Would you date or date a person thats UNDER-employed

[irc333]

Not talking about UNemployed but UNDER employed...as long as they have a job, you're fine with that ?

 

(Considering the recession and layoffs thesedays?)

[denise_xo]

Not talking about UNemployed but UNDER employed...as long as they have a job, you're fine with that ?

 

(Considering the recession and layoffs thesedays?)

 

Absolutely. I have issues with people who choose not to work rather than take a job below their 'level'. I've had periods in my life where I've been underemployed because I've changed locations and haven't had a job to go to, so I took whatever could pay the bills while I was applying for something else. I would only have an issue with it if it was a general symptom of lack of ambition or direction.

[Cee]

I'm underemployed (earnings wise) and will be for the rest of my life. I chose to work in nonprofit and I'm happy. I don't need things like a big house to make me happy. What makes me happy is doing good work and having good friends.

 

Maybe it's because I hang out with like-minded people, but practically everyone I know is unemployed or underemployed. Nobody judges anybody on that. I'm proud of my friends toiling at jobs they hate. One friend is an artist and works at a collections agency. It's a horrible job, but it pays the bills. Another friend is an unemployed lawyer who earns money by doing data entry.

 

I gravitate towards dating guys in artistic and working class occupations. My most serious relationship was with a guy who was a musician and paid the bills by delivering flowers. Not everybody judges somebody on the size of their paycheck- at least, I don't.

[DazednConfused]

I'm underemployed as well, several years ago I was a national sales manager pulling down close to 200k/yr... i worked 60-70 hr weeks, hated most of my staff, attended and facilitated meetings, trainings, etc... bleh.

 

Now, I tend bar for a bare fraction of the dough and am waaaaay happier in my life. It's not because I lack ambition... but because there are more important things for my happiness and well-being than money.

 

-Dazed

[2sure]

Well, I am over 40 and fairly established professionally. I can go out to nice places, afford tickets and memberships, go on vacations. While none of that makes up an important part of who I am...those are things I like to do. And at this point in my life, things I feel I should be able to do.

So, I would want to meet someone who was in the same position financially . Someone with not only the same interests but financial ability to pursue them. Thats for a date. For a life partner...I would consider someone who had the same interests but needed to pool our resources to fulfill them if he otherwise was a great partner. No problem.

[Mutant Debutante]

Most of my boyfriends have been poor students or artists who had a crappy day job, so yeah, I guess so.

[sica]

I would but I work for a non-profit. I might be biased!

[yah]

No, I don't think I could do it. I was brought up to value education and career too much. To me, those things equal stability.

[brainygirl]

I think my answer to that is "it depends"

 

If the person is temporarily underemployed but working hard to improve things, maybe by getting some more education or by volunteering or trying to build up their resume, then I probably would date them. I wouldn't "treat" all the time, so the dates might be "poor".

 

If, on the other hand, they were basically sitting around the house not doing much besides playing WoW and messing around on facebook, I'd have a different reaction.

[redmelon]

My most serious relationship was with a guy who was a musician and paid the bills by delivering flowers.

 

Like Matt Dillon's character in Singles!