Frank13 Posted April 2, 2011 Posted April 2, 2011 I do love her thats because i'm a loyal person. That doesn't even make sense. You are trying to say you love someone you shouldn't because you are of such great character. One doesn't have anything to do with the other. Look guys i realise this now, my wife is gone! She has been replaced by some kind of monster! Same thing you said 2 months and 5000 messages ago. The cycle repeats for the 1000000th time.
Author russell1968 Posted April 11, 2011 Author Posted April 11, 2011 Hey Marquee, As of Saturday morning she wants to move back in and give our relationship another go?? She will probably change her mind by this weekend, she can't move back until June so alot can happen between now and then....She has agreed to stop taking coke, we will have to see
Author russell1968 Posted April 15, 2011 Author Posted April 15, 2011 Just a quick update, my wife has signed the seperation agreement i have paid her off and the house is legally mine. Sad! but now i can lock all my doors and have some privacy.. With regards to her drug problem, i honestly don't know as i have had very little contact with her.. I continue to have my girls as much as possible. i have some kind of closure now, so i can go away and mend
worldgonewrong Posted April 15, 2011 Posted April 15, 2011 God bless you, Russell. I know you've been through hell and back. I wish you nothing but the best.
What_Next Posted April 15, 2011 Posted April 15, 2011 Good for you. I know that must have been very hard. You made the right decision. As sad as it sounds your wife must face her own demons. You need to do what is right for you and your children. Addiction is a powerful force and it can destroy lives in an instant. I wish you the very best.
Author russell1968 Posted April 15, 2011 Author Posted April 15, 2011 Thanks Wgw,thanks Whats next. I have my girls for 3 nights now so i can put all my energy into them. It's been 5 months to the day since it all went wrong. She is definetly not the same person i fell in love with! It's still very raw, but i have my daughters who are a gift, also a house that she cant snort up her nose.. She has already been texting asking me to let her know when i start seeing someone else, i think reality is going to slap her around her face very soon!
Author russell1968 Posted April 18, 2011 Author Posted April 18, 2011 Just had a great weekend end with my girls!~ We didn't do a great deal but still managed to have some fun! I avoided my wife this morning when she came to pick up the girls (Had the babysittter There) then i got bombarded with obnoxious texts. She also sent me a text please give me the respect and courtesy and let me know if you start seeing some i would like to know and make sure your sure. I' finally feel that i may have turned a corner, i honestly felt like my life was over, but it really isn't!
UnsureinSeattle Posted April 18, 2011 Posted April 18, 2011 Sounds like you already are starting to mend. Well done.
Binster Posted April 18, 2011 Posted April 18, 2011 Good luck Russ, I know things aren't much better but your turning the corner while your wife's still in a tailspin.
robf1971 Posted April 18, 2011 Posted April 18, 2011 Just a quick update, my wife has signed the seperation agreement i have paid her off and the house is legally mine. Sad! but now i can lock all my doors and have some privacy.. Excellent, so you can change the locks now?
Author russell1968 Posted April 18, 2011 Author Posted April 18, 2011 Excellent, so you can change the locks now? i have the keys back! she has no further finacial hold on me!
Author russell1968 Posted April 19, 2011 Author Posted April 19, 2011 Yesterday, i felt like i was moving on today i feel alone, sad and a bit hopeless. Even though it's been going on for 5 months i have only been legally seperated for 5 days. I need to start mending, any advice?
marqueemoon4 Posted April 19, 2011 Posted April 19, 2011 i know what you mean.. i felt ok yesterday and today I'm upset and my stomach is hurting. I'm pretty sure she is pulling some thing where she is going to get "her own" place, have that scumbag she's with live with her and pay for everything and have my son live there too. Like I'm not going to figure this out? I'll do everything in my power to keep my son from living under the same roof as this person.
robf1971 Posted April 20, 2011 Posted April 20, 2011 I need to start mending, any advice? Ok, it's 25 degrees, the sun is shining, the skirts are short.. Look on Ebay you can pick up a cheap second hand (oldish but still cool) Saab or Audi convertible, bit of ACDC/ Black Sabbath ie non weepy music on the CD player. Then join some good socialising groups, and enjoy. I think you've earnt the right to treat yourself to a mini mid life crisis all of your own
Author russell1968 Posted April 20, 2011 Author Posted April 20, 2011 Ok, it's 25 degrees, the sun is shining, the skirts are short.. Look on Ebay you can pick up a cheap second hand (oldish but still cool) Saab or Audi convertible, bit of ACDC/ Black Sabbath ie non weepy music on the CD player. Then join some good socialising groups, and enjoy. I think you've earnt the right to treat yourself to a mini mid life crisis all of your own Rob, good to hear from you! Loving a bit of AC/DC, with regards to a car i have put my M3 up for sale today,gutted Well i sent her a text saying that i had handed in the seperation agreement and i completly agreed with her that we should go our seperate ways, it went silent then it started, with are you seeing someone else? Then it was you gave up on us! I never really loved her! Then she said i had the agreement for months and didnt hand it and i thought to myself yer but i have just put 15k in your bank account !! She then called me, i was actually sleeping, she was clearly pissed off at me for handing the agreement in, i said look thats what you wanted me to do/ She said i say a;lot of things, She then started to tell me that we would definetly be back together at some point, she then said how much of a bad husband i was i agreed with her, that hit her for 6! i agreed with everything she said! She was at a loss.. Nothing has changed for me!
betterdeal Posted April 20, 2011 Posted April 20, 2011 Fogging is a good tactic. You just agree with every ridiculous thing they say. And then you remember to put your phone on silent before you go to sleep.
Author russell1968 Posted April 20, 2011 Author Posted April 20, 2011 I think i would probably get more sense talking to charlie Sheen than i would with my wife! I can't keep up with her madness, she has lost her youth it's not my fault!
willowthewisp Posted April 20, 2011 Posted April 20, 2011 Oh geez, she was after the 15K for drug money as she has spent all she had and now she is freaking because she knows you are done! She's not your problem anymore Russel, until she hits bottom on those drugs she will not see sense, when she does you can reassess if you wish to do so at that time, until then, just keep focusing on you and your girls. This weekend is going to be HOT HOT HOT well for England anyway! LOL Head of out to the beach if you can or a pub, enjoy yourself, go chat to some women (not suggesting you do anything more than chat, bad idea at the moment, rebound central, not fair on anyone), but no harm in a bit of flirting.
Author russell1968 Posted April 23, 2011 Author Posted April 23, 2011 t's was my weekend off! 9.30am i had just finiished cleaning my car as i had a potential buyer coming down, my wife turns up out of the blue with my daughters before i know it there all in my front room, my wife looks pissed off ( Nothing new!) She said she feels very unwell and could i have the girls for a couple of hours i told her i have someone coming for a test drive and then im off to see a band and going to the movies tonight, she saidshe would wait until the guy has been and all she wanted was a couple of hours sleep, i agreed, she called up 30 mins later, saying she wasn't going to pick them up tonight and Ihad just made up the fact i'm going out, i very rarely lose my temper but on this occasion i did, it's 75 degrees here, i had no sun tan lotion no car seats no push chair, i told her her behaviour was piss poor and hung up. I then got ten abusive messages saying i was a poor dad, i just sent one message saying just pick them up Tuesday morning! I accept my marriage is over my wife is a monster, but it seems i'm not even allowed my own life
hopesndreams Posted April 23, 2011 Posted April 23, 2011 The only one stopping you from having your own life is you.
dreamingoftigers Posted April 23, 2011 Posted April 23, 2011 t's was my weekend off! 9.30am i had just finiished cleaning my car as i had a potential buyer coming down, my wife turns up out of the blue with my daughters before i know it there all in my front room, my wife looks pissed off ( Nothing new!) She said she feels very unwell and could i have the girls for a couple of hours i told her i have someone coming for a test drive and then im off to see a band and going to the movies tonight, she saidshe would wait until the guy has been and all she wanted was a couple of hours sleep, i agreed, she called up 30 mins later, saying she wasn't going to pick them up tonight and Ihad just made up the fact i'm going out, i very rarely lose my temper but on this occasion i did, it's 75 degrees here, i had no sun tan lotion no car seats no push chair, i told her her behaviour was piss poor and hung up. I then got ten abusive messages saying i was a poor dad, i just sent one message saying just pick them up Tuesday morning! I accept my marriage is over my wife is a monster, but it seems i'm not even allowed my own life You seriously have to come up with some firmer booundaries and hold to them. I am guessing that she was out partying last night.
Author russell1968 Posted April 23, 2011 Author Posted April 23, 2011 Hey DMT, No she had my girls last night!But i expect there is a big party tonight! Honestly i would have driven them back to her house, but i don't have the car seats fitted, also i don't want my girls to be put in the firing line. She has turned into a real nasty piece of work!! She called me the other night and accused me of giving up on our, she also thinks she can walk back into this relationship whenever she wants! relationship! She has been asking me all week if i wanted to do something!
Author russell1968 Posted April 23, 2011 Author Posted April 23, 2011 The only one stopping you from having your own life is you. I'm trying, but if i can see my girls i will!
dreamingoftigers Posted April 23, 2011 Posted April 23, 2011 Are you trying to get sole custody? She does not sound stable at all.
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