vsmini Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 its not just about hurting her feelings, but there's too much work, I have to talk to her, then she starts crying, then I have to make her feel better, & then tell her how I didn't mean to, too much hassle. Cut her off then - say it's not working out and then No Contact her. EASY. If you still want sex...then you gotta pay the price of dealing with this disaster at least once a week.
oaks Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 that's too much of a hassle, I'm looking for an easy solution. Invite her round. Make out, have sex. That'll fill up the time so she can't talk to you. You'll just have to put up with all the sex and making out.
oaks Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 Introduce some bondage into your sex life. I'm thinking a gag should do it.
Author KOH Posted June 23, 2011 Author Posted June 23, 2011 Cut her off then - say it's not working out and then No Contact her. EASY. If you still want sex...then you gotta pay the price of dealing with this disaster at least once a week. well, I have other girlfriends, but usually I have to tell them (or them tell me) a week earlier, which sucks. this girl is available for sex everytime, like I can call her right now & she'd be available, so that's good.
Author KOH Posted June 23, 2011 Author Posted June 23, 2011 Invite her round. Make out, have sex. That'll fill up the time so she can't talk to you. You'll just have to put up with all the sex and making out. I wish if it were that easy, she calls AS SOON AS she's home, so that doesn't work.
oaks Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 this girl is available for sex everytime, like I can call her right now & she'd be available, so that's good. Ok. Come back when you have a real problem.
BWLoca Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 Weepy about what? Maybe you should get weepy about being on the phone so long.
Author KOH Posted June 23, 2011 Author Posted June 23, 2011 Ok. Come back when you have a real problem. I didn't say everything was good, I said that there's a good thing going on, I just want to have normal phone conversations with her without hating myself for answering the phone.
Author KOH Posted June 23, 2011 Author Posted June 23, 2011 Weepy about what? Maybe you should get weepy about being on the phone so long. she probably doesn't know having a 5 hour phone conversation bothers me, & she'd probably cry if I tell her that, thinking I just don't wanna talk to her or something.
iJester Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 You can tell her it's annoying and just don't bother with consoling her. Sounds like she'll still be available, even if you're "mean".
oaks Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 I didn't say everything was good, I said that there's a good thing going on, I just want to have normal phone conversations with her without hating myself for answering the phone. Sorry, I was just making a joke. I think you just need to have a talk (not on the phone) about how she's smothering you with these long calls. Obviously she likes talking to you, but maybe there's a compromise in there somewhere.
Author KOH Posted June 23, 2011 Author Posted June 23, 2011 You can tell her it's annoying and just don't bother with consoling her. Sounds like she'll still be available, even if you're "mean". she'd probably make me feel guilty & I'll fall for it lol, & I'm kind of a laid back person, I tried being a jerk with past GFs for a while but it just wasn't my thing.
vsmini Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 she probably doesn't know having a 5 hour phone conversation bothers me, & she'd probably cry if I tell her that, thinking I just don't wanna talk to her or something. I hate to get nasty here but you're 22. Not exactly little-boy age but you're acting like it. Learn that when you're having sex with women it can get complicated and if they are doing something you don't like YOU HAVE TO TELL THEM. Yes *cries* it's soooooo hard sometimes but just grow a pair and do it.
iJester Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 You're just a pussy and you're making excuses. Tell her you have to go, then hang the phone up.
Author KOH Posted June 23, 2011 Author Posted June 23, 2011 Sorry, I was just making a joke. I think you just need to have a talk (not on the phone) about how she's smothering you with these long calls. Obviously she likes talking to you, but maybe there's a compromise in there somewhere. I want a specific advice, I know that she'll cry & think "I don't want her" if I even mention the issue, so how can I bring it up without having to go through all the hassle?
vsmini Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 I want a specific advice, I know that she'll cry & think "I don't want her" if I even mention the issue, so how can I bring it up without having to go through all the hassle? %^@%$%!^#%^ This is so frustrating! you have to go through the hassle - don't you understand that? She's a weepy girl that gets upset if you tell her the truth - which you have to. You call her and say "this is what's bothering me" It's not that hard. How is that MORE of a hassle than talking to her on the phone or avoiding her calls constantly?
Author KOH Posted June 23, 2011 Author Posted June 23, 2011 I hate to get nasty here but you're 22. Not exactly little-boy age but you're acting like it. Learn that when you're having sex with women it can get complicated and if they are doing something you don't like YOU HAVE TO TELL THEM. Yes *cries* it's soooooo hard sometimes but just grow a pair and do it. lol, I see your point, its not that I don't want anything complicated, I'm just trying to avoid unpleasantries.
Author KOH Posted June 23, 2011 Author Posted June 23, 2011 %^@%$%!^#%^ This is so frustrating! you have to go through the hassle - don't you understand that? She's a weepy girl that gets upset if you tell her the truth - which you have to. You call her and say "this is what's bothering me" It's not that hard. How is that MORE of a hassle than talking to her on the phone or avoiding her calls constantly? I guess there's no other choice, huh? well, I'll update this thread later after telling her.
O'Malley Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 The next time she calls (obviously there will be a next time) let her know when you're ready to end the conversation, "I love hearing from you, but I've been spending so much time talking on the phone lately, I'm behind on work/school/whatever. I just prefer speaking to you in person, rather than talking on the phone." Then end the call, don't answer every damn time she calls, and don't cave in. It sounds as though your communication styles are basically incompatible...and there's generally not a successful solution for that.
vsmini Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 The next time she calls (obviously there will be a next time) let her know when you're ready to end the conversation, "I love hearing from you, but I've been spending so much time talking on the phone lately, I'm behind on work/school/whatever. I just prefer speaking to you in person, rather than talking on the phone." Then end the call, don't answer every damn time she calls, and don't cave in. It sounds as though your communication styles are basically incompatible...and there's generally not a successful solution for that. Yea there is - get tough and tell her exactly what's going on or get rid of her. 2 solutions.
Author KOH Posted June 23, 2011 Author Posted June 23, 2011 so I called her & told her that I'm sick of the long phone conversations, she started crying guilting me, so I got sick of it & told her its over. & now she's texting me like crazy, sheesh, its only been one month, she's nuts. I kinda wanted to do her hot cousin, I don't know if I should answer her texts, meet her cousin, & then dump her?
seekandfind Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 so I called her & told her that I'm sick of the long phone conversations, she started crying guilting me, so I got sick of it & told her its over. & now she's texting me like crazy, sheesh, its only been one month, she's nuts. I kinda wanted to do her hot cousin, I don't know if I should answer her texts, meet her cousin, & then dump her? sounds like a fantastical plan. maybe you could hit up her mom next?
Author KOH Posted June 23, 2011 Author Posted June 23, 2011 sounds like a fantastical plan. maybe you could hit up her mom next? lol. I was being serious.
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