Online Dating : What would a good first message be? (Part 2)

[U1987]

Okay, I'm really, really tired of explaining and justifying myself. I want EXACT, SPECIFIC examples of first messages I should send to a few girls' profiles just to get an idea of the format and contexts I should use for specific types of girls.

 

Unless you intend to type a serious example, do not respond to this thread. I will not answer you, because I've explained enough.

 

So what would a good first message be to the following profiles? (The exact words in what order please.)

 

Hey there..so idk wut to relli write in these things but here goes..im 20 i live by myself and work two jobs to try to support myself..i try to live my life to the fullest and make the best of everything although sometimes that isnt the easiest thing to do. I love meeting new people and am always will to talk. I love cars and im a certified auto mechanic i just graduated from XXXXXXXXXX =) If i sound at all intresting to you msg me..^.^

 

or this

 

heyy everyone im XXXXX i just recently turned 18 and im loving it. im bi-sexual so girls feel free to message me...hmm ill just tell a little about me my fav movies are alice in wonderland, all the saw movies, psycho, the birds, pretty much any scary movies. muisc i listen too pretty much any type of music except country...its not my favorite..but really anything else u wanna know just ask

 

or this

 

my names XXXXXXX. im 19. just lookin to meet new people & see what happens. things i loveee: dancing, poker, skiing, sarcasm, camping, parties, music, bob marley, movie nights, minigolf, the beach, my family, my friends, kids (in school to be a teacher), drives to nowhere things i hate: drama, rude people, broccoli, bad drivers anythin you wanna know just ask

 

Also, what do I type to girls who have NOTHING on their profiles?

[OceanGirl]

The first one sounds kind of down on life...

[Tim The Enchanter]

My email to the first one would be "Did you even go to school? Your spelling is attrocious".

 

To the second one, I'd say "Hi. I love watching lesbian porn, so it would be fine by me if you dated girls as well as me. So long as I can watch."

[OceanGirl]

Honestly, all 3 sound horrible. They better have really good pictures.

[U1987]

Honestly, all 3 sound horrible. They better have really good pictures.

 

 

Sadly, that's pretty typical of girls around my age; run-on sentences, text-speak, etc.

 

I really don't have anything to go on besides their pictures, but I can't say that to them. How do I extract something out of all that gibberish and make an attractive first message?

[Tim The Enchanter]

Tell them how much you can bench press.

[utterer of lies]

Sadly, that's pretty typical of girls around my age; run-on sentences, text-speak, etc.

 

I really don't have anything to go on besides their pictures, but I can't say that to them. How do I extract something out of all that gibberish and make an attractive first message?

 

You don't. Only converse with girls who aren't brain deficient.

[OceanGirl]

The other thing that I keep wondering about is do you only write to girls that are super hot? You are obviously not picking them based on their profile content. And you do realize that very hot girls get tons of messages? You are much better off writing to an average to slightly above average girl.

[Star Gazer]

Okay, I'm really, really tired of explaining and justifying myself. I want EXACT, SPECIFIC examples of first messages I should send to a few girls' profiles just to get an idea of the format and contexts I should use for specific types of girls.

 

You are not asking "just to get an idea" of what to say, otherwise the suggestions you've been given over your multiple threads on this subject would be sufficient. As you said in Part 1, you want exact language that you can cut-and-paste into a message to these girls.

 

What you're looking for is LS to do your dating and communicating for you. A forum version of Cyrano de Bergerac. What are you going to do when they respond? Come back here? What are you going to do when you're on the phone with them? Meeting them in person?

 

The key to successful online dating is to BE YOURSELF. As I said in Part 1, cutting-and-pasting someone else's words is no different than using someone else's pictures.

 

I hope for your benefit and the girls you're contacting that no one engages you in this activity. It's fake and manipulative to the highest degree.

 

Let's also hope none of these women are smart and think you may have used someone else's working and Google what you write...because it will come up here, on LS. And then you'll really look bad.

[Lakeside_runner]

You are not asking "just to get an idea" of what to say, otherwise the suggestions you've been given over your multiple threads on this subject would be sufficient. As you said in Part 1, you want exact language that you can cut-and-paste into a message to these girls.

 

What you're looking for is LS to do your dating and communicating for you. A forum version of Cyrano de Bergerac. What are you going to do when they respond? Come back here? What are you going to do when you're on the phone with them? Meeting them in person?

 

The key to successful online dating is to BE YOURSELF. As I said in Part 1, cutting-and-pasting someone else's words is no different than using someone else's pictures.

 

I hope for your benefit and the girls you're contacting that no one engages you in this activity. It's fake and manipulative to the highest degree.

 

Let's also hope none of these women are smart and think you may have used someone else's working and Google what you write...because it will come up here, on LS. And then you'll really look bad.

 

I was thinking that maybe if things become intimate he'll let us do it for him too...

[U1987]

You are not asking "just to get an idea" of what to say, otherwise the suggestions you've been given over your multiple threads on this subject would be sufficient. As you said in Part 1, you want exact language that you can cut-and-paste into a message to these girls.

 

What you're looking for is LS to do your dating and communicating for you. A forum version of Cyrano de Bergerac. What are you going to do when they respond? Come back here? What are you going to do when you're on the phone with them? Meeting them in person?

 

The key to successful online dating is to BE YOURSELF. As I said in Part 1, cutting-and-pasting someone else's words is no different than using someone else's pictures.

 

I hope for your benefit and the girls you're contacting that no one engages you in this activity. It's fake and manipulative to the highest degree.

 

Let's also hope none of these women are smart and think you may have used someone else's working and Google what you write...because it will come up here, on LS. And then you'll really look bad.

 

Did you not read what I posted?

 

Unless you intend to type a serious example, do not respond to this thread. I will not answer you, because I've explained enough.

[Star Gazer]

Did you not read what I posted?

 

Yes, I read what you posted. I still believe you need to write to girls/women using your own words, and by being yourself...not cloaked behind the words of someone here on LS. That's the advice I have for you.

[shy_guy]

Tell them how much you can bench press.

 

haha

 

 

10char

[U1987]

Yes, I read what you posted. I still believe you need to write to girls/women using your own words, and by being yourself.

 

I tried that already!

 

Remember my first post about online dating? Remember when I posted the messages I sent out and everybody here ripped on me? You all said my messages were stupid and annoying? (http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=249255)

 

Guess what? I was "being myself."

 

Obviously, "being myself" isn't working, so that's why I need specific examples as to what good first messages look like.

 

Please explain, why can't you just give that? Specific examples?

[flying]

I tried that already!

 

Remember my first post about online dating? Remember when I posted the messages I sent out and everybody here ripped on me? You all said my messages were stupid and annoying? (http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=249255)

 

Guess what? I was "being myself."

 

Obviously, "being myself" isn't working, so that's why I need specific examples as to what good first messages look like.

 

Please explain, why can't you just give that? Specific examples?

 

OP, why don't you just take the stuff we said in your other threads, craft some specific examples OF YOUR OWN, and we'll critique them again and offer suggestions on those? You're much more likely to get the focused responses you're looking for if you do that.

 

You got a lot of good advice on why those earlier efforts you made weren't working...just apply that advice, give it another try and post here. People will respond to that.

[U1987]

OP, why don't you just take the stuff we said in your other threads, craft some specific examples OF YOUR OWN, and we'll critique them again and offer suggestions on those? You're much more likely to get the focused responses you're looking for if you do that.

 

Because I don't want to keep repeating the same mistakes only to find that I've blown it with every girl on that site within a 15 mile radius of me. I don't want a poorly-worded sentence or a boring topic to be the difference between meeting someone really cool or getting my email deleted.

 

Now to repeat the original question.

 

If you were me, what would you specifically write to those 3 girls who's profile's I posted as an example?

[U1987]

ps : Do NOT post unless you intend to give a SPECIFIC EXAMPLE