k100danny Posted July 9, 2011 Posted July 9, 2011 Basically i have been dating this girl for a short while, we have been friends for a long time and she has always been very honest with me to the point were i sometimes wish she wasnt haha. well around a year ago she split with her ex of 5 years, she said the relationship was basically over for the last year also, now obviously she has some of the same friends and she is still friendly with his sister ect and i know the speak from time to time as they have a dog together and she lets him take the dog for the weekend ect. well recently she helped him out short term financially which i think is fine as there dont seem to be any feelings on her part anyway but he has now asked her if he can take her for dinner to say thank you and repay her the money, basically she said she agreed as his little girl wanted to see her and she has seen her grow up ect which is understandable. she did tell me beforehand about this and said there is nothing in it, she wouldnt have gone if it hadnt have been for the girl wanting to see her and felt she couldnt say no. now when she told me and asked how i felt about it i said i was unsure of how to feel about it but i understood (i think) i did admit that it bothered me slightly but in no way have made out i would like her not to go. do you think it unreasonable to be jealous or mad about this? this is my first relationship in a few years and only my second serious relationship. ive never had to deal with an ex before. any help much appreciated.
chuckles11 Posted July 9, 2011 Posted July 9, 2011 Basically i have been dating this girl for a short while, we have been friends for a long time and she has always been very honest with me to the point were i sometimes wish she wasnt haha. well around a year ago she split with her ex of 5 years, she said the relationship was basically over for the last year also, now obviously she has some of the same friends and she is still friendly with his sister ect and i know the speak from time to time as they have a dog together and she lets him take the dog for the weekend ect. well recently she helped him out short term financially which i think is fine as there dont seem to be any feelings on her part anyway but he has now asked her if he can take her for dinner to say thank you and repay her the money, basically she said she agreed as his little girl wanted to see her and she has seen her grow up ect which is understandable. she did tell me beforehand about this and said there is nothing in it, she wouldnt have gone if it hadnt have been for the girl wanting to see her and felt she couldnt say no. now when she told me and asked how i felt about it i said i was unsure of how to feel about it but i understood (i think) i did admit that it bothered me slightly but in no way have made out i would like her not to go. do you think it unreasonable to be jealous or mad about this? this is my first relationship in a few years and only my second serious relationship. ive never had to deal with an ex before. any help much appreciated. I think your feelings are justified. She's way closer to her ex than I would be comfortable with. You've already told her your ok with it though, so all you can do is be more vigilant in the future.
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