CindyB Posted October 8, 2010 Posted October 8, 2010 I am so sick of the average guy...its like all they care about is how quickly they can gt into your pants. They are so immature. Why can't I find a nice guy who respects me for who i am and not just like his next conquest...I don't know what to do, every guy is the same. Well not everybody i am sure there are some really nice guys out there, but I have had such bad luck in my life... can anyone know what I'm talking about?
Mad Max Posted October 8, 2010 Posted October 8, 2010 Sounds like you're attracted to such guys if that's all you date. There are plenty of guys that aren't out to just get in your pants. It's probably a combination of bad luck and little to no attraction to such guys.
NickelbackFan Posted October 8, 2010 Posted October 8, 2010 I am so sick of the average guy...its like all they care about is how quickly they can gt into your pants. They are so immature. Why can't I find a nice guy who respects me for who i am and not just like his next conquest...I don't know what to do, every guy is the same. Well not everybody i am sure there are some really nice guys out there, but I have had such bad luck in my life... can anyone know what I'm talking about? Well, how are you meeting these guys ? Do you see red flags ? I am a guy. You need to master the skill of the red flags. I have learned to hope for the best expect the worst.
Fouts Posted October 8, 2010 Posted October 8, 2010 Sounds like you're attracted to such guys if that's all you date. There are plenty of guys that aren't out to just get in your pants. It's probably a combination of bad luck and little to no attraction to such guys. Agreed. Take a look at the kind of men you're meeting, perhaps they're inclined to be more immature.
Sabali Posted October 8, 2010 Posted October 8, 2010 Sounds like another one is biting the dust. It sounds like another one taking dating too seriously. It's all about fun. Just laugh it off and enjoy your free Mcdonald's and B movie.
classof2014 Posted October 8, 2010 Posted October 8, 2010 Since I don't know about your specific situation, its hard to give good advice, but here goes: 1. Not all men are like these and fewer and fewer men will be like this as they get older. 2. Try to meet guys in places that are more intellectual. I know lots of young professionals that do work in coffeeshops. A gym may be a good place too. Avoid places like bars and nightclubs. 3. If your comfortable, consider dating older guys. I know lots of college girls that still think people like Bruce Willis, Brad Pitt, Kiefer Sutherland, etc. are good looking and they are all in their 40s and 50s. Guys in this age range tend to be more mature and put sex lower on the totem pole 4. Consider the way you dress. Do you dress provocatively? This could attract the wrong type of men.
Surrealist Posted October 8, 2010 Posted October 8, 2010 Sounds like you're attracted to such guys if that's all you date. There are plenty of guys that aren't out to just get in your pants. It's probably a combination of bad luck and little to no attraction to such guys. I agree with this, I have never taken advantage of any woman or pursued them just for sexual purposes. So many women around go through this stuff and it boggles my mind.
Author CindyB Posted October 8, 2010 Author Posted October 8, 2010 WEll it is mostly bars and clubs, and i'm kind of shy so it's whoever comes up to me and makes me laugh and makes me feel good. But my feelings are all wrong because this last guy i really thought liked me for who i was and now, afterward he won't evn return my calls, it is compltely obvious he nvver cared about me. I'm crying now, i need to go to bed.
Sabali Posted October 8, 2010 Posted October 8, 2010 I agree with this, I have never taken advantage of any woman or pursued them just for sexual purposes. So many women around go through this stuff and it boggles my mind. Never!? And you're not a priest? Wow, I guess it's just the way you were raised...
Mad Max Posted October 8, 2010 Posted October 8, 2010 WEll it is mostly bars and clubs, and i'm kind of shy so it's whoever comes up to me and makes me laugh and makes me feel good. But my feelings are all wrong because this last guy i really thought liked me for who i was and now, afterward he won't evn return my calls, it is compltely obvious he nvver cared about me. I'm crying now, i need to go to bed. There's your answer. Change the scenery. And if it only takes making you laugh to turn you on, that's a problem. You're falling for the wrong guys. Guys looking for sex occupy the places you hang out at.
Surrealist Posted October 8, 2010 Posted October 8, 2010 Never!? And you're not a priest? Wow, I guess it's just the way you were raised... Not to say I don't have feelings, but absolutely certain mate, I've never taken advantage of a woman or sort them for sex alone.
Cracker Jack Posted October 8, 2010 Posted October 8, 2010 WEll it is mostly bars and clubs, and i'm kind of shy so it's whoever comes up to me and makes me laugh and makes me feel good. But my feelings are all wrong because this last guy i really thought liked me for who i was and now, afterward he won't evn return my calls, it is compltely obvious he nvver cared about me. I'm crying now, i need to go to bed. Sorry. Don't cry. It'll be better. But as others have suggested, the scenery needs to be altered, as that's a contributing factor to your difficulties; you also can't just be happy go lucky with any guy who comes up talking to you. How far did it go with this guy?
Mad Max Posted October 8, 2010 Posted October 8, 2010 Never!? And you're not a priest? Wow, I guess it's just the way you were raised... Some people still have morals and decency. I'm sure if it was the other way around, you wouldn't take too kindly to being used.
make me believe Posted October 8, 2010 Posted October 8, 2010 Cindy, bars and clubs are the WORST places to meet guys. How old are you? It sounds like you are young, so to be honest most guys your age probably ARE just looking to get laid. It sucks....we've all been there. There are definitely some good ones out there (even ones your age), but they are NOT the ones who are approaching you at the club. But the way you describe it.. "the ones who come up to me and make me laugh and make me feel good" makes it sound like you will fall for any old d-bag who flatters you. You need to break out of your shell a little bit and raise your standards. Some drunk guy coming up to you at the club, making a lame joke, and telling you you're hot should NOT be enough to get your interest.
Sabali Posted October 8, 2010 Posted October 8, 2010 Some people still have morals and decency. I'm sure if it was the other way around, you wouldn't take too kindly to being used. No comment.
Disillusioned Posted October 8, 2010 Posted October 8, 2010 I am so sick of the average guy...its like all they care about is how quickly they can gt into your pants. They are so immature. Why can't I find a nice guy who respects me for who i am and not just like his next conquest...I don't know what to do, every guy is the same. Well not everybody i am sure there are some really nice guys out there, but I have had such bad luck in my life... can anyone know what I'm talking about? Connecting with the kinds of guys you want to meet is going to take some effort on your part. If you're acting like a wallflower, of course the only men who try to pick up on you are going to be the jerks! It's like Dusty Springfield said, if you want that guy, you have to be proactive and get him yourself. This is not Bolivia... there's no law here in the USA against the woman making the first move. Or, you can ignore this reply and keep getting all the jerks you want.
USMCHokie Posted October 8, 2010 Posted October 8, 2010 1. Not all men are like these and fewer and fewer men will be like this as they get older. 3. If your comfortable, consider dating older guys. I know lots of college girls that still think people like Bruce Willis, Brad Pitt, Kiefer Sutherland, etc. are good looking and they are all in their 40s and 50s. Guys in this age range tend to be more mature and put sex lower on the totem pole Disagree. If anything, some older men will prey on younger women to get that quick lay. OP, if you are constantly attracting or are attracted to the common douche, then I'd take a look at yourself first...
Dante311 Posted October 8, 2010 Posted October 8, 2010 I am so sick of the average guy...its like all they care about is how quickly they can gt into your pants. They are so immature. Why can't I find a nice guy who respects me for who i am and not just like his next conquest...I don't know what to do, every guy is the same. Well not everybody i am sure there are some really nice guys out there, but I have had such bad luck in my life... can anyone know what I'm talking about? I wish I could find YOU my age. How old are you? I'm 25 and I'm meeting so many immature girls. I was asked out tonight by a girl, a barista @ a local coffee shop (whom I've been flirtatious with over the past 4-5 months)... she calls me BPR or Bullet Proof Rob because my chest looks like I'm wearing a bullet proof vest.. ie she thinks i'm jacked... and that's all she cares about... but on top of that.. out with her and friends tonight... some RANDOM girl gives me and my friend who sat next to me.. lap dances. Not complaining, but it was so random and so immature. I want a woman. Not a girl.
Raderick Posted October 8, 2010 Posted October 8, 2010 (edited) WEll it is mostly bars and clubs, and i'm kind of shy so it's whoever comes up to me and makes me laugh and makes me feel good. But my feelings are all wrong because this last guy i really thought liked me for who i was and now, afterward he won't evn return my calls, it is compltely obvious he nvver cared about me. I'm crying now, i need to go to bed. Stop going to bars and clubs to meet these sort of guys. Go to dives, coffee shops, art houses, small indie concert venues and you'll meet a whole different crop of people. Granted there are a few bad apples at these places but you'll get a chance to see a different type of person in action, and maybe you'll meet someone there. Edited October 8, 2010 by Raderick
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