I love someone much older then me and I want to erase him completely in my mind.

[mysticgirl]

Hi guys! :bunny:I need opinion specially from those who are in their midst 30`s.

I like this guy who is 13 years older than me. When he`s around, I feel really complete, although I feel a bit awkward knowing that he`s "there". I still like to see him even at a distance. I have worked with him during this past year and will be working with him maybe, for 2 more years. He likes music, too. He's just great for me, even though people around me think he isn't that great. And you know what, when he looks at me-- it feels really warm and my heart beats so fast. This is the first time that I cried(real tears) for a guy... I've never done that.. NEVER! When I heard him sing and play the piano, I suddenly wished to sing with him. "And if I could just sing and play the piano as well as this man... I'll be one of the happiest people on earth." Although he has lots of flaws, I accept them.

He doesn't still, has a girlfriend, and definitely not married. He is a good man-- that's why I feel so sorry for liking him. I'm hoping that he won't know about my feeling.

Therefore sometimes, I feel like he likes me too... but I think it's just me. He stares at me eagerly frequently, helps me cope with everything and encourages me.

Therefore, I think he is just caring. He might be seeing me as a little sister. And that, what breaks my heart. It really is impossible for him to like me.

The problem is that, I can't forget him. I am still hoping that he might as well share the same feeling as me. I can't really tell him that I love him because he might stay away from me. However, I could be his friend despite of the fact that it will hurt more.

Please... hear me out. I knew you guys would probably say, do something like hang-out with friends or let the time pass; but please give me other ways. I am not looking forward to having any special relationships right now. I am still waiting for the "God's will" to come. Do you think, he likes me too? or do you think I have to move on because everything seems so impossible? I really don't know his true feelings. I am confuse and my apologies if this message confused you too. Sorry, it is late nnow. Thanks so much for the help.

[Cracker Jack]

I honestly doubt you'll be able to simply "erase him completely" from your mind--especially after reading your post. Nothing really seems impossible here. It seems like he's into you based on what you've typed, but there's truly no 100% way of knowing this aside from talking to him about this sorta thing. You'll probably feel much better actually trying to talk to him, since it seems like you're only hurting yourself more by trying to withdraw from him.

 

Wish I could help you more.

[mysticgirl]

thanks.

[welikeincrowds]

This sounds like a setup for a Michel Gondry film

[whichwayisup]

If he ever becomes single, ask him out. Age isn't important as one gets older.. 13 years isn't that much.

[johan]

Don't erase me. Love me.

[mysticgirl]

If he ever becomes single, ask him out. Age isn't important as one gets older.. 13 years isn't that much.

 

He is single. Thank you. I hope it is easy to express what I feel for him but I'll try. I hope he would give me some hints though... I don't know. It's summer break so, I won't be able to see him oftenly. Who knows, I my feelings might change over time? Thanks, again.

[bac]

He is single. Thank you. I hope it is easy to express what I feel for him but I'll try. I hope he would give me some hints though... I don't know. It's summer break so, I won't be able to see him oftenly. Who knows, I my feelings might change over time? Thanks, again.

 

He might like you because older guys love younger girls in general.

But, some of them are afraid to take an initiative because of their negative attitude.

You might want to start flirting with him, paying him more attention, talking more. Take it slow because he might be afraid of your age and you can get rejected because of his irrational fears.

[utterer of lies]

He is single. Thank you. I hope it is easy to express what I feel for him but I'll try. I hope he would give me some hints though... I don't know. It's summer break so, I won't be able to see him oftenly. Who knows, I my feelings might change over time? Thanks, again.

 

Why don't you just ask him out?