dflight12 Posted July 5, 2011 Posted July 5, 2011 Girl i've been hanging out with says i don;t treat her right and says i'm an ******* sometimes. She always says I'm selfish. She lives 3 hours away but we've been hanging out like every other week. Last time she came to my area I didn;t see her. She said "oh its funny how you act when you don;t get what you want". I told her I miss her and want to see her but I;m not going to change who I am. She was fine seeing me for the few months before that. PArt of me thinks she is just trying to manipulate me into thinking its all my fault when she reallly is seeing another guy. Which is fine I'm not going to be angry, I just want to know whats going on. She is kind of making excuses that she never had before. She never used to be that busy at work and always wanted to hang out. I feel like I know she isn;t interested anymore or maybe it is a hunch. I just kind of want a second opinion so I can get my balls back. She keeps making it seem like its my fault and I'd still like to see her if that is really the case. But I've had girls pull this on me before. She always says she doesn;t have time for my games anymore. Ughhhhh.
thatone Posted July 5, 2011 Posted July 5, 2011 Part of me thinks she is just trying to manipulate me into thinking its all my fault when she reallly is seeing another guy. about 9 times out of 10, that's the correct assumption. call her on her bullsh*t. tell her to stop trying to blame you for whatever it is she's thinking and speak her mind.
Yookie Posted July 5, 2011 Posted July 5, 2011 Girl i've been hanging out with says i don;t treat her right and says i'm an ******* sometimes. She always says I'm selfish. She lives 3 hours away but we've been hanging out like every other week. Last time she came to my area I didn;t see her. She said "oh its funny how you act when you don;t get what you want". I told her I miss her and want to see her but I;m not going to change who I am. She was fine seeing me for the few months before that. PArt of me thinks she is just trying to manipulate me into thinking its all my fault when she reallly is seeing another guy. Which is fine I'm not going to be angry, I just want to know whats going on. She is kind of making excuses that she never had before. She never used to be that busy at work and always wanted to hang out. I feel like I know she isn;t interested anymore or maybe it is a hunch. I just kind of want a second opinion so I can get my balls back. She keeps making it seem like its my fault and I'd still like to see her if that is really the case. But I've had girls pull this on me before. She always says she doesn;t have time for my games anymore. Ughhhhh. You're being too vague for me to understand what the issue is exactly. She thinks you're selfish about what exactly? Is she the one driving 3 hours to see you and you wont reciprocate or what?. You say that you won't change... wont change what? What exactly is she asking for? You are absolutely right she isn't interested in you anymore if you guys don't get whatever the issue is resolved. She's calling you out about it plainly so either you will have to compromise or just end the relationship if you two can't see eye to eye. There is no evidence of another man here, just her expressing to you that she's feels ill treated. Did she give you any examples of what you did that makes her feel that way?
thatone Posted July 6, 2011 Posted July 6, 2011 come on, take the blinders off. there is evidence galore. this is stereotypical dishonest female behavior. she is doing something that she doesn't want him to know about and is desperately trying to figure out a way in her own mind to blame him for it. and what would that be other than another man? no he doesn't have to compromise. he has to do nothing, even less than he does now as a matter of fact. the proper response on his part to her getting upset about the same situation that has existed for 3 months is to ignore her complaints entirely, because the only sure thing such women respond to is fear of rejection.
Author dflight12 Posted July 14, 2011 Author Posted July 14, 2011 She says I don't care about her. She says I don't try to get to know her. Says I''m not nice. I'm no don juan but thats just false. Ive visited her a few times, she has visited me more since her family is here. She always tries to start arguments over "technicalities" in our text convos over what we meant when we said "x". And what I dont understand is she texts me all the time and I will try to just let her go and not talk to her but she just keeps texting me. Then like last week, she comes home for the weekend and I invite at my house since I was having a party and she flakes out. I then call her out on it and we get into a big name calling fight. Basically I find inconsistencies in her excuses lately. And from experience thats bad news. EG. she told me she couldnt go to our alma maters summer fest because she had nowhere to stay. I told her my brother is going we could stay with him. Then she says after that, Oh i think im going to pittsbrgh and have to be back saturday anyways. Like she brought it up, wtf??? But the part that is confusing is she is still chasing me. whhatever lol
Author dflight12 Posted July 14, 2011 Author Posted July 14, 2011 And one last tidbit. about 2 months ago after I visited her it ended weird when I left. Kind of awkward. So i didnt talk to her for 2 weeks. Then she comes home and was crying saying how much she liked me and was worried she was going to lose me etc.. But I just don't believe her. Seems the only way I win is by ignoring her. Its sad some gals are like that.
iJester Posted July 14, 2011 Posted July 14, 2011 After reading your post, I was going to tell you to ignore her, but then I just read your most recent post. Anyway, ignore her and keep ****ing her if she comes around, but start looking for other women. When you find a good one, drop her completely.
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