BF dumped me had date with him last night..cant read what he wants guys any ideas

[ttebb]

Hi all

 

Posted on here few months back, original thread here.

 

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?p=3080467#post3080467

 

He kept in contact we met a few times for a quick drink then last week he asked me over to his last night, we live 70 miles apart. Took me to the cinema then a meal, stayed at his just cuddled nothing more initimate made me breakfast this morning and I have just got home. He is coming to mine next weekend.

 

Just trying to work him I dont know if he is scared to commit as we did get on so great before, so guys out there be helpful to have your views.

We got on great last night just like we always have done. I did not say anything about the past. It was a date last night he was very attentive etc wouldnt let me pay for anything and it was great being next to him again.

 

Part of me wants to just walk away but i do love him (never told him). Dont know if i should just see what happens. (original thread has all the info)

 

Thanks for reading

 

Tony.

[b_rouse]

So I read your original post. I don't know if I'd want to spend time with him. While he sounds great with what you just posted, the original thread he sounds as if he's unsure.

 

It's normal to want a second chance after you break up the first time, but after a second and third time? I think he's just playing with your heart. If I were you, I would definitely talk to him about this. You have to bring this up, and it may be raw, and painful but it's something you have to do.

 

His past actions can't be over-looked. He left you twice, and now he wants to get back together...think about it. I honestly think he's just afraid to be alone in the world because he was married at one point. Divorce is a hard thing (I wouldn't know, I'm only 19, but I saw my mom go through it). The, "I'm going to be alone for the rest of my life," idea gets into your head. He may be thinking that, that's why you need to talk with him.

[ttebb]

Hi

 

Thanks for response, any guys out there that can help decipher please

 

Thanks

 

Tony

[C-dot]

He sounds to me like he's expecting sparks and fireworks... Maybe, the exact opposite from his marriage. I don't think leaving you because he "wasn't in love yet and should have been" was a valid reason, at all, and I can see why you're hurt.

I can't help feeling that if he really did want to be with you, he'd stay. If it were me, I'd tell him that you aren't a yo-yo, and if he wants to get back together, it'd have to be a real commitment, and he can't walk back out next time he gets confused.

[paleblue]

I read your other post also. And I will say the same thing. From a guy's perspective, he's just not that into you. You are a back up plan when he is feeling lonely and down in the dumps. You give him an ego boost. You make him feel good and then he goes back to his real life. That's all. Sorry. If he thought more of you than there would be no wishy washy behavior. He would be there consistently. And he would not be saying he made the wrong decision, leave you, or that he doesnt love you. He has already told you that TWICE.

 

Ya, it is a kick in the pants. So if you want to hear it for a THIRD time, just keep hanging out with him. I know, I used to treat girls the same way when I wasn't sure about them. I would juggle them until I met another one.

 

There's got to be someone else out there better for you. Just keep trying. Find the guy who is SURE about things and wont leave you. I know you wont tho, You will keep doing this until this one ditches you again.

 

That's my two cents.