How do I know if he was lying to me?

[jenxbunnyx05]

I get weird feelings that, well now my ex, was a liar. We just broke up but I really believe he's lied to me. I went to Vegas for my sister's 21st last year and we went to the Thunder from Down Under show and I took a picture with one of the guys for memories. When I got home, I showed him the picture. I'm a very honest and very open person with him and I do not like hiding anything from him. Later that week, I found the picture erased. He denied he deleted it and says that since I had just been out with my friends that maybe they did it.

 

Then, I found FB pages of other girls on our computer. He denies how they ever got there. Then, he even lied to me about giving his mom my cranberry pills I use every now and then. I found out about that because his sister said thank you and when I asked him he told me he never did and I asked him what happened to them then and he finally confessed.

 

Now just recently, on FB he hid that he was in a relationship with me and he hide his friends. But he was very worried that I was going to change my status to single. I asked him why he hid it to private and he's denied that too. I asked if he did it because he was mad at me, and he says he didn't do anything. Then a few hours later after I brought it up, it was back to normal again where you can see that he was in a relationship.

 

Is he a pathological liar? Did I do a good thing by leaving him? He swears he's never lied to me...but I just don't believe it.

[lenny]

I'd think it's kind of hard to say for sure.

 

Files can accidentally get deleted off computers and facebook is pretty flakey these days (just last week had one of my closest girlfriends went off on me about why I blocked them from fb when I never did - then the access just restored itself with no intervention).

 

As to the pills, it could be someone saw them and said "hey do use these and if not can I have them" and he said sure and totally forgot about it.

 

If you're broken up now does it really matter?

[Losing Faith]

RUN for the door... don't walk. You made the right decision. He sounds like a pathological liar. You flat out caught him in lies and he is still denying them.

Don't questions yourself. I'm sure you miss him cause you cared about him, but there are better guys out there. You made the right decision!!! It will get easier to move forward, just give it time and stay away from him.

 

If you accept his lies now, they will only get worse with time. You'll be ok. You'll find someone you can trust and not have to question. Keep your chin up and be thankful to be done with him before you wasted too much time.

 

Wishing you all the best!

[Phateless]

I get weird feelings that, well now my ex, was a liar. We just broke up but I really believe he's lied to me. I went to Vegas for my sister's 21st last year and we went to the Thunder from Down Under show and I took a picture with one of the guys for memories. When I got home, I showed him the picture. I'm a very honest and very open person with him and I do not like hiding anything from him. Later that week, I found the picture erased. He denied he deleted it and says that since I had just been out with my friends that maybe they did it.

 

Then, I found FB pages of other girls on our computer. He denies how they ever got there. Then, he even lied to me about giving his mom my cranberry pills I use every now and then. I found out about that because his sister said thank you and when I asked him he told me he never did and I asked him what happened to them then and he finally confessed.

 

Now just recently, on FB he hid that he was in a relationship with me and he hide his friends. But he was very worried that I was going to change my status to single. I asked him why he hid it to private and he's denied that too. I asked if he did it because he was mad at me, and he says he didn't do anything. Then a few hours later after I brought it up, it was back to normal again where you can see that he was in a relationship.

 

Is he a pathological liar? Did I do a good thing by leaving him? He swears he's never lied to me...but I just don't believe it.

 

Wow, this guy is just embarrassing himself. I think you are so glad to be rid of him. I say you just unfriend him and go on with your life.

[jenxbunnyx05]

Yes. I do feel I made the right decision too! I kinda felt at one point maybe it was just me, that's why I posted this. I needed some outside thoughts. Thanks! I really appreciate everyone's advice!