lolo1234 Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 How soon have you guys/girls found yourself connecting with your significant other on an emotional basis? For guys, is this something that is difficult for you? I've been exclusively seeing someone now for a month. I know that's not long at all. I know he is really into me, he shows it in lots of ways. We have alot of fun together ... time with him is easy. The sex is awesome. But I feel like there's a part of him that is closed off to me. He's told me often that he hasn't felt this way about anyone since his ex-wife. Mind you they haven't been together for like 7 years. Based on that, I'm guessing he hasn't been close to a woman in a while. He's had plenty of girlfriends I guess he just didn't like them all that much. Yesterday he admitted to me that he had been thinking about us and acknowledged to himself that he is taking a chance with heartbreak by getting involved with me to the extent he feels himself getting involved. (not his exact words but that's the gist of it). I guess last night was a good start at him opening up to me about things. I have felt a kind of wall from him though. In my last relationships I've felt like the guy was more open from the start, sharing more about how they feel not just about the relationship but about everything. His marriage ended because his wife cheated on him. I guess this might have something to do with how he is. I don't know what I can do to let him feel "safe" with me.
OhMittens Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 Just give him time, not everyone opens up at the same rate. If he is worth it to you, and you are enjoying everything so far... the best thing you can do is give him time. He's already opened up some so just let him move at his own pace. Just make sure not to pressure him or he might close up to you.
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