daisydukes Posted June 21, 2011 Posted June 21, 2011 He talked a big game but he was a liar:sick: He said he didn't want to have sex until he was in a relationship or when he met the right person. He walked me home and then said come here....... He kissed me and then we finally arrived at my place ( thankfully my roommate wasn't home) I said do you want anything?? He said no just you and kissed me and felt me up and unbuttoned my pants. We made out and said I do not a one night stand and he said oh baby are you sure?? I won't cum. We drank a little bit and in the heat of the moment had anal. He said hey I gotta go but i'd love to get a hotel room tomm since your roommate is always here. WTF? Why he did lie to me and why is he pressuring me for a hotel room??
Author daisydukes Posted June 21, 2011 Author Posted June 21, 2011 Actually it is not and I was being serious thanks.
TheCoolest Posted June 21, 2011 Posted June 21, 2011 Guys lie because they like sex. Thought everyone knew that.
Lucky_One Posted June 21, 2011 Posted June 21, 2011 You want to know why you are 33 and only have dated guys who are losers? Because you will have anal sex with a man that you just met on POF. If you like having casual random sex, then great - have fun with it (and be safe). But if you want to have a real relationship with someone who respects you and treats you well, then you need to learn to respect yourself. This would include, at a bare minimum, getting to know someone a little bit before you take your clothes off.
OldOnTheInside Posted June 21, 2011 Posted June 21, 2011 Man, I went through the exact same situation... Treat your pooper with more respect in the future so history doesn't repeat itself. I'm being completely serious btw.
Author daisydukes Posted June 21, 2011 Author Posted June 21, 2011 I feel used. I guess between the alcohol and his smooth moves I fell for his trickery.
OldOnTheInside Posted June 21, 2011 Posted June 21, 2011 If you can't handle your drink then...don't drink.
Author daisydukes Posted June 21, 2011 Author Posted June 21, 2011 I guess it's just my fault as it is his. I drank I didn't push him away:sick: I got caught up in the heat of the moment.
Author daisydukes Posted June 21, 2011 Author Posted June 21, 2011 I am not sure. My brain says run,run as fast as you can he just wants to use you but my heart says give him a a chance. I said to him as he was leaving I had a great time hope to see you again and then he said i'd like that but he never set up another date.
creighton0123 Posted June 21, 2011 Posted June 21, 2011 I feel used. I guess between the alcohol and his smooth moves I fell for his trickery. You were safe, right? Please tell me you were safe.
Mme. Chaucer Posted June 21, 2011 Posted June 21, 2011 She won't be safe if she meets this loser again and he will be ready with more smooth talk. But, she "had a great time"! Did he use a condom?
utterer of lies Posted June 21, 2011 Posted June 21, 2011 I guess it's just my fault as it is his. No. Its all your fault.
GildedLily Posted June 21, 2011 Posted June 21, 2011 Girl are you in your right mind? You had ANAL sex with a virtual STRANGER (one of the most dangerous forms of sex in relation to STDS) who wouldn't even commit to a second date with you and then you basically said "well ok I had a great time! thanks for bending me over ya'll come back now ya hear!!!" Uh where's your self respect? From your other thread it's obvious you are looking for a relationship; is this the kind of stuff you think will get you a quality man? It wasn't even HALF his fault; it was all yours. Advice: stop dating just STOP and get your self esteem in order. Start reading: baggagereclaim.com
oaks Posted June 21, 2011 Posted June 21, 2011 He talked a big game but he was a liar:sick: He said he didn't want to have sex until he was in a relationship or when he met the right person. Sorry that it went that way. One thing that will often filter out people who lie about not wanting sex until they are in a relationship is not having sex with them unless you are in a relationship with them... which can start by not taking them home on the first date. But he qualified it by adding "or when he met the right person", which in his case meant "anyone who will have sex with me right now". Now you know the translation you can spot this type next time.
oaks Posted June 21, 2011 Posted June 21, 2011 Advice: stop dating just STOP and get your self esteem in order. Start reading: baggagereclaim.com Someone else linked this recently and I've been browsing. Interesting stuff. Don't like the presentation style which seems to require bolded text even when there's no significant point to be emphasised, but there are some good articles in there.
utterer of lies Posted June 21, 2011 Posted June 21, 2011 But he qualified it by adding "or when he met the right person", which in his case meant "anyone who will have sex with me right now". Now you know the translation you can spot this type next time. Haha, look at her post. I find it hard to believe that she will actually learn from this.
ascendotum Posted June 21, 2011 Posted June 21, 2011 Here you are posting fronwie faces on the www but I bet he's posting smilie faces on his txts. Why did he lie to you...'I won't lie, that I can't deny I did it all for the nookie'. You are pissed of at him because he he had sex with you, even though he said he didn't want to have sex until he was in a relationship...but you didn't call him out on it when he started to get in your pants or when her used the oh baby are you sure line. Instead you let him continue on and have anal sex, and now you are mad because...he manipulated you by saying he's not that type of guy. I'm sorry you got deceived but at 33 you need to take responsibility for your actions better and filter these guys out. I don't get it. You're saying WTF to his his hotel room suggestion for the following weeks, but I'm thinking WTF with you thinking WTF to this and not the fact that you had anal intercourse with him first time back at your place. Anal is not considered sex for you? You say elsewhere about being wise to red flags now. Well IMO you should nix bringing back dates to your place the first night & getting boozed if you want to improve your early red flag detection.
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