Imajerk17 Posted October 9, 2010 Posted October 9, 2010 Am I the only one or does it seem that we're losing our manners? I went on (what seemed to me to be) a great first date last Sunday--lasted 4 hours and went from coffee to dinner (somewhere else) to dessert (somewhere else still--she paid), kiss at the end. I told her I wanted to see her again and she seemed to really agree--and so we made tentative plans to see each other this Saturday. Called her Tuesday and Thursday, no answer, no return call, no return text, no return email, you know, nothing. Damn... Things like this suck. I mean, I know it doesn't always work out, but why bother spending 4 hours making a connection with someone, and then just disappearing?
USMCHokie Posted October 9, 2010 Posted October 9, 2010 People often don't truly know whether they want a second date until well after the first date...perhaps they decided to pursue someone else...or after thinking about it without you in front of them, they decided you weren't compatible...or whatever number of reasons... A great first date does NOT guarantee a second date... And if you get nothing in response, then you have your response. It's pretty simple. Just don't take it personally or let it get under your skin like it does with a lot of people in online dating that just get bitter over these "silent rejections"...
Author Imajerk17 Posted October 9, 2010 Author Posted October 9, 2010 You are right, man. Still gets to me though, even though I know better that it "should not".
USMCHokie Posted October 9, 2010 Posted October 9, 2010 You are right, man. Still gets to me though, even though I know better that it "should not". Of course rejection stings...no one is truly and completely impervious to it...it's just how you react and adapt to it that's important...if you go all woe-is-me and blame the entire opposite gender for whatever reason because one girl didn't want to date you, well, you know where that leads you to...but if you view it as one more person in this world that you've found who was not compatible with you, it makes it easier to pick yourself up and start looking for that next person...
Author Imajerk17 Posted October 9, 2010 Author Posted October 9, 2010 I know that. I'm surprised not to get at least an answer. That what bums me out, although no answer is an answer.
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