dreamingoftigers Posted May 6, 2011 Posted May 6, 2011 I don't think it would make the slightest bit of diffrence who spoke to her! She just doesn't care! Because you have not done yet, you do not know. Good book: How to Help the One You Love. Many of them need to lose before they smarten up. Mine lost everything. Life will be very hard for him for awhile. He has lost my respect as well. He would have been better off losing my love. That would have been easier to gain back.
Author russell1968 Posted May 6, 2011 Author Posted May 6, 2011 Yesterday was the 1st time in 5.5 months my enstranged wife didn't contact me, it was due to the fact that solicitors have sent her a signed copy of the seperation agreement! I have jsut recieved a very buisness like text from her regarding myself having the girls! I'm sad i tried so hard
mckardy Posted May 9, 2011 Posted May 9, 2011 There are various gift items which you can select as gift for your loved ones. You only have to search those gifts either in a mall or on internet. You can buy birthday gifts according to your loved one’s choice and also at a reasonable price. It is a wrong thinking that higher the price of the gift the more it is admired by the people. Gifts only represent the love and affection of a person for you. choose a lovely small gift and persuade your beloved.
change Posted May 9, 2011 Posted May 9, 2011 Because you have not done yet, you do not know. Good book: How to Help the One You Love. Many of them need to lose before they smarten up. Mine lost everything. Life will be very hard for him for awhile. He has lost my respect as well. He would have been better off losing my love. That would have been easier to gain back. Really, try an intervention. My wife never did that with me. I needed to see that she wasn't the only one that saw my problems. I needed to see that the world saw them and that they were real. I only saw that when she left and I lost everything. If a group of friends had gathered around me and told me to please seek help, I might have been lifted out of the fog enough to see that what my wife was saying was totally spot on. I'll never know, because this didn't happen. No one knew except here, and I was able to ignore it in all spaces except our home.
Author russell1968 Posted May 14, 2011 Author Posted May 14, 2011 Wow. wow, wow, It turns out she has been seeing another guy! The scumbag from down the road! There is no words that that can tell you how i feel,
willowthewisp Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 Wow. wow, wow, It turns out she has been seeing another guy! The scumbag from down the road! There is no words that that can tell you how i feel, The whole time?
Author russell1968 Posted May 15, 2011 Author Posted May 15, 2011 how did you find out? When? How you doing? She told me! Yesterday! I'm busted up!
Author russell1968 Posted May 15, 2011 Author Posted May 15, 2011 Yesterday my wife came round with girls, saying that she really wanted to work on our marriage and she had stopped taking drugs! We spent the day together, we held hands kissed, took the girls out! spoke about where the relationship went wrong, everything seemed like tit was going in the right direction, she went home and said she would come back later! One hour later she banged at the and just glared at me, i told her to spit it it out" she told me she had been seeing this guy ( It was like getting punched by Mike Tyson!) I asked how long it had been going on for, she sais just a month, i believe this may have been the cause of our split!Then person she is seeing has a daughter who is my daughters best freind and he is also the one she does drugs with! When i got myself together i called her and just asked if she loved him and she said very much so! ( I said i can't argue with that!) I told her i will be filing for divorce and she needs to leave me alone! I thnk he may have been in the car with her!!! 2.30 am she calls and asks if i'm ok, i told her no i'm not, i have held it together for months but i lost it! I then got lot's of texts telling me it was all my fault, and to keep lifting weights, but can't pro-long the inevitable. I'm a great guy and would make someone happy! Then just some meen stuff! I' havent slept i have my girls, im in a bad way, but i will be ok!
willowthewisp Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 Yesterday my wife came round with girls, saying that she really wanted to work on our marriage and she had stopped taking drugs! We spent the day together, we held hands kissed, took the girls out! spoke about where the relationship went wrong, everything seemed like tit was going in the right direction, she went home and said she would come back later! One hour later she banged at the and just glared at me, i told her to spit it it out" she told me she had been seeing this guy ( It was like getting punched by Mike Tyson!) I asked how long it had been going on for, she sais just a month, i believe this may have been the cause of our split!Then person she is seeing has a daughter who is my daughters best freind and he is also the one she does drugs with! When i got myself together i called her and just asked if she loved him and she said very much so! ( I said i can't argue with that!) I told her i will be filing for divorce and she needs to leave me alone! I thnk he may have been in the car with her!!! 2.30 am she calls and asks if i'm ok, i told her no i'm not, i have held it together for months but i lost it! I then got lot's of texts telling me it was all my fault, and to keep lifting weights, but can't pro-long the inevitable. I'm a great guy and would make someone happy! Then just some meen stuff! I' havent slept i have my girls, im in a bad way, but i will be ok! Sadly, as is often the case here on this board it has turned out she has been having an affair and playing you. It's called cake eating, they keep you going, move out, but still keep you going on a string (this is why she got upset when you followed trhough on the seperation agreement, because she could feel you starting to stand up for yourself and move away from her), then when she's "sure" the OM will be there for her, she drops the husband. She's a manipulative b!tch. You are far better off without a women like this, you will see that in time. As for relationship with OM, it won't last, it may only last a short while or it may continue for a while because now she has to prove she did the right thing. It will come crashing down eventually though, he's a cheater, and she's a cheater. I just hope when it does you will not want her by then, like Debtman. The nasty text messages are because somewhere deep down insiade she knows she has done wrong by cheating on you, she's projecting that on you, by blaming you she can absolve herself. Read debtmans threads and posts, he has handled it all really well, you have to not rise to the bate and go completely NC with regards her and LC ONLY about the children. Everything else IGNORE.
marqueemoon4 Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 (edited) she sucked you back in, got you vulnerable, and then stabbed you through the heart AGAIN. Please, do not let her do this anymore. She knows what you want but there is no way she is going to give it to you. Edited May 15, 2011 by marqueemoon4
debtman Posted May 16, 2011 Posted May 16, 2011 So sorry to hear about OM...but, remember this...he has NO IDEA what he's getting into. She will NOT get better or smarter or wiser by leaving you for him. She has so many problems, she's just masking them, burying them and it's only a matter of time before they come back up. You're better than this. Don't take it personally, she has MAJOR issues and, until she decides to REALLY face those issues and get help for them (which she may never do), you're better off without her around. Be there for your kids. Be there for YOURSELF. Put her behind you. Go as NC as you can. It can only help. Emotions are an incredibly tricky things right now...don't give into them. Deal with her as the mother of your children, NOTHING ELSE... Don't punish yourself because of HER inadequacies. She's not worth it. Believe in yourself. Believe that life WILL get better...because it WILL!! This is a temporary situation you are in. She has done you and your kids a favor. Someday, you and I will both thank our ex-wives for the opportunity they gave us to get our freedom, confidence and happiness back and the ability to share that with our kids is immeasurable... Good luck and keep posting...
Author russell1968 Posted May 16, 2011 Author Posted May 16, 2011 So sorry to hear about OM...but, remember this...he has NO IDEA what he's getting into. She will NOT get better or smarter or wiser by leaving you for him. She has so many problems, she's just masking them, burying them and it's only a matter of time before they come back up. You're better than this. Don't take it personally, she has MAJOR issues and, until she decides to REALLY face those issues and get help for them (which she may never do), you're better off without her around. Be there for your kids. Be there for YOURSELF. Put her behind you. Go as NC as you can. It can only help. Emotions are an incredibly tricky things right now...don't give into them. Deal with her as the mother of your children, NOTHING ELSE... Don't punish yourself because of HER inadequacies. She's not worth it. Believe in yourself. Believe that life WILL get better...because it WILL!! This is a temporary situation you are in. She has done you and your kids a favor. Someday, you and I will both thank our ex-wives for the opportunity they gave us to get our freedom, confidence and happiness back and the ability to share that with our kids is immeasurable... Good luck and keep posting... Thanks Debtman, Mm4, Willow. I found out where the other man's wife lived and went and saw her, he told her the same time she told me..His wife has cancer and is dying, i spent the day with her, i got a message from her she said she has gone away back Tuesday so i;m forced to stay at home with my girls as i don;t have any school uniforms, i cab't go to work either, i have just been destroyed!
marqueemoon4 Posted May 16, 2011 Posted May 16, 2011 Ugh.. it just keeps getting worse. My man, you have to somehow rise above it all. I'm struggling to do it too.. FORGET HER. She is a messed up, sh*tty person and she'll continue to drag you down if you let her. I know its hard to kill your feelings for her, but you have to push them down and be strong for your kids, they need you.
Author russell1968 Posted May 16, 2011 Author Posted May 16, 2011 Ugh.. it just keeps getting worse. My man, you have to somehow rise above it all. I'm struggling to do it too.. FORGET HER. She is a messed up, sh*tty person and she'll continue to drag you down if you let her. I know its hard to kill your feelings for her, but you have to push them down and be strong for your kids, they need you. Thanks MM4 I'm in shock! i have my girls today as she ran off
debtman Posted May 16, 2011 Posted May 16, 2011 Unbelievable...you have to face this as a test of your resolve, for yourself and for your kids. You WILL overcome this and you will come out a stronger person, with a better relationship with your kids. They need you more now than ever. Let her go, she's not worth a second thought... Good luck and keep posting...
Author russell1968 Posted May 16, 2011 Author Posted May 16, 2011 Unbelievable...you have to face this as a test of your resolve, for yourself and for your kids. You WILL overcome this and you will come out a stronger person, with a better relationship with your kids. They need you more now than ever. Let her go, she's not worth a second thought... Good luck and keep posting... Thanks, Debtman! She left me a ****ty email, saying that i was pathetic as i didn't want to pick up the phone! i dropped the girls back to her, i didn't even look at her, she may of said something but i was laready walking away! Ok, so let the healing begin!
debtman Posted May 16, 2011 Posted May 16, 2011 She's just lashing out, trying to get a reaction. Give her nothing. Be there for your kids, other than that, work on yourself and work on re-building your life. She will regret this someday...if she's lucky... Good luck and keep posting...
What_Next Posted May 16, 2011 Posted May 16, 2011 Ahh that just plain sucks. Honestly I cannot say I am surprised though. This will only serve to help strengthen your resolve. At least you can walk away with your head held high. It's always darkest right before the storm right? No worries, this will pass and some day it will be but a distant memory.
willowthewisp Posted May 16, 2011 Posted May 16, 2011 OMG I totally despair of some human beings, your wife is having an affair with a man married to a women who is DYING OF CANCER! FFS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! What the hell is wrong with these people. Russell, I pray that you can finally see just what a piece of cr*p your wife is. I don't care if she has drug problems, she's cheating on a women dying of cancer, I mean come on, imagine that poor women and what she is having to deal with, she's facing an agonizing, long death and knows it is coming. FFS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Frankly your wife wants taking outside and horse whipping. Man am I mad! She'll get hers though, she has a man who is cheating on his dying wife. Imagine what he is capable of doing to her. Russell, forget her, she's not worthy of you.
Author russell1968 Posted May 16, 2011 Author Posted May 16, 2011 OMG I totally despair of some human beings, your wife is having an affair with a man married to a women who is DYING OF CANCER! FFS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! What the hell is wrong with these people. Russell, I pray that you can finally see just what a piece of cr*p your wife is. I don't care if she has drug problems, she's cheating on a women dying of cancer, I mean come on, imagine that poor women and what she is having to deal with, she's facing an agonizing, long death and knows it is coming. FFS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Frankly your wife wants taking outside and horse whipping. Man am I mad! She'll get hers though, she has a man who is cheating on his dying wife. Imagine what he is capable of doing to her. Russell, forget her, she's not worthy of you. I coudn't agree more!!!!!! I just found out that the Om's wife took a overdose last night!! My x bitch has already started dicking me around with my girls! she is trying to control me!
Author russell1968 Posted May 16, 2011 Author Posted May 16, 2011 I would like to thank Robf1971, Whats next, mm4 Hopes and dreams, willow, steadfast, Debtman, You have helped me so much in a time when i felt like giving up! I wasn't a very good husband! I tried my best to get my wife back(It didn't work!) I walk away from this with my head held high! i am a better person now!
willowthewisp Posted May 16, 2011 Posted May 16, 2011 I coudn't agree more!!!!!! I just found out that the Om's wife took a overdose last night!! My x bitch has already started dicking me around with my girls! she is trying to control me! Poor women. Time to speak to your family solicitor Russell, time to get a contact order from court if she is not going to be amicable and go mediation to draw one up. Mediation would be better, see what your lawyer thinks. Document everything, the drug use, the affair, her beahviour, everything. If you can get proof of the drug use even better, I think you said a hair strand test would be needed but you can always call crime stoppers anaymoulously when you know she is in possession, get the b!tch arrested, end of problems re your girls, possibly, again need to speak to your lawyer. I would like to thank Robf1971, Whats next, mm4 Hopes and dreams, willow, steadfast, Debtman, You have helped me so much in a time when i felt like giving up! I wasn't a very good husband! I tried my best to get my wife back(It didn't work!) I walk away from this with my head held high! i am a better person now! No thanks needed and unless you were abusive or committed adultery nothing warrants this, she made vows to work on your marriage, for better, for WORSE, you were willing, she should have honoured her committment. Clearly she has either has no morality whatsoever or she is so screwed up mentally she turned to drugs to escape and that is fuelling the behaviour, even so, she still knows what she is doing and this is not your fault. Most important thing now is to protect your children from her influence.
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