NicoleM Posted June 17, 2011 Posted June 17, 2011 I am not a phone person at all. I am a chronic texter and this guy says enough texting let's talk for once and I am nervous!! Why does he want to talk to me??? Is texting enough??
tman666 Posted June 17, 2011 Posted June 17, 2011 Unless you're 13 years old, no, texting alone is not enough. Time to put on your big girl pants and call him up (if you like him, that is).
Author NicoleM Posted June 17, 2011 Author Posted June 17, 2011 I do like him I just worry I will blow it and stutter or clam up.
tman666 Posted June 17, 2011 Posted June 17, 2011 Why not just agree to meet him in person to do some activity (a date)? Ya know: hiking, see a movie, frisbee golf, concerts, boning, etc. Stuff that doesn't necessarily require constant talking, such as a phone conversation.
OliveOyl Posted June 17, 2011 Posted June 17, 2011 Why not just agree to meet him in person to do some activity (a date)? Ya know: hiking, see a movie, frisbee golf, concerts, boning, etc. Stuff that doesn't necessarily require constant talking, such as a phone conversation. This. I'm an advocate for meeting face-to-face as soon as possible, to prevent people from getting hung up on a fantasy image.
Author NicoleM Posted June 17, 2011 Author Posted June 17, 2011 We did make a date but he still wants to call me. I guess this is apart of the whole phone interview?? LOL e-mails/texts first then phone interview and then date.
thatone Posted June 17, 2011 Posted June 17, 2011 I do like him I just worry I will blow it and stutter or clam up. start drinking before he calls.
EasyHeart Posted June 17, 2011 Posted June 17, 2011 He just wants to talk to you! That's a GOOD thing!!! Talk to him. Don't worry about being nervous or stuttering. If you do, he'll probably think it's cute. Nervous women are usually adorable. CALL HIM NOW!!!
somedude81 Posted June 17, 2011 Posted June 17, 2011 Texting is usually my main contact with girls. But it's really hard to communicate with somebody over text. I always get really nervous before a phone call. But once I hear her voice I calm down right away. With a phone conversation it's possible to have a short 5 minute conversation that can do what would take 30 min of back and forth over text. I've decided to primarily communicate with this girl with actual phone calls from now on. It's just more efficient and I actually feel better after talking to her.
Nexus One Posted June 17, 2011 Posted June 17, 2011 There's only one remedy for nervousness before calling and/or talking on the phone. Doing it a lot. And if you want to have some fun, then grab 2 phones, then call support departments from different companies on both those phones, then put both phones on speaker, then lay the phones facing each other. Sometimes they figure it out after 30 minutes, fun times.
somedude81 Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 Wait. Somedude is dating Nicole??? LOL, no. I was talking about the girl that I'm interested in. Though I did date a Nicole about this time last year.
D-Lish Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 I HATE talking on the phone, just hate it. I am comfortable with texting and e-mailing- but talking on the phone with a stranger is something that gives me a great amount of anxiety. I'd rather have a face to face first, arranged through e-mail or via texting. I exchanged a few emails with a guy from pof, then he said he'd rather get to know each other first over the phone before meeting. I just blew him of after that request. I have very little anxiety about meeting someone in person, because I know I am great on a date, but talking on the phone isn't something I want to do before I meet a person for the first time.
Author NicoleM Posted June 18, 2011 Author Posted June 18, 2011 Phone call went smoothly. Didn't talk much ( he was nervous too lol) and now we are meeting up on Sunday. Ahh the dreaded meet-up:p It is almost as bad as an interview. He is so sweet and kind!! I just hope I don't blow it on Sunday because A- Anxious and nervous totally end up blowing B- Lack of chemistry which is totally possible sure we might " click" on the phone but IP might be a different story.
EasyHeart Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 See, that wasn't so bad was it? And next time will be even easier. Good luck!
Author NicoleM Posted June 18, 2011 Author Posted June 18, 2011 Nope it wasn't! The only thing I dread is the " actual" date.
loveiscontagious Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 I actually don't mind talking on the phone (tho I prefer to IM), but it's SO awkward to talk on the phone with a complete stranger, so I don't do it. If it's a dealbreaker for him...oh well, his loss. I guess I'm lucky it has never been an issue. I prefer to meet sooner and save the phone calls for after we've met. If he wants to do things the old-fashioned way, maybe he shouldn't seek out dates on-line.
Nexus One Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 (edited) Nope it wasn't! The only thing I dread is the " actual" date. Try drinking white tea (or green), it contains substances that block stress hormone. I prefer white tea due to the taste and the very high concentrations of antioxidants and it contains a little less caffeine than green tea. So what usually happens is that after a cup I become very relaxed, but when the caffeine starts kicking I get a boost. I always throw in a lot of sugar though, otherwise I go uggghh and make weird faces. I also prefer to throw in the actual leafs in the cup, rather than using the tea bag variants, this makes the taste/aroma stronger, yet the tea stays a lighter color and doesn't stain as much. The one I drink is a silver needle white tea with a jasmine taste from the Fujian province in China. So if it has the same effect on you, then you'll be very relaxed at the start of the date, but more energetic later into the date. Edited June 19, 2011 by Nexus One
Author NicoleM Posted June 19, 2011 Author Posted June 19, 2011 Good to know!!! I will definitely have to try it out. I really like this guy ( I know how can I tell??) He seems so kind and considerate and super sweet. I got to relax and pray for chemistry. Chemistry is always,always important on a date that is for sure. Wish me luck!!
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