with Physics, he said she couldn't afford signing up (understandable). So then I began to look back, and from the times we've seen each-other I know there was a mutual attraction. I asked my friend if she had a boyfriend he said no. He then asked me if I wanted her number and I said "nah I don't wanna come off as a creep/stalker". However I began to wonder, and the odds of me seeing this chick again are well, very slim, probably non-existant. So I have three choices: 1) Send her a message on FB (not friending her, just a message) and asking her out. 2) Getting her number from mutual friend and texting her, saying who I am and such? 3) Getting her number, and calling her keeping it short on who I am and how I got the number, then asking her out on a date. Hopefully I didn't screw this up already by not asking for her digits the last time I saw her.
Cee Posted July 14, 2011 Posted July 14, 2011 Another thing to do is ask the friend to get permission from her to give you her number. The nice part about the mutual friend thing is she'll know that you have friends in common. And might make you less of a stranger and more of a friend of a friend. If you don't want to hassle the friend, then send a Facebook message although you are still stuck trying to get her number.
Dust Posted July 14, 2011 Posted July 14, 2011 If this friend is single and she is a cute chick it’s not a great idea to have him talking to her. If he has gf and you trust him then go ahead if he knows her it’s a good way to get her number. You could also get the number on fb and ask her out. Really you moved very slow on all of this and should have just asked her out in person when you had the chance. Notice I didn’t say you should have got her number. You would have got her number out of asking her out. If you just got her number you’d be in the same situation you are now but one step closer. It’s best to ask a girl out in person, but since you won’t see her in person for a while then just go ahead and ask her out today on the phone.
Author jms_nov28 Posted July 14, 2011 Author Posted July 14, 2011 If this friend is single and she is a cute chick it’s not a great idea to have him talking to her. If he has gf and you trust him then go ahead if he knows her it’s a good way to get her number. You could also get the number on fb and ask her out. Really you moved very slow on all of this and should have just asked her out in person when you had the chance. Notice I didn’t say you should have got her number. You would have got her number out of asking her out. If you just got her number you’d be in the same situation you are now but one step closer. It’s best to ask a girl out in person, but since you won’t see her in person for a while then just go ahead and ask her out today on the phone. I know I moved a bit too slow, I don't usually act this way. I think in this situation I did because well, I hardly saw her and when I did that was the only time it crossed my mind, until later on that is. This mutual friend, well I just know him because we took one class in the past before, thats as far as the friendship goes (lol). But yeah he has a girlfriend (hot one too) so I doubt he'll do anything even though he did comment on this by saying how cute and sweet this girl is (the one I'm pursing). I feel like I'm overanalyzing this haha. I mean, if I FB'd her I don't want it to get awkward you know, but then again I feel like its my best shot as being individual here; instead of getting her number from said friend (running the risk of her feeling creeped out).
Dust Posted July 14, 2011 Posted July 14, 2011 I know I moved a bit too slow, I don't usually act this way. I think in this situation I did because well, I hardly saw her and when I did that was the only time it crossed my mind, until later on that is. This mutual friend, well I just know him because we took one class in the past before, thats as far as the friendship goes (lol). But yeah he has a girlfriend (hot one too) so I doubt he'll do anything even though he did comment on this by saying how cute and sweet this girl is (the one I'm pursing). I feel like I'm overanalyzing this haha. I mean, if I FB'd her I don't want it to get awkward you know, but then again I feel like its my best shot as being individual here; instead of getting her number from said friend (running the risk of her feeling creeped out). You can’t avoid creeping a girl out. In fact the moment you start doing things to avoid creeping some one out is precisely when you become creepy. Worrying about creeping her out is exactly what got you in this mess to begin with. Had you not been so worried it would have been natural for you to just ask her out in person and that is the coolest thing to do. Asking some one out on fb is pretty lame but probably your best bet. So ask her for her number on fb. She’ll probably just give you the number and not think much of it. The number might even be in her fb info so just friend her. Once you get her number just call her and ask her out. Make it short and sweet. “Hey its ________ hows it going, lets get dinner tonight.” Good luck creep.
Author jms_nov28 Posted July 14, 2011 Author Posted July 14, 2011 You can’t avoid creeping a girl out. In fact the moment you start doing things to avoid creeping some one out is precisely when you become creepy. Worrying about creeping her out is exactly what got you in this mess to begin with. Had you not been so worried it would have been natural for you to just ask her out in person and that is the coolest thing to do. Asking some one out on fb is pretty lame but probably your best bet. So ask her for her number on fb. She’ll probably just give you the number and not think much of it. The number might even be in her fb info so just friend her. Once you get her number just call her and ask her out. Make it short and sweet. “Hey its ________ hows it going, lets get dinner tonight.” Good luck creep. You're right lol Yeah, I'm normally cool about this, but ehhh I sort of dug myself into this mess lol. Yeah, I'll FB message her, and ask her out then. I feel its my best best, taking a risk! muwhahah!! Sincerely, -this creep
Sweetheartt Posted July 14, 2011 Posted July 14, 2011 Here's the deal, during the Spring semester there was this really cute girl that was taking Cal 3 before my class, so I would see her occasionally like 1 time a month based on right timing I guess? (haha) anyways, I walked her to her car sometimes or the local food court in my Uni. however I couldn't stay for lunch or anything like that since it was crucial that I couldn't miss class. She said she was going to take my Physic class this summer, the same one I'm taking and sounded pleased to know I signed up for it too. Right after that day I didn't see her again (semester ended), that was just before I was going to ask her for her number. Well Summer II comes around, she wasn't in my class. So I facebooked her name and found we had a mutual friend. I asked him what happened with Physics, he said she couldn't afford signing up (understandable). So then I began to look back, and from the times we've seen each-other I know there was a mutual attraction. I asked my friend if she had a boyfriend he said no. He then asked me if I wanted her number and I said "nah I don't wanna come off as a creep/stalker". However I began to wonder, and the odds of me seeing this chick again are well, very slim, probably non-existant. So I have three choices: 1) Send her a message on FB (not friending her, just a message) and asking her out. 2) Getting her number from mutual friend and texting her, saying who I am and such? 3) Getting her number, and calling her keeping it short on who I am and how I got the number, then asking her out on a date. Hopefully I didn't screw this up already by not asking for her digits the last time I saw her. As a girl I get friend requests & guys asking me out on FB all the time lol. I dont really care for it because they all come off the same to me. I think u should just send a msg on FB & then take it from there.
Dust Posted July 14, 2011 Posted July 14, 2011 You're right lol Yeah, I'm normally cool about this, but ehhh I sort of dug myself into this mess lol. Yeah, I'll FB message her, and ask her out then. I feel its my best best, taking a risk! muwhahah!! Sincerely, -this creep As a girl I get friend requests & guys asking me out on FB all the time lol. I dont really care for it because they all come off the same to me. I think u should just send a msg on FB & then take it from there. Friend her on fb first since her number might be in the info. If its not then send her a nice msg. At the end of the fb msg ask her for her number. Something like “Hey I always had fun talking to you about ________ after _______. What’s you phone number?” Then ask her out on the phone through a call not txt, you know like the title to this thread “asking a girl out on the phone.” It’s not ideal but acting now is better then waiting for some time that may never come.
Author jms_nov28 Posted July 14, 2011 Author Posted July 14, 2011 I'll go ahead and friend her, then send her a message asking for her number and what not. Its my best bet.
nyc_guy2003 Posted July 14, 2011 Posted July 14, 2011 I would ask the friend for her email address and send an email instead. FB messaging is just one step above texting which is amateur hour. But calling first is too risky since there are many ways to screw up a phone conversation if you don't know her too well.
Casablanca Posted July 14, 2011 Posted July 14, 2011 Friend her on fb first since her number might be in the info. If its not then send her a nice msg. At the end of the fb msg ask her for her number. Something like “Hey I always had fun talking to you about ________ after _______. What’s you phone number?” Then ask her out on the phone through a call not txt, you know like the title to this thread “asking a girl out on the phone.” It’s not ideal but acting now is better then waiting for some time that may never come. THIS^^ Or ask her to meet up for lunch one day to "catch up" (don't put it like that, but that is the general message you want to get across) and go from there, to get her number
stepka Posted July 15, 2011 Posted July 15, 2011 I think you should send her a message on FB mention your mutual friend and ask her if it's ok for you to call her and ask for her number and also if she wants to be FB friends. Then if she gives you her number you can compare it with the number that your friend gave you and see if they match up, and it will be less creepy if she gives you the number. I don't know though, it seems like there's a lot of overblown paranoia about coming off creepy these days. If she's interested, you're not creepy--but if she's not, then anything you do will be labeled. But it sounds like she is interested.
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