Homing Posted June 21, 2011 Posted June 21, 2011 So I met her recently and on the weekends she does these things, I don't like to party too much, i also don't really like it when she goes off to these places without me. I don't think it is going to last between us, but how can I try to explain or turn things around if it is even possible?
oaks Posted June 21, 2011 Posted June 21, 2011 Do you have some hobbies or activities that she doesn't enjoy? Would you want her to tell you not to do them any more?
youngskywalker Posted June 21, 2011 Posted June 21, 2011 Hobbies, interests, activities, philosophies ect, can all be over-looked in a relationship. Sometimes opposites even attract. But when it comes to social status or how your socialize with other people I've found there isn't much room for compromise. I'm not a party person either but have dated women who are. It never worked out. In my book this is a 'must have' of compatibility. She's not going to change and you shouldn't change for her either. End the relationship and move to the next girl.
grkBoy Posted June 22, 2011 Posted June 22, 2011 So I met her recently and on the weekends she does these things, I don't like to party too much, i also don't really like it when she goes off to these places without me. I don't think it is going to last between us, but how can I try to explain or turn things around if it is even possible? You just come clean, but I'd honestly tell you that you should perhaps friendzone her and look for that homebody you want. This discussion reminds me of when a guy meets a girl who works as a stripper, or who loves to dress sexy. Once they get into a RL, he's suddenly demanding she quit her stripper job...or she dresses more conservatively. You can't change someone. I've been in that world with party girls, and while I was more into staying home with a romantic dinner and DVD, they were into bar hopping and partying til dawn. Some even preferred not to have a guy with them and instead be with the "pack of hot girls". I would honestly not bother with this girl. You two are different types of people and it's just not going to work. Not unless BOTH of you are willing to come halfway. Like you learn to go out more and party and she tones is down a bit.
rafallus Posted June 22, 2011 Posted June 22, 2011 It means that fundamentally things can't work out. Look for more of a housewife. but how can I try to explain or turn things around if it is even possible? I wouldn't bother. I'd just tell her as it is: "You like to party, me - not so much, it won't work out between us."
Red Arremer Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 Don't date her. Pretty simple. Seconded. That dog ain't huntin'.
Maggotface Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 It's just different lifestyles, there's nothing wrong with her partying and whatnot but it wouldnt be right for you to ask her to change or compromise. You both would be happier being with people who shared common interests.
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