singlelife Posted April 17, 2011 Posted April 17, 2011 Me and my ex had a bad break up 4 years ago. She was so difficult that she didn't want me but wouldn't divorce me until a year ago. At the time of the split I thought we would be cool but she went nuts and took money from me, and spread crazy rumors, and even took my dog. So I paid for the divorce to get it all took care of. Last year she called me for 3 months ( I didn't answer ) asking to go to dinner. Then she acted like we were gonna be cool then when I went over she was acting like when we were together. Then she told me she wanted us to get back together. I told her we were not getting together. I started remembering every crazy thing that made us break up plus I didn't go to start up another relationship. We didn't have sex but hang out all day and made out. I was supposed to stay the night but I left and went home because she got mad and we argued about not getting together. I was like we ain't together and I don't owe you anything so I don't have to stay here. A week later I heard rumors of her saying how we tryed to make it work and I dogged her. i called her and cussed her out 6 different ways and told her not to ever contact me because that is just crazy we are not for each other. So a year later she calls me. I didn't know who it was so I picked up. She was polite and said she missed me and I have been on her mind for the past few months a lot. I was really shocked she called. I haven't thought about her since the incident and am over it. She suggested when I am over her way I should call and hang out. Even though I am not mad I want no part of her. It will lead to nothing but turmoil. I don't even love her anymore. I was so shocked that I said see ya around so I could get off the phone. I know the next conversation I am going to have to make it clear for the last time we ain't getting together. My question is this. I know she obviously wants me back, but I am trying to understand why in this womans mind she is wanting to after the bad breakup and leaving me and all this. Women are crazy.
Professor X Posted April 17, 2011 Posted April 17, 2011 Pal, no-one is ever gonna answer you that. How the hell should anyone know what's going in her mind. Maybe a psychiatrist could help you...
Eddie Edirol Posted April 17, 2011 Posted April 17, 2011 Why didnt you tell her not to call you again?
Author singlelife Posted April 17, 2011 Author Posted April 17, 2011 Why didnt you tell her not to call you again? I am when she calls again. I know I should have the last time. And I have told her this very clearly in the past.
Jazzari Posted April 17, 2011 Posted April 17, 2011 She sounds like she has control issues. You left her and she didn't like that. If she gets you back, then SHE can leave YOU. She's probably contacting you during period when she doesn't have anyone else.
Ruby Slippers Posted April 17, 2011 Posted April 17, 2011 She's probably contacting you during period when she doesn't have anyone else. Exactly. There's no one on her radar right now, so she's sniffing around you to get some attention for now. Like a stray dog in your yard. Kick her off the property.
MarlyStar Posted April 18, 2011 Posted April 18, 2011 You were a good partner and she's having trouble replacing you. She doesn't see that she went crazy during the breakup, she thinks it was all justified and she was just doing the right thing. She has some boundary issues and has trouble distinguishing her feelings from yours and assumes since she's interested in you, you must be interested in her. You were a bit passive in your relationship and she thinks she can still call the shots. All women are not crazy, but she certainly has issues.
daphne Posted April 18, 2011 Posted April 18, 2011 After everything she's shown you, does it matter what she's thinking? What matters as an outsider is that she's capable of f**'ing you over and playing unhealthy head games and it seems you aren't really 100% ready to call it quits or you wouldn't care if she called. I would just not answer her now that you know her current number. Leave it alone and let her find someone else to mess up. If she keeps calling you from different numbers, be firm and if you have to be an ********* to get your point across. Nothing good can come from entertaining her anymore.
elaina Posted April 18, 2011 Posted April 18, 2011 My question is this. I know she obviously wants me back, but I am trying to understand why in this womans mind she is wanting to after the bad breakup and leaving me and all this. Women are crazy. I don't know what's going through her mind, but just tell her next time she contacts you that you have moved on and she should too, and that it's the best for you not to speak to her again, then don't. (I am sorry about your dog.)
Author singlelife Posted April 19, 2011 Author Posted April 19, 2011 I called her and we had it out. Then I told her not to contact me anymore. She was pissed. She really didn't do anything wrong but we aren't gonna get together or be friends. Now I feel like we broke up all over again. But it's done.
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