Raderick Posted October 8, 2010 Posted October 8, 2010 I've been thinking about this for a really long time, and based on the different relationships I've seen/heard, the women who say "I want someone different" will go after someone similar to guys she dated, negating everything she said in the past about wanting contrast. I'd throw a great example: A female acquaintance only dated guys she meets at house parties and clubs, and these guys were mostly ones who wanted to **** a few times and run off. One day we chatted about this (I do like her but I doubt she's long-term relationship material) about her wanting to meet a guy who is "different". I tried to explain to her that if she wanted someone different than what she was dating in the past, then get away from the parties and go to other venues, such as coffee houses, dive bars, charity events or even indie music shows. Nonetheless in one month she went through two more guys only for one to cheat on her and the other walking out. Her reasonsing is that "art people are just boring, they are not fun to be with". Meh. Explanation would be nice here.
callingyouuu Posted October 8, 2010 Posted October 8, 2010 In general, people (guys and girls) don't know what they want until they see it. They say they want something "different," but they don't actually know what that means. In your case, I think she just wants the same man but a different result. Unfortunately, life doesn't work that way most of the time.
Fouts Posted October 8, 2010 Posted October 8, 2010 People are usually drawn to ceratin types, but that varies over the years as our life experience changes. She'll get bored with club guys at a certain point and be drawn to professionals or artists, or whatever.
nycgirl6 Posted October 9, 2010 Posted October 9, 2010 What she means is she wants to want something different. It's really hard to make that happen.
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