OceanGirl Posted October 8, 2010 Posted October 8, 2010 I have noticed that when one dating situation or short term relationship ends, I am trying harder than ever to get new dates. I am pretty much logged into OKC 24 hours It's like I need to replace this guy ASAP.
CrestfallenNoMore Posted October 8, 2010 Posted October 8, 2010 No. If you feel that way, you shouldn't be dating.
USMCHokie Posted October 8, 2010 Posted October 8, 2010 Hmmm, actually I feel the opposite...if I end any sort of dating situation, regardless of how long it lasted, I relish taking a break from dating for a little while...
Surrealist Posted October 8, 2010 Posted October 8, 2010 No because after almost a 5 year sabbatical from anything, I'm beyond resolved, strong and independant. Almost like I don't need anything or anyone. It's a freeing feeling. Of course I have the typical human desires but you learn after such a long period of time how to control and direct them and any unexpended energies into other meaningful activities or life pursuits.
welikeincrowds Posted October 8, 2010 Posted October 8, 2010 How many times do you have to hear the phrase "external validation," my dear beloved SACWA?
yah Posted October 8, 2010 Posted October 8, 2010 I have noticed that when one dating situation or short term relationship ends, I am trying harder than ever to get new dates. I am pretty much logged into OKC 24 hours It's like I need to replace this guy ASAP. I haven't. As hard as it is, I try to be content being single and on my own before dating again.
Author OceanGirl Posted October 8, 2010 Author Posted October 8, 2010 It's weird. I went almost 2 years without having a date. I just didn't want to bother with it (I was also in unrequited love with my boss). I had zero desire to find dates and would even be completely oblivious when a guy was flirting with me. My life was a lot more relaxed then. Now after 3 months of multi-dating, I am almost addicted to going on dates. I can't stop. I like getting texts, calls, drama even. I like thinking of what to wear. I like the physical side too I guess I need to find the middle ground somehow.
Author OceanGirl Posted October 8, 2010 Author Posted October 8, 2010 How many times do you have to hear the phrase "external validation," my dear beloved SACWA? Lol. I need to find a way to re-center myself. I need to get back to my other interests and take dating off the no 1 priority in life.
eerie_reverie Posted October 8, 2010 Posted October 8, 2010 I don't feel this way at all. Perhaps in the past - but now I'm old enough to realize the odds of my meeting someone I actually like are so low, it's not worth my time to bother trying.
Author OceanGirl Posted October 8, 2010 Author Posted October 8, 2010 No because after almost a 5 year sabbatical from anything, I'm beyond resolved, strong and independant. Almost like I don't need anything or anyone. It's a freeing feeling. Of course I have the typical human desires but you learn after such a long period of time how to control and direct them and any unexpended energies into other meaningful activities or life pursuits. Nice avatar pic
Author OceanGirl Posted October 8, 2010 Author Posted October 8, 2010 I don't feel this way at all. Perhaps in the past - but now I'm old enough to realize the odds of my meeting someone I actually like are so low, it's not worth my time to bother trying. Yeah, despite playing the numbers game, I find it next to impossible to meet someone I really like. BTW spookie, I like how you have matured a lot. You sound completely different these days.
eerie_reverie Posted October 8, 2010 Posted October 8, 2010 It's nice getting texts and calls, but I have my friends for that. I like thinking about what to wear, but that's what casual business-casual was made for. I like drama, but it's more fulfilling living vicariously through other people whilst sitting atop my high horse.
eerie_reverie Posted October 8, 2010 Posted October 8, 2010 Yeah, despite playing the numbers game, I find it next to impossible to meet someone I really like. BTW spookie, I like how you have matured a lot. You sound completely different these days. Aw, thanks. I wonder if my most recent "change" is due to my getting off the weed.
Star Gazer Posted October 8, 2010 Posted October 8, 2010 How many times do you have to hear the phrase "external validation," my dear beloved SACWA? Thanks for saying it for me... If you feel the need to replace a guy you didn't even like, you're dating for all the wrong reasons.
Fouts Posted October 8, 2010 Posted October 8, 2010 You just want to replace the attention, not really the guy (though I'm sure that would be nice). Nothing wrong with it, flirting is fun and you never know where it can lead. Not sure about a dating website though, I can see where that would get real old, real fast.
Surrealist Posted October 8, 2010 Posted October 8, 2010 Nice avatar pic Thankyou. I wasn't totally honest or forthcoming with my reply though. I do feel much the same way as everie reverie in his / her post above.
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