Kain Highwind Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 I've never had feelings as strong as I have for this girl I'm always thinking about her, talking to her always cheers me up if I'm having a bad day, I like hanging out with her more than anyone else, I'm always happier around her than anyone else. Recently, whenever I listen to songs about love, I just get a great feeling that I can't describe. It makes me feel great. Her voice is beautiful, I just think everything about her is perfect. I've been in relationships before but I've never felt like this I care about her more than anyone and I'd do anything to make her happy. Just the fact that she is happy makes me happy. I mean if I ever get with her, I wouldn't even mind if sex was later. Any other relationship, yes, but with her... Just knowing that she cared about me would make me happy. Knowing that we are a big part of each other's lives
that girl Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 I think you can be in love with someone you aren't dating who you are friends with. I don't think you can be in love with someone you barely know. That is lust/infatuation.
Author Kain Highwind Posted November 5, 2010 Author Posted November 5, 2010 I've alwyas been under the impression that infatuation is where you have unreasonably strong feelings for someone you barely know I've known this girl for a little bit over a year and we talked ALOT over the past like six months (not counting this past month, where we sort of took a break). She came over to my house like three times a week and we talked on the phone for like three hours every night that she didn't through most of the summer
Cee Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 In my experience those feelings of love can turn into a satisfying platonic friendship. Probably not what you wanted to hear, but it's what has happened to me. As a consolation, an intense romantic relationship might only last a year or two, but a deep friendship can last decades.
gypsy_nicky Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 yes and its called unrequited love. Be careful OP. If you truly love this girl and want to pursue something deeper, I would advise you look for feelings of mutuality first. Usually because once they find out and are not interested, you and her will start to feel different then awkwardness sets in. Almost always it doesn't end well.
counterman Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 Yes, definitely with someone you're a friend with. If it was me, I would come out with it and she how she feels. If she doesn't feel the same way, then I would move on and cannot be friends with her until those feelings fade. From what I have observed, a lot of my friends got together with their close friends. As for me, a girl has never got that close to me as a friend because she could quite possibly fall for me and I just wouldn't feel the same. It has come close to happening several times actually. The girls disappear after finding out I'm not interested in something more than friendship.
Author Kain Highwind Posted November 5, 2010 Author Posted November 5, 2010 yes and its called unrequited love. Be careful OP. If you truly love this girl and want to pursue something deeper, I would advise you look for feelings of mutuality first. Usually because once they find out and are not interested, you and her will start to feel different then awkwardness sets in. Almost always it doesn't end well. Yes, definitely with someone you're a friend with. If it was me, I would come out with it and she how she feels. If she doesn't feel the same way, then I would move on and cannot be friends with her until those feelings fade. From what I have observed, a lot of my friends got together with their close friends. As for me, a girl has never got that close to me as a friend because she could quite possibly fall for me and I just wouldn't feel the same. It has come close to happening several times actually. The girls disappear after finding out I'm not interested in something more than friendship. I asked her out on a date (the day after she went on one with her current BF >_>) and she said we should take a break from each other. Its been about a month and I saw her the other day and she wants to be freinds again I'm willing to be friends just because she was a great friend to me. I'm happy with being friends and if something works out (since I have a feeling it may because we were WAY too close for friends), great. If not, at least we're friends
Author Kain Highwind Posted November 5, 2010 Author Posted November 5, 2010 And I'm totally comfortable saying I love her Even with exes, it was still "really lke" or like... This is the first time I feel like I can say love
Green Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 you don't really seem to know her. Just being some ones friend isn't like knowing them in the sense of a relationship. The fact that you are in love with some one who has a bf is unhealthy. Look you either make a full all out attempt to get her. That means TRYING MOVES like TOUCHING and KISSING her... or u just realize that u are going to be obsessing over a girl who will eventualy dump you even as a friend. You aren't going to lamely friend ur way into her heart.
Author Kain Highwind Posted November 5, 2010 Author Posted November 5, 2010 you don't really seem to know her. Just being some ones friend isn't like knowing them in the sense of a relationship. The fact that you are in love with some one who has a bf is unhealthy. Look you either make a full all out attempt to get her. That means TRYING MOVES like TOUCHING and KISSING her... or u just realize that u are going to be obsessing over a girl who will eventualy dump you even as a friend. You aren't going to lamely friend ur way into her heart. I felt like this before they got together I've tried making a move. When we were hanging out one time, I kissed her when she left and she didn't seem to mind at all (I mean we hung out the very next day) I mean, alot of my friends and the friends of her that I know thought we were already together just because of how close we were
GorillaTheater Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 I asked her out on a date (the day after she went on one with her current BF >_>) and she said we should take a break from each other. Its been about a month and I saw her the other day and she wants to be freinds again I'm willing to be friends just because she was a great friend to me. I'm happy with being friends and if something works out (since I have a feeling it may because we were WAY too close for friends), great. If not, at least we're friends She has a boyfriend and you asked her out anyways? Not too cool for several reasons: lack of respect for their relationship, lack of respect for her (thinking that she's the type of person to date behind her bf's back), and lack of respect for yourself. Trying to be her "friend" is going to be a total disaster. You don't want to be her friend, you want far more. Hope you can learn something, as you sift through the eventual wreakage.
Author Kain Highwind Posted November 5, 2010 Author Posted November 5, 2010 She has a boyfriend and you asked her out anyways? Not too cool for several reasons: lack of respect for their relationship, lack of respect for her (thinking that she's the type of person to date behind her bf's back), and lack of respect for yourself. Trying to be her "friend" is going to be a total disaster. You don't want to be her friend, you want far more. Hope you can learn something, as you sift through the eventual wreakage. This was before they got together It was like their first date and, true, it was a bad idea, but I've gone on two dates in a row with different people She did get mad and its understandable that she did, but she apologized for it (and I apologized too) and she wants to be friends again
Green Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 I felt like this before they got together I've tried making a move. When we were hanging out one time, I kissed her when she left and she didn't seem to mind at all (I mean we hung out the very next day) I mean, alot of my friends and the friends of her that I know thought we were already together just because of how close we were Stop playing the role of her friend and you'll actualy have a chance of finding a girl (maybe her) who likes you back. If I wanted to be a fireman yet worked as a police man and just talked about how I wanted to be a fireman and didn't apply to be a fireman and didn't even look into it what would you tell me to do? You want to be a lover in love yet you are a friend who is in love but doesn't take any steps toward being a lover
Author Kain Highwind Posted November 5, 2010 Author Posted November 5, 2010 Stop playing the role of her friend and you'll actualy have a chance of finding a girl (maybe her) who likes you back. If I wanted to be a fireman yet worked as a police man and just talked about how I wanted to be a fireman and didn't apply to be a fireman and didn't even look into it what would you tell me to do? You want to be a lover in love yet you are a friend who is in love but doesn't take any steps toward being a lover I can't really take a step now with her because she's with someone. The only thing I can really do is just be around her, like a friend, and if they split up, hope she has a change of heart If only she knew how much I care about her... She'd be my number one for sure.
GorillaTheater Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 This was before they got together It was like their first date and, true, it was a bad idea, but I've gone on two dates in a row with different people She did get mad and its understandable that she did, but she apologized for it (and I apologized too) and she wants to be friends again Fair enough. But my second paragraph still holds true. Good luck.
Green Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 I can't really take a step now with her because she's with someone. The only thing I can really do is just be around her, like a friend, and if they split up, hope she has a change of heart If only she knew how much I care about her... She'd be my number one for sure. Well if she doesn't know thats ur fault. Bottom line you can't friend your way into a girls heart. Start fresh and this time take the romantic aproach not the friend approach. Also remember a girl rejecting you is fine. Happens to most people including myself. I just kept on trying and bam got myself a great gf. I don't define myself based on if I am or am not dating... I just do enjoy life. Don't worry about all this its a non problem if you stop worrying about it.
Author Kain Highwind Posted November 5, 2010 Author Posted November 5, 2010 Well if she doesn't know thats ur fault. Bottom line you can't friend your way into a girls heart. Start fresh and this time take the romantic aproach not the friend approach. Also remember a girl rejecting you is fine. Happens to most people including myself. I just kept on trying and bam got myself a great gf. I don't define myself based on if I am or am not dating... I just do enjoy life. Don't worry about all this its a non problem if you stop worrying about it. I kissed her once and asked her out on a date I thoguht that would let her know how I feel >_>
Green Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 I kissed her once and asked her out on a date I thoguht that would let her know how I feel >_> k so wheres ur self respect, how can u stand to be around a girl who is going out with some one else. You should be bored and tired of this.
Author Kain Highwind Posted November 5, 2010 Author Posted November 5, 2010 k so wheres ur self respect, how can u stand to be around a girl who is going out with some one else. You should be bored and tired of this. I'm seriously thinking they won't last together fora few reasons
Green Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 I'm seriously thinking they won't last together fora few reasons She won't go out with you if you lamely just put your life on hold while you wait and see if things work out or not.
Author Kain Highwind Posted November 5, 2010 Author Posted November 5, 2010 She won't go out with you if you lamely just put your life on hold while you wait and see if things work out or not. I'm not. I'm looking for other women, but I'm staying by her too
Green Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 I'm not. I'm looking for other women, but I'm staying by her too You know what happens when you chase two different things at the same time going in different directions... YOu don't catch either. PM if you want but I don't think I'm getting through to you.
Author Kain Highwind Posted November 5, 2010 Author Posted November 5, 2010 You know what happens when you chase two different things at the same time going in different directions... YOu don't catch either. PM if you want but I don't think I'm getting through to you. I'm confused lol You told me that she won't get with me fi I dwell on her but now that I say I'm not and that I'm focusing on other women too, neither will work? What?
Green Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 I'm confused lol You told me that she won't get with me fi I dwell on her but now that I say I'm not and that I'm focusing on other women too, neither will work? What? Its called NC stands for (no communication) it means you have to stop talking, looking, THINKING about the person. You have to get over her.
Author Kain Highwind Posted November 5, 2010 Author Posted November 5, 2010 Its called NC stands for (no communication) it means you have to stop talking, looking, THINKING about the person. You have to get over her. Then I'll probably never get with her for sure :/ And she wants to break it so...
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