KOH Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 I've been with this girl for almost a month now, she's one year younger than me, the problem is, she talks A LOT, last week we had a conversation for 5 hours, & I was bored the last 4 & a half. I tried a lot of things, I tell her I'm hungry & have to go, she talks about food for 10 seconds then starts another conversation, I tell her I need to charge my phone (not the truth) & she talks about how annoying when that happens to her & then starts another conversation, for the past week, I've been ignoring her phone calls & when I answer the phone, I talk for a while & then hang up & tell her later that the battery was dead. I thought about leaving her, but she's really fun in person, just phone conversations don't work for me, & I'm starting to hate hearing her voice on the phone. & I didn't even talk about texting, simply put, she's obsessed, I'm starting to think that I'm the center of her universe & I hate that, & she's not average looking, she's really HOT, most needy girls I've met were average to above average looking, good looking girls are usually very confident. I asked her ex (he's a friend of a friend of a friend) & he said HE was the needy one in the relationship, so now I know that its not her personality. I'll deal with her neediness later, I just want to have normal phone conversations for now.
oaks Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 I've heard that the sound of a flushing toilet often causes enough of a pause at the other end of the phone that you can end the call.
vsmini Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 I'm sorry - this made me laugh. Just picturing someone yammering on and on and on for 3 hours and the guy on the other end of the line wanting to shoot himself. After you say that you have to go and she still keeps talking - say it one more time - "I have to hang up now but I'll talk to you ______" and then hang up. The girl has to learn to put a cork in it eventually.
SmileFace Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 Haha, I found this funny too. I wish I had something constructive to add
Author KOH Posted June 23, 2011 Author Posted June 23, 2011 I'm sorry - this made me laugh. Just picturing someone yammering on and on and on for 3 hours and the guy on the other end of the line wanting to shoot himself. After you say that you have to go and she still keeps talking - say it one more time - "I have to hang up now but I'll talk to you ______" and then hang up. The girl has to learn to put a cork in it eventually. lol, I tried that, NOTHING works, its as if she's incapable of understanding that I have other things to do.
oaks Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 Try telling her, "Darling, save that story for when you see me or we'll have nothing to talk about." ("and that story, too." )
Author KOH Posted June 23, 2011 Author Posted June 23, 2011 Try telling her, "Darling, save that story for when you see me or we'll have nothing to talk about." ("and that story, too." ) "I have more stories to tell you when we meet" most likely answer.
BWLoca Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 lol, I tried that, NOTHING works, its as if she's incapable of understanding that I have other things to do. You might have to get a little rude. My ex used to do this and I would just interrupt with, "okay, well, BYE!" after I'd previously tried to get off the phone several times. He later admitted that he knew what he was doing; he just thought it was funny to see how long I would stay on the phone
oaks Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 "I have more stories to tell you when we meet" most likely answer. Hmm. How about you try to see her more often?
Author KOH Posted June 23, 2011 Author Posted June 23, 2011 You might have to get a little rude. My ex used to do this and I would just interrupt with, "okay, well, BYE!" after I'd previously tried to get off the phone several times. He later admitted that he knew what he was doing; he just thought it was funny to see how long I would stay on the phone I don't think that's the case here, lol. anyway, I tried the "somehow rude" way, it didn't work, its as if nothing happened, telling her to shut the hell up would be the only way, but as I said in the OP, I want to get her to hang up easy, she's kind of a weepy person & that would make her more annoying.
Author KOH Posted June 23, 2011 Author Posted June 23, 2011 Hmm. How about you try to see her more often? when we get together, we usually just make out for an hour then have sex, so its not like we talk a lot, lol.
vsmini Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 What a nuisance. Tell her she's being self-centered. Seriously - tell her that and see what she says. How can someone be that self unaware?
Author KOH Posted June 23, 2011 Author Posted June 23, 2011 What a nuisance. Tell her she's being self-centered. Seriously - tell her that and see what she says. How can someone be that self unaware? lol, as I said, that would make her more annoying because she's a weepy person, she'd start crying & then I'll start feeling guilty. she probably got attached too fast, its only been one month lol.
oaks Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 when we get together, we usually just make out for an hour then have sex, so its not like we talk a lot, lol. Sounds like we found a solution!
snug.bunny Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 Make "shushing" noises and then say "hello, hello...I can't hear you"...click.
vsmini Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 lol, as I said, that would make her more annoying because she's a weepy person, she'd start crying & then I'll start feeling guilty. she probably got attached too fast, its only been one month lol. Ok - so we've established that shes: annoying rude weepy too attached. She's a keeper. Even if you say you're only with her for the sex.....5 hours of boring phone conversation on a consistent basis hardly makes it worth it.
Author KOH Posted June 23, 2011 Author Posted June 23, 2011 Make "shushing" noises and then say "hello, hello...I can't hear you"...click. well, I do that too besides the my battery is dead & there is no reception, but I can't do that every night, she calls up to 5 times a day, recently I've been ignoring most of her calls.
vsmini Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 well, I do that too besides the my battery is dead & there is no reception, but I can't do that every night, she calls up to 5 times a day, recently I've been ignoring most of her calls. You sound like you've got LOADS of extra time to waste by trying everything except actually talking to her. I mean sitting her down and explaining exactly what is going on and what you are bothered by.
Author KOH Posted June 23, 2011 Author Posted June 23, 2011 Ok - so we've established that shes: annoying rude weepy too attached. She's a keeper. Even if you say you're only with her for the sex.....5 hours of boring phone conversation on a consistent basis hardly makes it worth it. its not like I'm looking for a wife, so I don't have to get picky personality-wise, I'm barely 22 lol.
vsmini Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 its not like I'm looking for a wife, so I don't have to get picky personality-wise, I'm barely 22 lol. well then what are you complaining about? you run the risk of hurting her feelings by actually telling her to cut it out...but the alternative is going to be being held captive on the phone for hours at a time.
snug.bunny Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 well, I do that too besides the my battery is dead & there is no reception, but I can't do that every night, she calls up to 5 times a day, recently I've been ignoring most of her calls. Sounds annoying.
Author KOH Posted June 23, 2011 Author Posted June 23, 2011 You sound like you've got LOADS of extra time to waste by trying everything except actually talking to her. I mean sitting her down and explaining exactly what is going on and what you are bothered by. that's too much of a hassle, I'm looking for an easy solution.
vsmini Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 that's too much of a hassle, I'm looking for an easy solution. doesn't look like there is one as you've said you've tried most of what's been suggested. Easiest solution - don't pick up the phone. It's a ratty thing to do and you'll have to deal with her complaints later but.....what else can you do?
Author KOH Posted June 23, 2011 Author Posted June 23, 2011 well then what are you complaining about? you run the risk of hurting her feelings by actually telling her to cut it out...but the alternative is going to be being held captive on the phone for hours at a time. its not just about hurting her feelings, but there's too much work, I have to talk to her, then she starts crying, then I have to make her feel better, & then tell her how I didn't mean to, too much hassle.
Author KOH Posted June 23, 2011 Author Posted June 23, 2011 doesn't look like there is one as you've said you've tried most of what's been suggested. Easiest solution - don't pick up the phone. It's a ratty thing to do and you'll have to deal with her complaints later but.....what else can you do? that's what I've been doing mostly, I thought it was just a temporary solution, I mean, how long am I gonna keep doing that?
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