Author russell1968 Posted February 7, 2011 Author Posted February 7, 2011 If you are having trouble coping, are anxious and sleeping badly maybe consider some anti-anxiety medication, temporarily? Just to give you're mind a rest for a bit. Hi Hopes, i would rather not go down that route! Things will get better
worldgonewrong Posted February 8, 2011 Posted February 8, 2011 I think that is a fair comment, i will step back and ignore her message! i'm sleeping so badly i have very little energy to do anything for myself+ i have my daughter-s most nights of the week.. Whats your name? My name's Jack. Treat yourself right, bro. Rooting for you.
Author russell1968 Posted February 8, 2011 Author Posted February 8, 2011 I keep making errors, I texted her and asked if you wanted to come help my decorate tonight after she finished college She wrote back , that she won't finish until 9.00, but she MIGHT come by if she is not too tired I can't seem to help myself
sammyd Posted February 8, 2011 Posted February 8, 2011 Russell, don't worry about it. Minor blip. Now back to what was working;)
robf1971 Posted February 8, 2011 Posted February 8, 2011 i'm sleeping so badly i have very little energy to do anything Brisk walk 3 hours before bedtime, a mile or two!!
Author russell1968 Posted February 8, 2011 Author Posted February 8, 2011 Brisk walk 3 hours before bedtime, a mile or two!! Rob, I'm a workout machine, it's the mind that won't shut down
robf1971 Posted February 8, 2011 Posted February 8, 2011 I keep making errors, I texted her and asked if you wanted to come help my decorate tonight after she finished college She wrote back , that she won't finish until 9.00, but she MIGHT come by if she is not too tired I can't seem to help myself Y'know what no big deal but I predict she won't come round becuase you pursued her. If you didn't text her I bet she would have come.. See what I'm getting at?
robf1971 Posted February 8, 2011 Posted February 8, 2011 Rob, I'm a workout machine, it's the mind that won't shut down when all the bad stuff was going down with me. I used to go to bed at 11 and wake up at 3am unable to sleep anymore. It passed in the end, now I get my 7 or 8 hrs like everyone else. Same will happen to you.
Author russell1968 Posted February 8, 2011 Author Posted February 8, 2011 Y'know what no big deal but I predict she won't come round becuase you pursued her. If you didn't text her I bet she would have come.. See what I'm getting at? Yep, i guess i knew that. we will see! But you have been right about most things. So, no more pursuing her whatsoever
robf1971 Posted February 8, 2011 Posted February 8, 2011 Rob, it's the mind that won't shut down This is where doing your own fun stuff comes in. Stop thinking about what wifey thinks, after all it doesn't seem that she cares very much what you think of her. Take a leaf out of her book
Author russell1968 Posted February 8, 2011 Author Posted February 8, 2011 Y'know what no big deal but I predict she won't come round becuase you pursued her. If you didn't text her I bet she would have come.. See what I'm getting at? Why is it like this? Is it just because it's game for her? She has been instigating all meetings recently!
worldgonewrong Posted February 8, 2011 Posted February 8, 2011 Why is it like this? Is it just because it's game for her? She has been instigating all meetings recently! It's like this because you are allowing her to call the shots. You need to send the message THROUGH ACTION that you're not tied on a string to her, at her whims.
robf1971 Posted February 8, 2011 Posted February 8, 2011 Yep, once you start living your own life and acting independent she will start chasing you even more, big time. Do yourself a favour go out tonight. Even if it's the cinema on your own.
Author russell1968 Posted February 8, 2011 Author Posted February 8, 2011 Yep, once you start living your own life and acting independent she will start chasing you even more, big time. Do yourself a favour go out tonight. Even if it's the cinema on your own. I would but, i have my daughters tonight! Why is she swaying from one thing to the next?
Author russell1968 Posted February 8, 2011 Author Posted February 8, 2011 Yep, i guess i knew that. we will see! But you have been right about most things. So, no more pursuing her whatsoever So, i have made progress but i keep making mistakes, i hope i haven't done anything that has made me gone backwards?
robf1971 Posted February 8, 2011 Posted February 8, 2011 I would but, i have my daughters tonight! Why is she swaying from one thing to the next? All women do that, all the time... it's just more extreme in our situations. Oh and part of it is you over reacting. Stabilise yourself and just watch the effect it will have on her. This is what turned my situation around.
Author russell1968 Posted February 8, 2011 Author Posted February 8, 2011 Rob, Do you think i have gone backwards? As we have been spending alot of time with each other? Do i need to stop this? our just wait for her to ask?
robf1971 Posted February 8, 2011 Posted February 8, 2011 Rob, Do you think i have gone backwards? As we have been spending alot of time with each other? Do i need to stop this? our just wait for her to ask? Look, wait for her to ask. If you feel like seeing her then great! At the same time don't be nasty to her. I'm just saying it would be helpful to get your own life and way more attractive to her. The image you give to her isn't a passive aggressive "I'm not speaking to you". It's more I'd love to see you but I'm really busy. Note you don't even need to tell her anything, your actions will speak for you. In fact 100's of times louder than any words. FFS, be out most nights she has the kids and your weekends. Anything, social groups, pub, cinema, the list goes on.
Author russell1968 Posted February 8, 2011 Author Posted February 8, 2011 I'm helping my wife's sister buy a house, she told me my wife just see's me as a freind? WTF does that mean?
marqueemoon4 Posted February 8, 2011 Posted February 8, 2011 I'm helping my wife's sister buy a house, she told me my wife just see's me as a freind? WTF does that mean? um, thats not good. you don't want to be her friend!
Author russell1968 Posted February 8, 2011 Author Posted February 8, 2011 um, thats not good. you don't want to be her friend! That's my thinking! Why did she kiss me last week?
Author russell1968 Posted February 8, 2011 Author Posted February 8, 2011 um, thats not good. you don't want to be her friend! That's my thinking! Why did she kiss me last week?
Author russell1968 Posted February 8, 2011 Author Posted February 8, 2011 I feel like giving up! I just feel like telling her to forget it
marqueemoon4 Posted February 8, 2011 Posted February 8, 2011 at this point it seems she is playing games with you and testing you over and over. probably should just go LC at this point, let her know you need time to figure out what you want and to improve yourself.
hopesndreams Posted February 8, 2011 Posted February 8, 2011 I feel like giving up! I just feel like telling her to forget it Don't tell her with words, do it with actions.
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