Author pattiech Posted June 26, 2011 Author Posted June 26, 2011 2. he told you he'd call you later (yesterday) and didn't call till this morning? lol especially when he's with his ex?? not cool. I know I am not happy about that. I have texted him loads today asking what bands he's seen and only had one reply. He told me he's hardly got any charge left on his phone and there's nowhere to charge it up so he doesn't want me to worry if he doesn't reply. He's also actually asked me to stop texting him and calling him as it's using up his phone's power. When I spoke to him last I asked if his ex was with him. He said she's at the bar getting drinks. His two friends were watching a band that they don't like so it was just the two of them. This was at around 2pm and I was cross that he was drinking with her so early. They have a history and despite them now being broke up and BOTH in new relationships do you think they will get a connectioon again p- sepnding all this time together drinking, having fun, It's making me sick.
Jono85 Posted June 26, 2011 Posted June 26, 2011 I know I am not happy about that. I have texted him loads today asking what bands he's seen and only had one reply. He told me he's hardly got any charge left on his phone and there's nowhere to charge it up so he doesn't want me to worry if he doesn't reply. He's also actually asked me to stop texting him and calling him as it's using up his phone's power. When I spoke to him last I asked if his ex was with him. He said she's at the bar getting drinks. His two friends were watching a band that they don't like so it was just the two of them. This was at around 2pm and I was cross that he was drinking with her so early. They have a history and despite them now being broke up and BOTH in new relationships do you think they will get a connectioon again p- sepnding all this time together drinking, having fun, It's making me sick. if i were in your shoes, i'd leave him. seriously. 1. the whole weekend with an ex situation that he's clearly still friends with (he told you, and lied, that his friendship was fading with his ex a few weeks ago or whatever...CLEARLY its very strong...) 2. you said they were on and off for 3 years. that's not good at all. especially the on and off part. that means they often breakup and always end up getting back with eachother. this was the exact same situation as my recent ex. they're back together now after a 7 month break where for most of it she was with me, told me she loved me, yada yada yada. 3. he told you he'd call you later yesterday and didn't till today?? when he KNOWS that YOU KNOW he's with his ex?? that's pretty bad. 4. he seems very immature and is trying to get a rise out of you. why did he even have to tell you his other friends are somewhere else and he's drinking with his ex together alone. it just comes off like he wants you to be worried. and stop texting him...it's annoying for us. when we're off enjoying ourselves and all you're doing is texting him. but please respect yourself here, smarten up, and end things. if you wants you bad enough he'll cut ties with this ex and stop hanging with her. right now he's closer with her than you and doesn't want to change that.
Author pattiech Posted June 26, 2011 Author Posted June 26, 2011 4. he seems very immature and is trying to get a rise out of you. why did he even have to tell you his other friends are somewhere else and he's drinking with his ex together alone. it just comes off like he wants you to be worried. . I asked to speak to one of his friends and that's why he had to tell me he wasn't there. I'm not even sure they're even hanging out together there. His two friends may just be off doing their own things the whole time leaving my bf and his ex alone all the time. I'm not even really sure if our r/s is all that serious tbh. Maybe he thinks that it isn't and that's why it's OK. We've been together a year today and I think that's quite a long time. I texted hime one last time today to wish him happy anniversary and that I will want to see him when he gets back on Monday evening.
Author pattiech Posted June 27, 2011 Author Posted June 27, 2011 Ok so my bf came back in one piece today. I took a day off work to wait for him as I really need to try to judge this situation and see how he reacts. I asked him how he could have forgotten to tell me his ex was going to be hanging around with him and actually how much time they spent together there. He repeated that he didn't know she was going to be with them all weekend and that they spent a lot of time together as his two other friends went off to try to meet women! I also overheard him talk to another friend today on the phone who didn't go and my bf said he had an amazing time. Amazing! How could he say he had an amazing time with his ex?! Am I reading too much into this? He was also busy palnning some other music festival and I bet she's going too! I just happen to be away that weekend as it's my mother's 60th birthday and she has paid for family to go away for the week. I am paranoid and thinking that he wants to go away with his ex again at a time when he KNOWS I won't be able to go! Other than that he was really nice to me, said he missed me etc...
spiderowl Posted June 28, 2011 Posted June 28, 2011 Whatever he was doing or not doing, you just don't seem to trust him. Is there a point continuing with someone you don't trust?
keepsmilin74 Posted June 28, 2011 Posted June 28, 2011 You took a day off work, it was that unsettling for you, and ALREADY he is planning another festival? Ugh... Maybe you haven't been clear enough. Personally, I'd put my foot down now. TELL him you were really bothered about it and don't want it happening again. So if she's likely to go, he should skip it because you won't be there too. Is there any way he could join you on your trip instead? Anyway, he should AVOID hurting you like this again especially as it's so recent!! If he doesn't even try, then you haven't communicated it well enough or he doesn't care enough... Could you stand to put up with this over and over again??
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