OliveOyl Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 A second date with a guy I met online. At the end, he kissed me. I don't mean a little goodnight peck either. I mean he leaned in and really kissed me. I was very surprised and it caught me off guard. I am way too old to be surprised by this kind of stuff, but there you go
MarlyStar Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 Did you want to kiss him? How do you feel about it?
PinkInTheLimo Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 A second date with a guy I met online. At the end, he kissed me. I don't mean a little goodnight peck either. I mean he leaned in and really kissed me. I was very surprised and it caught me off guard. I am way too old to be surprised by this kind of stuff, but there you go Don't know, if you don't really fancy the guy, is it a positive thing he kisses you? Also, I find kissing on a second date too early if it is someone you know via the internet. I would think of it as brutal. All depends on the dynamic of your contact of course. I had guys trying to kiss me after the first date when the date itself did not have a romantic character. Which in my opinion is logical because a first date is way too early for that. So I perceived this attempt at kissing me as something negative. Like that they were testing me or guys who would kiss no matter what woman. Each time that happened, I turned my cheek to them as fast as I could and never had another date with them.
denise_xo Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 A second date with a guy I met online. At the end, he kissed me. I don't mean a little goodnight peck either. I mean he leaned in and really kissed me. I was very surprised and it caught me off guard. I am way too old to be surprised by this kind of stuff, but there you go That's a really cute OP Hope you enjoyed it
Author OliveOyl Posted April 10, 2011 Author Posted April 10, 2011 Did you want to kiss him? How do you feel about it? I feel surprised and I will admit his forwardness during last night's date changed the whole dynamic. It was a little bit like Sabali's situation in http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?p=3336661#post3336661 although this guy and I do have a few things in common. This was our second or third date depending on how you look at it (we met in the online game one night last week, rofl). Before last night's date, I was pretty neutral. I thought he was nice but I wasn't really excited about it (no real "spark"). Honestly, I expected to friendzone him. So this was a movie date and we shared popcorn... and after the popcorn was gone, he took my hand and held it firmly throughout the whole movie. Surprise #1. After the movie we talked for a short while and then he walked me to my car, and kissed me. I had no time to make it a "cheek kiss" or anything like that. Not only was I surprised he kissed me but also that it was a pretty darn good kiss. It's been a long time for anything like that... I will say it knocked my plans for friendzoning out of the water. I realized last night that my natural tendency, unless someone actively changes things, is to friendzone guys. When I was younger, I tended to think and talk and analyze and over-analyze and by the time it was all done, guys often ended up being friends.
sumdude Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 I feel surprised and I will admit his forwardness during last night's date changed the whole dynamic. It was a little bit like Sabali's situation in http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?p=3336661#post3336661 although this guy and I do have a few things in common. This was our second or third date depending on how you look at it (we met in the online game one night last week, rofl). Before last night's date, I was pretty neutral. I thought he was nice but I wasn't really excited about it (no real "spark"). Honestly, I expected to friendzone him. So this was a movie date and we shared popcorn... and after the popcorn was gone, he took my hand and held it firmly throughout the whole movie. Surprise #1. After the movie we talked for a short while and then he walked me to my car, and kissed me. I had no time to make it a "cheek kiss" or anything like that. Not only was I surprised he kissed me but also that it was a pretty darn good kiss. It's been a long time for anything like that... I will say it knocked my plans for friendzoning out of the water. I realized last night that my natural tendency, unless someone actively changes things, is to friendzone guys. When I was younger, I tended to think and talk and analyze and over-analyze and by the time it was all done, guys often ended up being friends. This post should be tagged for all the 'how do I avoid the freindzone' threads. By not making a move (as simple as a kiss) within 2 -4 dates a man will end up in the freindzone. BTW sounds like a good thing. Let's hope this keeps up for you!
PinkInTheLimo Posted April 11, 2011 Posted April 11, 2011 This post should be tagged for all the 'how do I avoid the freindzone' threads. By not making a move (as simple as a kiss) within 2 -4 dates a man will end up in the freindzone. BTW sounds like a good thing. Let's hope this keeps up for you! I am a woman and I can tell you that if I consider you to be friend material and nothing more, nothing you will do can change that. It has in general to do with a lack of attraction and this can be because of a minor detail, for example a man's smell. If I don't like a man's smell, I cannot have a relationship with him. And I rarely like a man's smell. I know handsome guys who don't do anything for me because I don't like their smell. And I have known average guys to whom I was insanely attracted because of their smell.
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