LostMyHeart Posted April 19, 2011 Posted April 19, 2011 I've heard a lot of talk about the 3 month mark being a guideline to getting over the hump of missing them so much and wanting them back...is there any truth in that? May 7th will be three months since we split up, but I find myself wanting more than ever to talk to him...is that normal?
2011 Posted April 19, 2011 Posted April 19, 2011 You can't really put a time-frame on it as every situation is different. I had bouts of feeling better "Yeah i'm over it" and then sort of slipping back into wanting to talk again. I'm in one now but the thing is each time the pain is less and less although you still do want to talk, you're just missing talking to him that's all. I guess my real reason for wanting to talk was to ask why, why she went so cold etc and just did not seem to care at all, I know we had spats but I could never really figure it out and yes I would go back but for the life of me can't see her wanting the same so why hurt myself again. If I did talk I know I would get more of the same aloofness and coldness so I see no point in doing that and bringing myself back to square 1. It's a long road but recovery is guaranteed - eventually. 2011
Author LostMyHeart Posted April 19, 2011 Author Posted April 19, 2011 I can understand that...I think it is not just because I miss him, but want to know why he couldn't see how much his actions were hurting me...did I really mean that little to him. I guess the best way to maintain NC is to go back to the painful and hurtful words he said...remember the ones I said too...and remember we were not good for each other. There is totally no logic to it...but obviously more my fault...I don't even know amymore...more than anything else, I just want to give up.
2011 Posted April 19, 2011 Posted April 19, 2011 Things are always said in the heat of the moment and maybe he thinks you just hate him now, well that's the way I think my ex is, and you maybe think he hates you too, there is a fine line between love and hate and the confusion and things said in the midst of a break up can leave both parties hurt and confused for months, the longer it goes on the more both parties find it hard to recommunicate in a normal manner. What the story behind your BU, have you got a link to it? 2011
Author LostMyHeart Posted April 20, 2011 Author Posted April 20, 2011 Thanks for the reply 2011...I think he does think that I hate him...and I think that he hates me....the communication is awful and I don't know if we will ever be able to speak again...yes, my original story... http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=261105 Thanks! I miss him...but know that things will never be the same.
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