sbradford2 Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 Hi you guys. I am not too sure which category this story belongs in but I guess this one is fine. Well me and my kids father have been on and off for about 10 years now. Yeah I know what you are probably thinking. But I am in no hurry to get married or at this point even care. I have trust issues when it comes to him because of him sneaking around behind my back in the past and his cheating ways. Even though I know that it is going to be hard I feel that I may somehow rebuild trust in him again. So that part I am not too worried about anymore. The part that I am however is that ever since I have known him he has always been really bad with his money. He would work a 40 hour week job out in the hot sun, get paid on Friday and is broke by Tuesday morning. Out of his paycheck he gives me a little something because I get child support from him so thats not the issue. But whatever it is that he has left he completely blows it. Now I must admit that he does have habits. Drinking and smoking but he is so irresponsible. I mean he will actually spend his last knowing that he is going to need money to carry him through to the next week so that he can buy his lunch and get back and forth to work. But he will actually spend his last and then come to me and ask for money. I fuss and argue about it but I still give it to him because I don't like him to be mad at me. He will even ask me to buy his beer when he gets off of work! I feel like he takes me for granted. I have put up with this for so many years and I am so tired of it. I do love him but the main thing that I am having a problem with is understanding how much should you give the one you love. I can't ever seem to have a chance to ask him for anything because he is always asking me. We have talked over and over about saving and he blames me for not starting an account for him. He says that he does not want to start the account himself because child support may take it. I have my own account and I try to hold on to what I have because its been so hard. For some reason I always feel as if I am giving so much of myself being with him and not getting much in return. Am I being selfish? Right now he is not making much on his job but I told him that he should still save for a rainy day but his excuse is that he is not making enough money to save. Sometimes I feel bad because since he is my kids father I feel that I am obligated to help him. It is so weird because I know that if someone came to me with this type of situation, I am pretty sure of some of the things that I would say to her. Is it wrong for me to not want to marry him because of his money issues even though he is my kids father or is this something that I should overlook and just accept the fact that I am the responsible one in this relationship and that is ok.
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