Emotional men vs Non-emotional men

[orangelady]

Which one is more accepted and why?

 

I have come to a point in my life where if i show certain emotions, particularly those involving pain or love, I would be shamed. For me personally I simply learned to shut up, keep it to myself and fix it or if it cant be fixed then leave it. It's actually a rule of life for me.

 

I had a few female friends tell me not to do that and its wrong but i can't help to think otherwise. At the same time I am being told to man up about things. I'm not going to change but i was just curious if I'm the only one who thinks this way.

 

I'm asking because I'm still trying to find a balance in that area. I remember a post by either woggle or untouchable fire. that one of them became ashamed for a time to really care for a woman because many times caring is viewed as a weakness on a man's part or something to be taken advantage of because the man himself is weak. Not always but more true than not.

 

I felt the same way. But it was only recently that i learned that it isn't truly a weakness. But it isnt a strength either. Things like that makes me have to ask.

 

 

What do you think of a man who is emotional vs non-emotional. And a side question for women. Which one's are you more fond of and which one's would you rather be with?

 

I think a guy should be caring but in an assertive way, and not a girly way. I notice some men who are caring but in a very motherly way. I think it's best to be caring, in a FATHERLY way, not sure if you get me.

 

It's just like how men find some girls really annoying and a put off when they behave like a guy - loud, rude, etc etc.

 

Does it make sense? But certain, yes, please do care for us.

[persevere]

You are wrong. Show any emotional weakness (like sadness or crying) to a woman and you are toast.

 

So very true! In reality, most women want men with the emotional outwardness of a sloth. No display whatsoever of feelings unless it's positive. Otherwise, we come across as not kissing their butts. Maybe that's why we play video games and watch porn to relieve tension?

[Pyro]

I think a guy should be caring but in an assertive way, and not a girly way. I notice some men who are caring but in a very motherly way. I think it's best to be caring, in a FATHERLY way, not sure if you get me.

 

It's just like how men find some girls really annoying and a put off when they behave like a guy - loud, rude, etc etc.

 

Does it make sense? But certain, yes, please do care for us.

 

my thoughts exactly. Show emotions but don't be a whiny bit*h about it.