angielove Posted October 9, 2010 Posted October 9, 2010 Here's the 411: There is this guy who I went to high school with 5 years ago. He was always very nice to me and seemed like a lovely person but we weren't in the same cliques and did not talk much at all. I haven't seen him in years; the last time was probably a few years ago at the local pub... and even then we probably just had a short polite conversation. He's on my facebook and sometimes we will comment on each other's status, photos etc. Although facebook may not be a very accurate representation of what a person is actually like, it seems that we have very similar interests, have identical views on politics and religion, and have the same sense of humour. I really think I could like him, and that he would like me back. I want to ask him out to get to know him better, but my problem is that I never ever see this guy. Would it be weird to message him on facebook?! I have no other way of contacting him, but don't want to seem creepy. Any advice?? xx
Swiss Miss Posted October 9, 2010 Posted October 9, 2010 I'd say send the message. I'm sure everyone thinks it's creepy if they're sending a message, but I know I would be flattered to get one, as many others probably would. Obviously he knows you have no other means of contacting him so I dont think it would be weird
bobdole Posted October 9, 2010 Posted October 9, 2010 I don't think you have anything to worry about. Sounds shallow, but just being realistic - if that's your photo - any guy would welcome a friendly message from you asking them out. It is possible to still come off "creepy. Just keep the tone of the message light and bubbly and it'll be fine.
sagetalk Posted October 9, 2010 Posted October 9, 2010 This guy must be Irish, since when do us guys get messages from hot girls asking us out on Facebook? Some guys really do have all the luck . Send it, what have you got to lose? Only an idiot would think you're creepy. The next time he posts something about his life, send him a message and say "We should get together sometime and catch up!".
Author angielove Posted October 9, 2010 Author Posted October 9, 2010 Yeah that's me, so thank you for the compliment And thanks for the advice both of you! I'm mainly worried about him thinking it's weird/funny/lame and showing his friends (who I also went to high school with), and them laughing at me. But I guess I should just man up and go for it! I'm not even sure if he's single though, because he doesn't have relationship status on his facebook. Any specific advice on what to say? I've been sitting at the computer for an hour now and all I've come up with is "hey" lol! xx
Author angielove Posted October 9, 2010 Author Posted October 9, 2010 The next time he posts something about his life, send him a message and say "We should get together sometime and catch up!". Oh god no, I couldn't do that publicly on facebook haha! But I think I can deal with a private message Eeeep getting nervous!
sagetalk Posted October 9, 2010 Posted October 9, 2010 Oh god no, I couldn't do that publicly on facebook haha! But I think I can deal with a private message Eeeep getting nervous! I meant a private message, sorry if I wasn't specific. There's nothing like your mom or family seeing you flirting with the opposite sex . Just say, "Hey it looks like you had a blast at _______ (whatever he is pictured doing), I think we should get together sometime and catch up!". Nothing hard about it. What can his friends laugh at, there is nothing embarrassing about it.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted October 10, 2010 Posted October 10, 2010 IF you are going to get anything at all of substance from Facebook, then this is at the top of the list. When Facebook becomes an environment wherein an attractive woman can't message a guy sincerely and not get a 'pass' no matter what she utters, then Facebook will have run its course. As suggested, some general, light-hearted (but steady) comments on various things he's doing or places he's going will cause you to be/seem part of the woodwork on his "wall". Nobody in your high school past or present will see that as anything but sensible. Even though we all know you could frontally attack him (romantically) right now and probably get all you want (unless he is in a relationship), IF you instead opt to let time pass, just to seeeeeeeeeeeem more a part of the woodwork there, it should be a tiny bit easier to make direct overtures in the future.
brainygirl Posted October 10, 2010 Posted October 10, 2010 message him. If nothing else, you reconnect with someone who was nice years ago.
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