Greensleeves Posted February 8, 2011 Posted February 8, 2011 I have been dating a girl for close to a year and within our first few dates, she told me that the majority of her life, she has dated girls. She didn't want to spring anything on me after we had been dating a while and I respected that. She is gorgeous, funny, and extremely loyal. We are both almost 30 years old, are really really happy, and I can see myself marrying her. I would be lying if I said there wasn't a small concern in the back of my mind that maybe she is just trying this whole thing on. She gives me no indication that she is anything other than happy with us. Some guys would be all fired up about the possibility of threesomes and stuff like that but to me, that's the kind of stuff you do when you are single and wasted at a college party, not with someone you want to marry and have kids with. She makes me feel like I'm the only person on the planet and to be honest with you, I'm not particularly worried but I wanted to see if anyone else had been through a similar situation and see how it worked out. I always thought that people were hard-wired to like men or women and that the combination of their genes and hormones created that. I guess I can't figure her out in that regard and want to make sure that maybe it shouldn't be a red flag? Anyone else been in a similar situation?
TaraMaiden Posted February 8, 2011 Posted February 8, 2011 She's not a lesbian. She's bisexual. Trust me - a lesbian has as much desire to sleep with a man as you do. There may come a time in your relationship when she may suggest she needs a woman's touch, and not see it as cheating, but merely answering her 'lesbian persuasion' and seeking your ok to go over to the other side for a fling. I'm not saying she will, but there have been threads on this forum from partners of bi-sexual GFs/BFs who were asked to give such 'clearance'. It may be the farthest thing from her mind. It may well indeed never happen. I could just be putting forward a total hypothesis. But just so's you know? IF - IF mind you - If she ever does put it forward as a proposition - she's looking to cheat. Gender is immaterial. balling someone else while you're in a committed relationship - is cheating.
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