Mr. Savage Posted July 9, 2011 Posted July 9, 2011 I met a really cute girl at the bar last night. We shot pool toghether and I got to know her a little bit. I then asked if she was seeing anyone and she said she had a boyfriend but it wasn't going well in their relationship. She gave me her phone number and then her and her friend had to leave. I texted her later asking how her night was going, I was kinda drunk. She responded this morning to the text. How would you guys interpret (sp?) the whole she has a boyfriend but it's not going well thing. I don't have much experience in the field. Would you persue this girl?
carhill Posted July 9, 2011 Posted July 9, 2011 Pursue her for what? IME, such disclosures from women have served as orbit insertion attempts. A few words to create opportunity.
Lucky_One Posted July 9, 2011 Posted July 9, 2011 I'd test her back and say something along the lines of "Enjoyed last night. Let me know when you aren't dating anyone."
Nexus One Posted July 9, 2011 Posted July 9, 2011 (edited) No I wouldn't pursue her, because she has a boyfriend. I don't want to come between two lovers, even or especially when things between them are already shaky, because inserting yourself into the picture might be the last drop that causes them to break up. Also, she could be using you as a rebound on the backburner. Another thing is that I think it's shady when girls say "but things aren't going that well right now between me and my boyfriend". I then tend to think, what are you implying to me, that you're prepared to cheat on him with me? Or the, "yeah I have a boyfriend, but we're not serious right now", but you mentioned earlier that you were buying a house together, what are you implying? Who are you fooling? Additionally I don't want to be "the guy on the side", not only for ethical reasons, but do they think I'm going to share her with another guy? I have no idea what some girls are thinking, I get the feeling that many of them are used to different type of guys. And it almost seems that that type of guy has become the standard in society. It's actually worth feeling sorry over for them, because then that's probably the only type of guy they know. Edited July 9, 2011 by Nexus One
Author Mr. Savage Posted July 9, 2011 Author Posted July 9, 2011 Thanks guys. I'm gonna back off. She has my number too so maybe down the road if she's single she will get ahold of me. Or not, no biggie.
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