Insanitylater Posted October 11, 2010 Posted October 11, 2010 That old line used by lots of women. "I want a guy to just accept me as I am" or "accept me just for me" in the dating world. How can so many women say this when they most of their appearance is faked, or manipulated? Fake nails, eyelashes, boobs(not as much), push-up bras, hair color, hair length, makeup, waist cinching pants/underwear etc etc Now I'm not bashing the use of this stuff. I'm simple stating its a huge contradiction that most women say accept me, yet they arent accepting themselves as they truly are first. I'm not a fan of a lot of makeup on women. Subtle highlights and thats it.
theBrokenMuse Posted October 11, 2010 Posted October 11, 2010 yet they arent accepting themselves as they truly are first. Accepting someone for who they are means to appreciate them for the person that they are inside from my understanding of the phrase.
xpaperxcutx Posted October 11, 2010 Posted October 11, 2010 Actually the bigger question is, if you were given two posters- one, is a blonde marilyn monroe lookalike with the " fake" acessories applied, the second, plain jane in sweats- which one would you tape to your wall? I don't want to argue, but I do agree that sometimes people take that phrase a little too personal. It's possible that most people will accept, but stereotypically we're reminded both sexes are attracted by appearances first, personality second. Although I will argue, that women just love to pamper themselves- mani/pedi included.
Mad Max Posted October 11, 2010 Posted October 11, 2010 It's hypocritical not because of makeup, but because there's many men that have dating difficulties and women aren't exactly all that willing to accept those men as they are. Men certainly do it too, so the male gender certain'y isn't excused by any means.
Surrealist Posted October 11, 2010 Posted October 11, 2010 I thought the term was more often used by women, and perhaps guys, who make little to no effort with their appearance or weight control or whatever. Funny thing is, though it is more irritating if anything, is that these same people refuse to settle for someone of equal appearance or attractiveness themselves. If these people want someone more attractive than they are to accept them for who they are, well then they may need to take a good look in the mirror and ask the confronting question: "If I'm not prepared to date or otherwise engage in a romantic relationship with someone who looks like me, my level of attractiveness, hygiene, or weight control etc then why should I expect someone else to?"
RATED-RKOFRANKLIN Posted October 11, 2010 Posted October 11, 2010 Men and women reject a lot of people based on many things. Some of these people complain about not finding someone. I'm sure some of the people reject had good qualities. Just watch this interview for outrageous standards. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wCoI-B9AYjs People don't have the right to complain being dateless if they are getting offers.
brainygirl Posted October 11, 2010 Posted October 11, 2010 There's superficial and there's deep stuff. I honestly do't think I am any more attractive with or without makeup, I don't like the way it feels on my skin, and its expensive. So why should I wear makeup habitually? Yet, many folks seem to think that I am not acceptable without it. Then there's deep stuff like honesty. you can't fake honesty.
sagetalk Posted October 11, 2010 Posted October 11, 2010 Men and women reject a lot of people based on many things. Some of these people complain about not finding someone. I'm sure some of the people reject had good qualities. Just watch this interview for outrageous standards. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wCoI-B9AYjs People don't have the right to complain being dateless if they are getting offers. I think that story is true of well off white women as well. They all end up fighting over the same 10% of guys and then complain that they get cheated on. They say that they want: honesty, commitment, trust, but the men they go after don't reflect these qualities in the least. Dating in our generation is a total disaster, I hope I make my way through successfully.
Star Gazer Posted October 11, 2010 Posted October 11, 2010 I feel bad for some men because they can't wear makeup. I can't tell you how many times I've thought, "Oh man, this guy needs some concealer..." As for the OP, I think that phrase is meant more along the lines of, "Accept what you see, in the here and now, and don't try to change me or expect me to change." So, if she's a lacquered face, fake nails kind of girl, don't expect her to change into plain Jane. If she's a couple pounds overweight, don't expect her to drop the pounds for you. If she's shy, don't expect her to turn into a comedian around your friends. Etc., etc.
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