colliejoanie Posted October 7, 2010 Posted October 7, 2010 I've posted once before asking why the guy I'm dating talks like a gay guy.....since then, we've been spending a lot of time together, and we talk and text all day long. But I have a serious issue. I think he's gay. Can someone please help?? He sounds gay and says gay things. Always perfectly dressed (which by no means is any indication of being gay....alone). He doesn't seem particularily interested in asking me questions, getting to know me, wanting to see pics of me, or flirting with me the way my past guys have. We've slept together twice now though and he was ALL about me. All night.....so I'm sooooo confused. And it's like he already assumes after two weeks that he's got me. We're a couple, and he doesn't have to woo me anymore. I honestly feel like I'm his cover. And when I asked him last night if anyone had ever mentioned that he was feminine he said "yeah, people have asked. but it's just because I was raised by women". He didn't get upset or defensive or even think it was funny. He's had continuous 4-5 yr relationships with women. never married. Two have proposed to him. sorry it's so long, I'm just really confused......
Feelin Frisky Posted October 7, 2010 Posted October 7, 2010 Other than checking his stool for semen I don't know what to tell ya. Whether he's gay or not, he seems to be too gay for you and you might as well free yourself before you get in deeper. There are other fellas in the world.
Knittress Posted October 7, 2010 Posted October 7, 2010 It's only been two weeks, so I think 'is he gay' belongs with questions like 'what are his views on child-discipline.' What you need to be thinking about is how he MAKES YOU FEEL. Good? Bad?
Author colliejoanie Posted October 7, 2010 Author Posted October 7, 2010 You are absolutely right. Why bother??? Thanks, I guess sometimes you just need to hear it from someone else.......
welikeincrowds Posted October 7, 2010 Posted October 7, 2010 Your story would make for a good episode of Seinfeld. Make of that what you will.
ReadyforLove Posted October 7, 2010 Posted October 7, 2010 Seriously, if you have to keep asking then it must mean either of the two: 1) He's Gay/Bi 2) He's very effeminate Whatever the answer is, it's clear that you are not attracted to the way he talks/acts so why waste your time? Do you think he will suddenly man up one day?
Eclypse Posted October 8, 2010 Posted October 8, 2010 I have just a few points. For one, if he really was gay why on earth would he be dating you (and all the other women before you)? Being gay is no longer a stigma and I see plenty of gay couples around. Also it seems to bother you that he focuses on you during sex, and that he dresses well, and that he doesn't ask you for pics. I really don't see how that is gay. I thought this is the sort of stuff women dream about? A respectful guy who takes care of himself AND pleasures her. Would you prefer he did the opposites of that?
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