orangelady Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 Which one is more accepted and why? I have come to a point in my life where if i show certain emotions, particularly those involving pain or love, I would be shamed. For me personally I simply learned to shut up, keep it to myself and fix it or if it cant be fixed then leave it. It's actually a rule of life for me. I had a few female friends tell me not to do that and its wrong but i can't help to think otherwise. At the same time I am being told to man up about things. I'm not going to change but i was just curious if I'm the only one who thinks this way. I'm asking because I'm still trying to find a balance in that area. I remember a post by either woggle or untouchable fire. that one of them became ashamed for a time to really care for a woman because many times caring is viewed as a weakness on a man's part or something to be taken advantage of because the man himself is weak. Not always but more true than not. I felt the same way. But it was only recently that i learned that it isn't truly a weakness. But it isnt a strength either. Things like that makes me have to ask. What do you think of a man who is emotional vs non-emotional. And a side question for women. Which one's are you more fond of and which one's would you rather be with? I think a guy should be caring but in an assertive way, and not a girly way. I notice some men who are caring but in a very motherly way. I think it's best to be caring, in a FATHERLY way, not sure if you get me. It's just like how men find some girls really annoying and a put off when they behave like a guy - loud, rude, etc etc. Does it make sense? But certain, yes, please do care for us.
persevere Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 You are wrong. Show any emotional weakness (like sadness or crying) to a woman and you are toast. So very true! In reality, most women want men with the emotional outwardness of a sloth. No display whatsoever of feelings unless it's positive. Otherwise, we come across as not kissing their butts. Maybe that's why we play video games and watch porn to relieve tension?
Pyro Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 I think a guy should be caring but in an assertive way, and not a girly way. I notice some men who are caring but in a very motherly way. I think it's best to be caring, in a FATHERLY way, not sure if you get me. It's just like how men find some girls really annoying and a put off when they behave like a guy - loud, rude, etc etc. Does it make sense? But certain, yes, please do care for us. my thoughts exactly. Show emotions but don't be a whiny bit*h about it.
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