colliejoanie Posted October 26, 2010 Posted October 26, 2010 This may not be the right forum for this question, but I'll give it a try. I have a 2.5 yr old BEAUTIFUL daughter. I'm raising her by myself, and have since she was 9 months old. I have a permanent restraining order against her father and had one for her until a month ago, when it ran out. He is a dangerous man who was physically violent with me and also threatened to kill me and my family. I am currently getting help from the county for childcare, as I am a full time student and am working two part time jobs. He was ordered to pay a measly $50/month because he claimed to be unemployed. The child support goes directly to the county in repayment for my childcare. I got a call today from the county that my ex hadn't paid his child support in four months and that they were going to "go after him". Whatever that means. He is on probation for the domestic violence, and I think this is in violation of that probation......but my real question is...... It is so apparent this guy wants nothing to do with our daughter. Does anyone out there know if I can force him to sign away his rights. He hasn't seen her in over a year (we live 10 minutes from each other) and now he's refusing to pay that tiny amount. He's told people he doesn't even acknowledge her as his. I want his name off of her birth certificate. She is so better off without him!! This whole thing makes me so sad for her. I'm not in a relationship, so there is no one to adopt her.....would the courts even entertain him signing his rights away??
strength-abounds Posted October 26, 2010 Posted October 26, 2010 CJ It's hard to give advice when I do not know how your state handles Child and Family Services; however, during my career in public service, I have seen cases much like yours that end with the courts removing the parental rights from a parent. I don't want make any prejudgement about your financial status but there are avenues you can take. Call public aid and any form of Department of Children and Family services. Contact a family law attorney. Generally the initial consult is free. I'm sure they will direct through the appropiate channels. Make sure you have all records of any physical violence or verbal violence. Understand that the removal of parental rights will not happen overnight but it does happen. Good luck my friend.
Author colliejoanie Posted October 26, 2010 Author Posted October 26, 2010 Thanks! My original plan was to wait until I'm done with school to either make him pay more child support, or ask him to sign away his rights. I still have a year left however, and its very obvious he wants nothing to do with her. I don't want her getting older and having him show up back in her life. I don't care what the courts say, a man like this is not good for his children. Thanks again for the words.
strength-abounds Posted October 26, 2010 Posted October 26, 2010 If the father has no interest in being a part of the child's life, you might entertain the idea of ASKING this POS to sign away his rights. Who knows? He might do it and you won't have endure court date upon court date. A simple signature and it's done.
Doing it Since '78 Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 How can he see his child, when you have a permanent restraining order, I imagine barring him away from your property/person, or even contacting you to discuss any visitation arrangements? And IME, people usually only sign away their rights to get out of paying CS once the arrears get too expensive. Take him back to court and put some pressure on them to start suspending his license, and even jail time if necesarry- The state will also issue you TCA (Temporary Cash Assistance) until he is able to pay, make an appointment with your local CS office and see what your child is entitled too
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