Raderick Posted October 14, 2010 Posted October 14, 2010 (edited) I hate the bar scene. Hate it hate hate it hate it. I don't like the people that go there to get drunk, I never get good service (despite the fact that I have a couple family members that are bartenders) and I don't like meeting people at bars. Yet I notice that the majority of the women that I went out with (which isn't saying much, but nonetheless, a majority) swear by going out "to get drinks" (which I find a very cheesy and underwritten way of saying that you wanna go to the bar). To pile on, everyone I know likes to go to bars and each time I decline all invites to going to the bar. Edited October 14, 2010 by Raderick
Fouts Posted October 14, 2010 Posted October 14, 2010 Maybe it's just the chicks you're meeting. Most I've met like to go for coffee or something other than a club.
grungesponge Posted October 14, 2010 Posted October 14, 2010 Well as far as first dates go, grabbing drinks at a bar is the way to go. It is a really casual no pressure situation and gives an easy out if you happen to not like the person or the vibe is wrong. It's still very easy to have a drink or two and call it a night. It is not costly at all, not that I'm cheap, but I really want to make sure I can have a good time with someone before I take them out for a long dinner or event. Personally I like like to see that my potential SO can pound a few beers, otherwise that is a big red flag. And alcohol takes some of the edge off of meeting someone for the first time. The only drawback is the noise.
TaurusTerp Posted October 14, 2010 Posted October 14, 2010 Alcohol loosens people up, safe environment, good people watching, music, on and on and on.
Author Raderick Posted October 14, 2010 Author Posted October 14, 2010 Well as far as first dates go, grabbing drinks at a bar is the way to go. I can persononally think of so many great ideas for first dates other than a bar. Mini-golf anyone? Baseball game (given both of you are into the sport)? Picking berries at the local farm? Beach? Fishing? I like fun, active first dates. Plus often there will be single guys at the bar that the gal may take an eye for during the date, sometimes sidetracking things. The focus should be getting to know someone, not to get drunk.
Awesome Username Posted October 14, 2010 Posted October 14, 2010 I can persononally think of so many great ideas for first dates other than a bar. Mini-golf anyone? Baseball game (given both of you are into the sport)? Picking berries at the local farm? Beach? Fishing? I like fun, active first dates. Plus often there will be single guys at the bar that the gal may take an eye for during the date, sometimes sidetracking things. The focus should be getting to know someone, not to get drunk. I would certainly appreciate it if a guy was like, "You wanna play mini golf sometime?" It would be adorable and you'd stand out from the 100 guys that just want to go to a bar to get me buzzed.
Author Raderick Posted October 14, 2010 Author Posted October 14, 2010 I would certainly appreciate it if a guy was like, "You wanna play mini golf sometime?" It would be adorable and you'd stand out from the 100 guys that just want to go to a bar to get me buzzed. Wanna go play mini-golf on Friday? Oh, and by the way, it is a good way to break away from the pack, asking a gal to the bars seems so cookie-cutter.
alexlakeman Posted October 14, 2010 Posted October 14, 2010 Keep hating the bar / pub scene, especially for happy hour. They horrible. Sounds like my ex wife, hence EX!! So there are people you can meet at other venues Vs bars. Ie bingo hall Good luck! I love the bar scene - music, alcohol is flowing, a lot of women, dressed nice, a lot of chatting. Terrible!! LoL
Feelin Frisky Posted October 14, 2010 Posted October 14, 2010 "Drinks" is not really a date. It's just a feeler outer. If there is mutual attraction and willingness to date then I'd definetly do something else other than man a drinking station with her. Bars should never be a destination--a starter or a finisher perhaps but not not the date.
Author Raderick Posted October 14, 2010 Author Posted October 14, 2010 Keep hating the bar / pub scene, especially for happy hour. They horrible. Sounds like my ex wife, hence EX!! So there are people you can meet at other venues Vs bars. Ie bingo hall Good luck! I love the bar scene - music, alcohol is flowing, a lot of women, dressed nice, a lot of chatting. Terrible!! LoL Again I don't like talking to drunk people, hense why I don't like going to bars. Hell I've been sober for almost two weeks now and I wanna keep it that way for a while longer.
Gold Pile Posted October 14, 2010 Posted October 14, 2010 I hate the bar scene. Hate it hate hate it hate it. I don't like the people that go there to get drunk, I never get good service (despite the fact that I have a couple family members that are bartenders) and I don't like meeting people at bars. Yet I notice that the majority of the women that I went out with (which isn't saying much, but nonetheless, a majority) swear by going out "to get drinks" (which I find a very cheesy and underwritten way of saying that you wanna go to the bar). To pile on, everyone I know likes to go to bars and each time I decline all invites to going to the bar. Pile on bro.... (Gold) Pile on. Being as a dinner date usually includes drinks, I don't see whats the big deal with going to a bar. That said, I don't like crowded bars. (or crowded anywhere for that matter) Booze does help people loosen up, that's good. And if she decides to get plastered it dramatically increases her date's chance of getting laid.
callingyouuu Posted October 14, 2010 Posted October 14, 2010 Keep hating the bar / pub scene, especially for happy hour. They horrible. Sounds like my ex wife, hence EX!! So there are people you can meet at other venues Vs bars. Ie bingo hall Good luck! I love the bar scene - music, alcohol is flowing, a lot of women, dressed nice, a lot of chatting. Terrible!! LoL Defensive, much? Hey, don't rip on bingo hall. Good place to find compassionate young daughters who are their to take care of their elderly parents.
dispatch3d Posted October 15, 2010 Posted October 15, 2010 I'm a really big extrovert so I love just going out and talking to people. Really any situation where I'm talking or interacting with people makes me a little happier.
CrestfallenNoMore Posted October 15, 2010 Posted October 15, 2010 Why does meeting for a drink at a bar automatically equal "drunken people" that you don't want to talk to? Where are you picking up chicks? As they storm out of their first Alcoholic Anonymous meeting?
lovelydemon Posted October 15, 2010 Posted October 15, 2010 I'm with the OP. I never enjoy being at a bar. I'm very active and the idea of just sitting ( or standing for that matter) in a crowded uncomfortable place, while sipping on a poorly made drink doesn't appeal to me at all. Besides, most bars in this country are sports bars so if someone doesn't care for the games there isn't many options for conversation starters. I only go out to clubs where I can dance, otherwise I decline the invitation.
xpaperxcutx Posted October 15, 2010 Posted October 15, 2010 When you say bar I automatically think " sports bar, rowdy crowd, television screen"- 1980's CHEERS sitcom place. Not my thing. Lounges are much more upscale and classy in my opionion. They have cushioned sofas.
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