GooseChaser Posted October 10, 2010 Posted October 10, 2010 Say you are on a date with a man or woman that you like, and the person wants to have sex, but you feel that it is too early and you don't know them well enough, and want to wait until you are more comfortable with them. How do you approach that? Do you just say no while being sensitive to their feelings?
Star Gazer Posted October 10, 2010 Posted October 10, 2010 Say you are on a date with a man or woman that you like, and the person wants to have sex, but you feel that it is too early and you don't know them well enough, and want to wait until you are more comfortable with them. How do you approach that? Do you just say no while being sensitive to their feelings? You say exactly what I bolded, and anything else you might want/need before you're ready (like exclusivity). Never be afraid to set forth your boundaries.
Author GooseChaser Posted October 10, 2010 Author Posted October 10, 2010 (edited) Thanks SG! I just wanted to ask because I'm dating someone new and I was wondering just in case the situation came up. I really like him and I don't want to ruin it by moving too fast. I just went on the first date earlier tonight! Edited October 10, 2010 by GooseChaser
Lemontang Posted October 10, 2010 Posted October 10, 2010 lol, I actually had this situation last night. Everything was going well and she decided to put the breaks on as things were going pretty fast. We clicked way too well, so totally respected her choice and slow things down, any guy who doesn't put simply would have to be an ass hat.
Eclypse Posted October 10, 2010 Posted October 10, 2010 Hopefully everything will move along naturally and by the time you do end up doing it the time will be right! I know that on the 3rd date with my gf I err... copped a few feels lol I'd never been beyond 1 date so I was curious as to what they felt like! I think communication is important. First time she came to my place I had prepared condoms and we had some pretty heavy petting but she wasn't ready so I didn't push it (both virgins). In the end we were about 2 months into our relationship before doing it. Perhaps you should make a plan with him for the date you do it? We just said we were going to do it the next time she was over and parents weren't home so we'd be able to explore each other fully. Of course 1 date is probably a bit too early to be discussing that although we were pretty much bf / gf by date 2.
Jannah Posted October 10, 2010 Posted October 10, 2010 Don't have sex with him/her on the first date. Problem solved.
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