Teaddict Posted June 17, 2011 Posted June 17, 2011 So im dating this guy who is a sophomore in college and im a senior in high school and we've been dating for 9 months and we reallllly like each other and we get along so well, its crazy. I kinda made a big deal the other day when i was with him that I was his 3rd kiss and not his 2nd one....idk why im doing this. What can i do stop thinking about these things. I have no clue why I was so bothered that I was his 3rd kiss....help me? It always helps when i have rational people telling me that what im feeling/thinking is kinda irrational and it helps me calm down.
Author Teaddict Posted June 17, 2011 Author Posted June 17, 2011 hahaha that was def. not the answer I was looking for Idk why im freaking out about this..its really not a big deal, i guess.
snug.bunny Posted June 17, 2011 Posted June 17, 2011 What's up with wanting to be 2nd, why not his first? Heck girl, go for number one... forget about #2, what's your problem!
somedude81 Posted June 17, 2011 Posted June 17, 2011 Hmm, are you graduating this month or are you going to be a Sr when school starts in the fall?
Author Teaddict Posted June 17, 2011 Author Posted June 17, 2011 Oh well, I guess im his 3rd girlfriend..so i should obviously expect to be his third kiss Im his longest relationship so far because he didnt start dating till his senior year in highschool/didnt kiss etc. till then. oh, im going to be a senior this school year. The age difference is really not a big deal.
grkBoy Posted June 17, 2011 Posted June 17, 2011 So im dating this guy who is a sophomore in college and im a senior in high school and we've been dating for 9 months and we reallllly like each other and we get along so well, its crazy. I kinda made a big deal the other day when i was with him that I was his 3rd kiss and not his 2nd one....idk why im doing this. What can i do stop thinking about these things. I have no clue why I was so bothered that I was his 3rd kiss....help me? It always helps when i have rational people telling me that what im feeling/thinking is kinda irrational and it helps me calm down. Because you're young and full of uncontrolled emotion. Young girls want to equate things like "first kiss" or something like that to make them feel special. They want all their "first" experiences to be storybook moments. Calm down...because us older folks will tell you it's not if you were the first, second, or tenth...it matters if you found the one who will be with you til you die and love you as if it was the day you both fell in love. This isn't a contest...just find the right one for you and forget the "first", "second" or "third" details. Also...don't get into anniversary modes...like anniversary of your first kiss with him, first date, first time he gave you flowers, etc.
Author Teaddict Posted June 17, 2011 Author Posted June 17, 2011 Omg this helped so much! Yaa, I probably need to get out of anniversary modes and just relax/calm down a little bit and enjoy it since i have him right now. He wasnt my first kiss either..so im just being super irrational. What matters is that he realllly likes me/loves me for who i am, and im the only "significant other" in his life.
somedude81 Posted June 17, 2011 Posted June 17, 2011 Oh well, I guess im his 3rd girlfriend..so i should obviously expect to be his third kiss Im his longest relationship so far because he didnt start dating till his senior year in highschool/didnt kiss etc. till then. oh, im going to be a senior this school year. The age difference is really not a big deal. So you're probably 16-17 and he's 20-21. While that's not a big difference, you're basically a kid. Which is why you're acting this way. The best way to calm down is to grow up LOL, just relax.
Author Teaddict Posted June 17, 2011 Author Posted June 17, 2011 Haha yaaa, whenever I spend time rationalizing it in my head, i calm down but sometimes I have random freak out moments. Oh, im 17 and he's 19
snug.bunny Posted June 17, 2011 Posted June 17, 2011 Omg this helped so much! Yaa, I probably need to get out of anniversary modes and just relax/calm down a little bit and enjoy it since i have him right now. He wasnt my first kiss either..so im just being super irrational. What matters is that he realllly likes me/loves me for who i am, and im the only "significant other" in his life. One day the order won't matter, when you're with the person you're meant to be with, you'll want to be the last.....
Author Teaddict Posted June 17, 2011 Author Posted June 17, 2011 Yes! I agree Im just being really immature about this. When i told him of my freakout thing. He was like "calm down, the second person didnt mean anything..idk why i even kissed her...You're the one i want in my life which explains why we've been dating for so long" I know he's really genuine I like your advice. Im def. the last person he's done anything with.
Author Teaddict Posted June 17, 2011 Author Posted June 17, 2011 woww stfu. He actually dated the other girl for like 4 months...so obviously he didnt regret kissing her at the time. The "second kiss" or whatever..he only dated that girl for like a week and it wasnt meaningful even when it was going on so he regrets it more. Stop commenting if you have nothing good to offer onemanarmy.
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