EyeAlone Posted October 10, 2010 Posted October 10, 2010 After getting out of a sh*tty relationship, I dated around but had no luck. Just when I was giving up on men, I met a wonderful guy. He's intelligent, honest, attractive, kind, hard-working...he basically fits the bill. It took me a while to realize how amazing he is, but now I'm slowly falling in love with him. It's a great feeling but at the same time I'm scared and sad. I'm tired of having my heart broken. I'm sick of being hurt. I have a bad feeling that whatever we have is going to end tragically. He may be transferred out of the country next year for his job. It's not definite but it's a large possibility. Having that in the back of my mind makes me sad and wonder if this is all worth it. What's the point? Why bother? I'm trying to enjoy the moment but my heart feels so sad. Any thoughts? Sorry, I know my thoughts are disjointed but I needed to pout them all out. Thanks in advance
sugarmomma Posted October 10, 2010 Posted October 10, 2010 If he is good to you, you should take a chance on love. always take a chance on love. Just don't get overly invested emotionally and you will be just fine. So happy for you. Hope I meet someone like that soon.
yoga18 Posted October 11, 2010 Posted October 11, 2010 I've been in your shoes....actually I am in your shoes minus the possibility of leaving for another country. I've have relationships that have never really been great. Just like you I gave up, yep even tried online dating. Well out of nowhere I meet a great guy online we go out he awesome according to him I'm awesome but damn....no spark! WTF so months go by he and I remain friends talk here and there he meets a fabulous girl. I get a call out of nowhere and its him he has a great friend really thinks we will hit it off....my thoughts were blah blah blah....I never expected the man I got he is great! I'm so happy I enjoy my life with him. However bc of my past life I think that he is going to leave me. I see tragic end in our relationship. I sometimes think its my minds way of softening the blow if the "tragic" end should occur. How long have you been with him? Has it been long enough to talk about a possible move and where that leaves you. Its hard but you really should try and enjoy what you have, I try very hard to appreciate what and who I have but its hard to not dwell in our own heads.
Sabali Posted October 11, 2010 Posted October 11, 2010 My thoughts is to enjoy a wonderful relationship with another person despite the length. Some opportunities are once in a lifetime and you should take advantage of them if you are doing no harm. If you give up on this now, you will be left dreaming about the possibilities and what could have been for a very long time. Whereas, if you just enjoy this relationship, you have the possibility that things could work out. Getting our heart broke is a very important part of relationship and dating. You can't avoid this stuff or let the fear interrupt a potentially good thing. If you are still young, I am sure there are more heartbreaks lined up for you before you croak. Him "maybe" leaving for another country before you could finish the relationship would be one of those better heartbreaks. He could not go out of the country as well, you know? My Jerry Springer final thought is that the loss is greatest when you do not give relationships like this one a chance.
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