TuffCookieX Posted June 14, 2011 Posted June 14, 2011 Title says it all. I have had numerous men approach me at bars and clubs asking me if I was on any dating websites. It's not awkward unless I recognize them as the creeps who send me multiple messages that I ignore. It also goes the other way. I have run into guys whom I recognize from the internet but I don't USUALLY call them out on it. And also, just by browsing, I have come across SOOO many people online that I know and am friends with. Has this happened to anyone else, and if so, how do you go about the situation?
daphne Posted June 14, 2011 Posted June 14, 2011 I've had it happen 3-4 times. One guy wouldn't leave well enough alone. But he was harmless. I've seen a couple of guys that I was almost positive I'd seen an email from. I don't approach. We just stared at each other like "Hey, you look familiar but where the hell do I know you from?"
dangerstranger Posted June 14, 2011 Posted June 14, 2011 Yes, it happens enough. I have recieved emails from people I went to highschool with, or knew from the past that didn't recognize me and sent a message, lol.
RovingReporter Posted June 14, 2011 Posted June 14, 2011 I ran into a girl I had seen on match.com at the dog park the other day when her dog wouldn't stop humping my dog. I had never messaged her on the site so I didn't bring it up.
Author TuffCookieX Posted June 14, 2011 Author Posted June 14, 2011 I ran into a girl I had seen on match.com at the dog park the other day when her dog wouldn't stop humping my dog. I had never messaged her on the site so I didn't bring it up. Best. Story. Ever.
Arikel Posted June 14, 2011 Posted June 14, 2011 Shoulda said something who knows what could've happened?
collegeguy_24 Posted June 14, 2011 Posted June 14, 2011 I have had it happen. Met this one girl on plenty of fish, we were getting along well so I asked her out, she said no and cut off all contact. We ended up sharing the same class in college, and all semester long we had no choice but to sit near each other. Talk about awkward.
dangerstranger Posted June 14, 2011 Posted June 14, 2011 I ran into a girl I had seen on match.com at the dog park the other day when her dog wouldn't stop humping my dog. I had never messaged her on the site so I didn't bring it up. Oh WOW, excellent. I get embarrassed when my dogs sniff the other dogs ass's for a little too long. I find myself apologizing under my breath. They get into that circle sniff and all the owners just look away pretending it's not awkward to behold...but it is:laugh:
Author TuffCookieX Posted June 14, 2011 Author Posted June 14, 2011 I have had it happen. Met this one girl on plenty of fish, we were getting along well so I asked her out, she said no and cut off all contact. We ended up sharing the same class in college, and all semester long we had no choice but to sit near each other. Talk about awkward. I have a similar story. Guy on plentyoffish lived in my town practically begged me to go on a date with him. Kept denying him, ended up blocking him from AIM, facebook, and POF. Fastforward 2 years later after I graduated college and moved to a new town - I see this gorgeous man at a bar and approach him for a chitchat. He gives me the cold shoulder so I walked away. Next day stalker guy from POF hits me up (made a new sn because his old one was blocked) and says I approached him at the bar and he was mean to me because I had turned him down so many times from POF. Funny enough, he gave me a second chance and accepted my apology and we dated for like 3 weeks before I realized he was a horrible person and he is back on my block lists. But the story is ironic enough.
irc333 Posted June 14, 2011 Posted June 14, 2011 Well, chances are that's the ONLY time I'd be creepy, otherwise you'd probably already be going out with them. lol Anyhow, I bet they might think if they approach you in person, that they'd stand a better chance in person than where they've ignored them online. Actually I've always wondered if a woman that had ignored me, would've been interested in me if they'd had met me in other circumstances, like in real life.....because face-to-face....there is body language, mannerisms, facail expressions, etc. ELments that are taken out of online, plus you get the feel that the person tehre in front of you IS for real. Funny story..... I went out to the movies with some friends, well, a friend of mine invited a friend to join us......she looked rather familiar. We were introduced, and we chatted a bit in person while we mingled. You know how you get the weekly "My Matches" email through Match.com where they send you "Matches" taht the site matches you up with? Well, turns out SHE was one of those women I was matched up with. Later, I see she's on my friends friends list on Facebook so I start to talk to her there, saying it was nice meeting her at the movies with her friend, tc. We get to talking back and forth, then I ask her, "You don't happen to be on Match.com, do you?" She said that she was on the site, but no longer a subscriber....too much money. And I said, "I thought I had recognized you, you turned out to be one of my matches from the site, lol.....you don't happen to be seeing someone, areyou?" She says, "My dating life is not your concern, that's personal" Later, she removes me from her friends list....and she ignores me. I was thinking, "Sheesh, how sensitive." Anyhow, it's usuallyt he women I've noticed that are rather touchy about being recognized from a dating site, because they're somewhat embarassed for using a dating site to meet men. And to recognized in person is embarasing for them. Some dont' mind, but some others get wierded out about it. Title says it all. I have had numerous men approach me at bars and clubs asking me if I was on any dating websites. It's not awkward unless I recognize them as the creeps who send me multiple messages that I ignore. It also goes the other way. I have run into guys whom I recognize from the internet but I don't USUALLY call them out on it. And also, just by browsing, I have come across SOOO many people online that I know and am friends with. Has this happened to anyone else, and if so, how do you go about the situation?
irc333 Posted June 14, 2011 Posted June 14, 2011 I have had it happen. Met this one girl on plenty of fish, we were getting along well so I asked her out, she said no and cut off all contact. We ended up sharing the same class in college, and all semester long we had no choice but to sit near each other. Talk about awkward. So, why not think of this as an opportunity to start over, and get to know her the more suitable way? It's so easy to ignore someone online, when in person, you're kind of stuck there talking to them...there's no delete key or anything...so the opportunity to sit there and talk with them is available. Kind of like a "captured audience" lol
Author TuffCookieX Posted June 14, 2011 Author Posted June 14, 2011 Anyhow, it's usuallyt he women I've noticed that are rather touchy about being recognized from a dating site, because they're somewhat embarassed for using a dating site to meet men. And to recognized in person is embarasing for them. Some dont' mind, but some others get wierded out about it. If you're too scared of going to jail for dealing coke, don't deal it. If you don't want nude photos posted on the internet, don't pose nude for photos. If you're too embarrassed about being called out on being an online dater, then don't online date.
collegeguy_24 Posted June 14, 2011 Posted June 14, 2011 So, why not think of this as an opportunity to start over, and get to know her the more suitable way? That didn't work either, I tried. At the time I was looking to expand my social group to more then two people, so if dating didn't work I was willing to be friends or at least civil. ll she did was ignore me completely.
irc333 Posted June 14, 2011 Posted June 14, 2011 That didn't work either, I tried. At the time I was looking to expand my social group to more then two people, so if dating didn't work I was willing to be friends or at least civil. ll she did was ignore me completely. She ignored you in class, too? If I recognize them from online, I appraoch them in person and pretend as if I 've never met them before in my life. lol Anyhow, this goes to show how there is indeed a FINITE amount of single people in a given geographical area, I wonder if they'll eventually recognize that they'll be just painting themselves into "keeping themselve chronically single" mode and change their unrealistic expectations to something more ...well...realistic.
phineas Posted July 29, 2011 Posted July 29, 2011 I got a facebook friend who has been on Match.com for well over a yr. Here status updates while not attention whoreish do convey subtlety that she is very much single. I saw her at my 20yr reunion last yr briefly. My buddy noticed her checking me out. But I had gone out with another class member the night before & she I learned was an attention whore & cock-blocked me the whole night. LOL! I don't know if it's creepy or not to ask her for her number over facebook or just hit her up when I fully activate my match.com profile in the fall. Now her, she looks better in person than in pictures. LOL!
Curious-One Posted August 4, 2011 Posted August 4, 2011 Lol 80%i of why i dont do online dating is because i am afraid some of my family/friends/aquientces will recognize me and laugh lol. It doesnt help that most of my friends think i am a pimp w the ladies since i am so social. Couldnt be far from it
Casablanca Posted August 4, 2011 Posted August 4, 2011 Lol 80%i of why i dont do online dating is because i am afraid some of my family/friends/aquientces will recognize me and laugh lol. It doesnt help that most of my friends think i am a pimp w the ladies since i am so social. Couldnt be far from it I use to feel that way, but I still meet people offline too...it is just an extra avenue to meet people...so increasing the odds of meeting someone else I have seen a few people on there...two of whom I had crushes on...one emailed me, but it was just to say hi, when I told her about having a crush on her she said she didnt feel that way about me Another one I found out she is planning to move when she graduates so I'm not even gonna attempt that one
Author TuffCookieX Posted August 4, 2011 Author Posted August 4, 2011 A grenade or should I say a missile launcher that blew up my Plenty of Fish inbox spotted me at Shop Rite at the deli counter and called out my screen name. I was mortified. I pretended like I didn't speak English. That's amazing. You know what premiers tonight, dontcha? lol
phineas Posted August 4, 2011 Posted August 4, 2011 Lol 80%i of why i dont do online dating is because i am afraid some of my family/friends/aquientces will recognize me and laugh lol. It doesnt help that most of my friends think i am a pimp w the ladies since i am so social. Couldnt be far from it You can always ask them what THEY are doing on a dating site. LOL!
Star Gazer Posted August 4, 2011 Posted August 4, 2011 This happens to me far more often than I'd like!
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