delilah123 Posted July 11, 2011 Posted July 11, 2011 If you read my other post from this morning you might now that I am recently venturing back out into the dating world and man has this site thrown me off. I have only ever slept with two people, both of with I was in serious committed relationships. I'm fun in bed but only once I'm actually have sex haha! I have no problem going down on a guy etc. who I'm seeing, but I am just not interested in having sex with someone I'm not serious with. I don't want peoples opinions on this per say, because it's what I value end of story. SO I'm guess it just got me really curious, because so many people here say they'd bail after the 4th date if they didn't get sex. I probably wouldn't feel comfortable having sex for at least 6 weeks or if we moved fast, at least until we were exclusive and 'committed'. If I'm only 21 and the guys I'm interested in are sort of between 22-26, do you think that if I just said that I've only had sex with two other partners so it isn't something I take that lightly.. and was v sexual in other ways with them, that they wouldn't just bail because obviously (and from the list of reasons guys have given here) I therefore must be: "bad in bed, prude, never going to have sex with them, attention whore, not adventurous etc list goes on"!! I don't know how to get across that I am great in bed I'm just not keen to jump into bed! I wasn't even concered about this before (because both those previous guys never pressured me for it), but all the guys on this site seem to feel that sex after the 3rd or 4th date is the longest they'll wait no matter how cool the chick is. So am I really going to miss out on all but the Christian guys?
rafallus Posted July 11, 2011 Posted July 11, 2011 I don't know how to get across that I am great in bed I'm just not keen to jump into bed! I wasn't even concered about this before (because both those previous guys never pressured me for it), but all the guys on this site seem to feel that sex after the 3rd or 4th date is the longest they'll wait no matter how cool the chick is. So am I really going to miss out on all but the Christian guys? That's not, how it works. Actually, there's no such thing as "waiting for the girl to put out". Ideally, you'll be hit on and made move on from the very first date, it's just that logistics may not be right for lay, or you aren't aroused enough for it to happen.
musemaj11 Posted July 11, 2011 Posted July 11, 2011 Guys who expect sex within the first 4 dates are like girls who expect to be paid for within the first 4 dates. They are not worth your time.
oldguy Posted July 11, 2011 Posted July 11, 2011 I wouldn't be to concerned about some of the arbitrary BS you are going to read here or most SMS, this isn't exactly the real world or at least no a good representation of it in most cases.This is an accumulation of people, many of which would never hang out together otherwise, (sorry), and many of us you would not hang out with in the real world anyway. That's not to say there are not a lot of VERY good people here & some very interesting people here but like most big cities for instance, it takes all types to make it up & some you would normally avoid in the real world. So again, I wouldn't get to wrapped up in some of the arbitrary BS you might stumble across here. Welcome to the Zoo, enjoy yurself but don't feed the animals Does that help?
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