StunnaWitFlyIce Posted March 29, 2004 Share Posted March 29, 2004 Theres this gurl who rides my bus, she isnt the best lookin , a tomboy sorta, she is cute 2 me and i like her and stuff , i have wrote peoms for her, i have tried 2 give them 2 her but im just 2 scared, everytime i get close 2 her i make her laugh sometimes but i dont talk 2 her much. What should i do since she doesnt know my well and how do i tell her i like her?(i am a quit guy yet very funny when people over hear me, im dark skinned she is a lil lighter than me, i have sorta long hair, glassess, and have extremely low self of steem) got any advice there? please help me because i dont want another rose to wither and die from my life PS:Never had a gurlfriend Link to post Share on other sites
lilvoyce7321 Posted April 3, 2004 Share Posted April 3, 2004 Girls are just as nerveous as boys. Try sitting next to her on the bus. Then say hello. Try to make conversation with her. Become friends first, so that you are both comfortable. Then ask her is she has a boyfriend. If she says no, ask her if she would like one? BTW...How old are you?!?!? Link to post Share on other sites
Darkangelism Posted April 3, 2004 Share Posted April 3, 2004 She might get creeped out by the poems if you havnt talked to her, trust mme on this one, i made that mistake. Link to post Share on other sites
capitald Posted April 3, 2004 Share Posted April 3, 2004 never give a girl a poem that you don't know if the poem is about her, she just might call the cops. Also, the bus is a terrible, terrible pick up spot!!! Link to post Share on other sites
DerangedAngel Posted April 3, 2004 Share Posted April 3, 2004 I must agree with Dark, don't give her the poems until you have talked to her and established some kind of friendship. Or better yet, wait until you have asked her out... and just use them as a way to let her know how you're feeling then. I've had a few notes/poems from "secret admirers" and I was totally creeped out by some. Try finding out if you have anything in common. Since you think your sense of humor is a strong-point you have, use that as well. I love a guy who can make me laugh. I'm sure she'll be just as nervous as you, and once you start talking to her, you'll more than likely be able to tell if she's interested in you, too. Good luck! -Deranged (p.s. don't refer to her as a 'ROSE' yet. ) Link to post Share on other sites
Darkangelism Posted April 3, 2004 Share Posted April 3, 2004 Yeah no calling of girls that you are not at least friend's with rose. <y own poems nearly got me suspended, bad, i walked out no punishment, but thats just luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Darkangelism Posted April 3, 2004 Share Posted April 3, 2004 Originally posted by DerangedAngel I've had a few notes/poems from "secret admirers" and I was totally creeped out by some. not surprising, i mean you are so...oh nm, i wont say it,lol Link to post Share on other sites
Author StunnaWitFlyIce Posted April 8, 2004 Author Share Posted April 8, 2004 It was the friday befor spring break we were the only 2 peoples on the bus and i said what the heck and gave her a dumbed down redition of the poem. i did add at the end tho that i know she doesnt know me very well i just wrote this poem for her. i dont think she is the type of gurl to call the cops or anything i just messed up and will get whats left of my retarded heart broken in my first and only attempt at finding love. any advice for how i should approach my situation on the mondya i return to school. its been almost a week and i think she has had time to digest my stupid words, so now she only has 2 tell me sorry your a nice guy but no. sooo wat should i do now that she has the poem ??? PS: to all the smart peoples out there who thought i called her a rose, no u are sadly mistaken i used a metaphore saying i dont want another rose to wither out of my life, meaning i just dont wanna see another gurl i like just slowly fade away. Link to post Share on other sites
Darkangelism Posted April 8, 2004 Share Posted April 8, 2004 ugh u might have messed up, she will think you are too afraid to talk to her. Link to post Share on other sites
capitald Posted April 8, 2004 Share Posted April 8, 2004 Well all I have to say is that three people gave you a pretty strong idea that doing it would be a bad idea and you ignored us and went and did it anyway. That is reason enough for this girl to be scared. Link to post Share on other sites
Heartfelt Posted April 8, 2004 Share Posted April 8, 2004 Just get back to making her laugh and carry on a regular conversation with her. But whatever you do, don't act scared of her. Be confident. Look her in the eyes, ask her how her day is going and be willing to talk about whatever she wants to discuss. If she seems distant, and acts like she's trying to avoid you, then maybe she isn't interested. But then again, she could be playing hard to get. However, do something like write her a note that says "I really enjoy being around you and I'm going to go out on a limb here and muster up the courage to ask you out. Here is my number and if you are interested, then call me." No harm done, no strings attached. Just make sure she knows you enjoy her as a friend but would like to take it up a notch if she's interested. And if she is, she'll call, if not, just continue to be friends with her and talk to her on occasions you two run into each other. Don't chase though. Move on and find you another one. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Author StunnaWitFlyIce Posted April 8, 2004 Author Share Posted April 8, 2004 i gave her the letter befoe i read the advice u were all to late by the time u responded Link to post Share on other sites
Heartfelt Posted April 8, 2004 Share Posted April 8, 2004 Originally posted by StunnaWitFlyIce i gave her the letter befoe i read the advice u were all to late by the time u responded The post you made at 12:47 earlier today is the one I'm responding to. Link to post Share on other sites
Tkay Posted April 9, 2004 Share Posted April 9, 2004 walk up to her say hi did u like my poem? no -> ok then i know enough ye it was cool -> ohh.. could I have ur phone number? maybe we could go out together sometime! Link to post Share on other sites
Author StunnaWitFlyIce Posted April 9, 2004 Author Share Posted April 9, 2004 thanks, that advice is amzingly simple and i will try it out. unlike the rest of the peoples post who seemed to point fingers a little to much. well thankz. umm although one more lil problme . i sorta dont know what its like to have friends or have a gurlfriend at all for that matter. im not a bad person to get along with or fat, or a obsessed geek or something i know what can be said without her thinkin im craZy. but umm how do i exactly go allong with this if she says yes she likes me? Link to post Share on other sites
Tkay Posted April 9, 2004 Share Posted April 9, 2004 Originally posted by StunnaWitFlyIce thanks, that advice is amzingly simple and i will try it out. unlike the rest of the peoples post who seemed to point fingers a little to much. well thankz. umm although one more lil problme . i sorta dont know what its like to have friends or have a gurlfriend at all for that matter. im not a bad person to get along with or fat, or a obsessed geek or something i know what can be said without her thinkin im craZy. but umm how do i exactly go allong with this if she says yes she likes me? first: My advice is simple, I don't point fingers or anything, but that doesn't mean its right or anything. you don't know how it is to have friends? I think you should become more social and stuff, get more friends, before you get a girlfriend. well thats my opinion. anyway, she won't just say hmm i liked your poem now lets have a relationship! ofcourse, if she gives you her phone number or agrees to go on a date you don't have to go like WHOW I NEVER EXPECTED THAT! HAHA I MUST BE DREAMING! You'll sound like a geek. Just say something like great thanks if she gives u her phone number, call her the next day! and set up a date e.g. a movie or something, you know. this is how i do it don't try to make your move yet,just try to get to know her better (typical 1st date -> questions about her hobby,friends,pets , ...) at the end of the date give her a kiss on the cheek and ask if she wants to meet again sometime. don't choose a day yourself, ask when she's available. if she says i'm kinda busy ... sorry you're out probably. (unless she actually is a very busy person) you can make ya "move" on the second date or something. or well if u think it's going smooth 1st date u can try something anyway (little body contact, first just accidental, then sometimes touch her when you talk like when you say something funny you go hahaha *'pushes' her* etc.. hard to explain ) If she doesn't agree to go on a date or give her phone number don't be sad, really. I've noticed life is too short to be sad over girls all the time. Just say ok fine too bad cya around. Once again, I'm not claiming that my advice is good or anything, wait for replys on my comment before you act further Link to post Share on other sites
miekoveli Posted April 10, 2004 Share Posted April 10, 2004 StunnaWitFlyIce, I guess sometimes I just got to teach some people on dating... Its funny how guys who whine that they can't meet any chick and then they stay home and masturbate on a Friday night, how sad is that huh Some guys can't even get laid or get a phone number from a chick you want to know why right? well its ovious YOU don't spend time with women... StunnaWitFlyIce, so to make it clear for you YOU got to understand that YOU make the move never expect women to make a move on you, it's just not going to happen As for attraction, women don't like Mr. nice guy... neither do clingy, neaty or predictible guys.. it's just too boring for them.. Be FUNNY and try to be Cocky at the same time.. these things sparks women's attraction... It's a way of flirting, teasing, and interacting with women that they enjoy.. AND Telling them that, YOU'RE confedent, intellegent, and just plain charming... You notice how Girls are attracted to jerks? that's why... am not telling to be a jerk.. just be Funny & Cocky Women love when someone makes them laugh, even if you're making fun of them.. As for asking them out, DON'T ask them STRAIGHT UP! (e.x."You got a bf? want to have one?") That's just lame, Girls would think your just a straight up wuss trying to ask her out. And as for the poems... drop that! she probabbly got freaked out thinking wtf who's this kid a slalker? You got to put it these way... Dont just hit a girl.. hit MANY girls you can.. The objective is to get her number, a date, and her of course.... If you find an attractive women.. make a move and start a conversation... But remmember your objectives Well StunnaWitFlyIce, thats just the beginning it surely to lead you to an attractive girl... And Remember YOU make the move!.. AND never chase women.. let them chase you.. Here take this from me... i'ts like dealing cards.. you tell women you like them.. Then its up to them to get the cards.... and.. get out of the wussieness... --MIEKOVELI Link to post Share on other sites
Author StunnaWitFlyIce Posted April 10, 2004 Author Share Posted April 10, 2004 well thank u guys all of u, even tho some seemed a little blaming. well right now i feel like it was the dumbest thing ive done but il use your advice if i ever feel up to getting a gurlfiend in the futur. even tho all of this stuff seems completely complicated. well thanks, one more question umm well wat if she does like me and i actually awoke to the fact that she isnt really my type? should i just go along for the ride? Link to post Share on other sites
lostandblurred Posted April 10, 2004 Share Posted April 10, 2004 wtf who's this kid a slalker? I agree -- you never want to come across as a slalker. Slalking turns girls off. Seriously, though. If you like her now, don't worry about discovering she's not your type. I think you've got to actually be going out with her before you worry about your relationship shifting. I think talking about hypothetical shifts in hypothetical relationships is getting a little ahead of ourselves. Just trust that if you like her now, you'll probably wake up tomorrow and feel the same. Just don't be a slalker -- it's totally not cool to slalk. (I kid you, I kid you) Link to post Share on other sites
miekoveli Posted April 10, 2004 Share Posted April 10, 2004 StunnaWitFlyIce, you think everybody was borned with dating knowledge? NO that's why its up to you to find out... If you dont take your time to find out now.. then expect to be lonely for the next 20 years.. You know maybe if a girl is lonely and bored, she's probabbly going to go out with you... then your lucky.. but face it.. she's probabbly some ugly chick that you aint attractive too. Dating isn't that complicated ones you get it... It's funny cause one you get it.. so many girls would want to hang around you.. and actually talk to you.. Alwast remmember.. if you feel attractive to a women.. and she see's you as a "friend" Then forget her, look for another one. Cause if you want a Girlfriend you need to make the moves. If you want a just a "Friend" just dont do nothing.. simple as that.. Here.. try this.. its something i read from David DeAngelo: "how to get her number fast" First of all.. It's OK To Ask Immediately its amazing how many women would give their number or email after a 2minute conversation Do this: After talking for a minute or two, say "I'm going to get back to my friends" (Or whatever you were doing), and then turn away from her and begin to leave. Now, just after you break eye contact and turn away, TURN BACK and say "Hey!" She'll look back up, and be surprised... Start With Something "Low Risk" ...as she looks up, ask "Do you have email?" in a calm, normal tone of voice. When she says "Yes", say "Great, give it to me, I'd like to talk to you again". Then pull out a pen, and hand it to her. As she's writing down her email address, just as she writes the @ symbol (in other words, in the middle), say "...and write your number there too...". Finally, tell her to write her name down as well. Well i hope it works for you.. cause surely it worked for me... Link to post Share on other sites
Heartfelt Posted April 10, 2004 Share Posted April 10, 2004 hehe, ole DeAngelo. I've read some of his stuff. A lot of what he says is true, but the approach doesn't work like that with every woman. The female is a very complicated species and each one is unique. DeAngelo's biggest preach is don't be a whimp, and I agree 100% with that. But if you go out trying to get 10 numbers a night like he also says, then you're just going to come across as a player. If that's how you want to be, then go for it. Some women like that kind of a challenge but the one's looking for something deeper and more meaningful will just treat you as a friend or never give you a chance at all. I guess it's according to where you are in life and what you're looking for. Link to post Share on other sites
miekoveli Posted April 10, 2004 Share Posted April 10, 2004 Originally posted by Heartfelt but the approach doesn't work like that with every woman. It's kinda true, he never really explains how to approach women.. maybe he did? lol But yeah he knows what he's doing.. And i go with him 100% with the C&F(cocky&Funny) stuff.. I do belive women feel attractin when a person is using c&f he explains its like a magic weapon we got against them.. and yeah being wuss like he explain, i think is the act of not doing something due to the fear of rejection. Link to post Share on other sites
Tkay Posted April 11, 2004 Share Posted April 11, 2004 just wondering. u say get like multiple chicks their email & phone nr in 1 night. I get 1 phone number in 1 year or something. but its just because i don't really like the girls i see. If i really like them i will ask , but when im at a party or something , yes , i see good looking girls, often i would like to kiss them or something , but this has nothing to do with getting her phone nr and email. you freaked me out by saying you will be alone the next 20 years. is it really like this? aren't "serious" lads appreciated anymore? or maybe i am trying to fool myself that i'm one of those old skool serious guys? it often seems this forum isn't like real life. anyone i know in real life isn't like that,or are they just hiding it? Link to post Share on other sites
miekoveli Posted April 11, 2004 Share Posted April 11, 2004 Originally posted by miekoveli StunnaWitFlyIce, you think everybody was borned with dating knowledge? NO that's why its up to you to find out... If you dont take your time to find out now.. then expect to be lonely for the next 20 years.. I don't recall me saying spending the next 20 years alone. Maybe someone should carefully read what people post.. Dont you think? Am just a regular teenage guy trying to teach what i know... Link to post Share on other sites
Author StunnaWitFlyIce Posted April 14, 2004 Author Share Posted April 14, 2004 I give up, today the gurl i liked didnt even talk to me at all. i get the hint and well so thankz for all your help but i give up on gurls. So what is there to do know? Now that im depressed and have no chance of getting a gurlfriend or anything? Link to post Share on other sites
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