OceanGirl Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 I wrote him an e-mail ending our 5 week mini relationship. It was kind of weird as he admitted that he also had doubts that we could make it long term. His doubts were mainly due to the fact that he is a sport fanatic and I couldn't care less about sports. He is into triathlons and regularly trains/does events as well as various other sports. We had a really good and open conversation. He also said that he got addicted to seeing me as he finds me "incredibly attractive", funny and the most intriguing person he has ever met. He was willing to push all his long term concerns aside if it meant that he will get to keep seeing me. We both had a bit of a cry but ended it on good terms. I got him to see that he was really seeing me for all the wrong reasons and this made the break-up easier on him. It also made me feel like I didn't fv..ck this thing with him up. We just weren't compatible.
carhill Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 Good on you for your approach to this. Boy, I remember the old days when I used to cry when things 'ended'. Oh, well. Best wishes for finding a compatible guy you can shed tears of joy with.
Lakeside_runner Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 His doubts were mainly due to the fact that he is a sport fanatic and I couldn't care less about sports. He is into triathlons and regularly trains/does events as well as various other sports. We had a really good and open conversation. Haha, I can relate to him... We both had a bit of a cry... I take he does mostly sprint distances... Ironmen don't cry No, but seriously, good for you to give both of you a chance of meeting someone who is more compatible instead of getting into something doomed from the get-go.
Author OceanGirl Posted October 6, 2010 Author Posted October 6, 2010 Yeah, good thing that I initiated this talk, otherwise I have a feeling he wouldn't for a long while yet. It's funny how you should listen to your instincts. When I saw his OKC profile and how heavily he is into running, my first thought was that we have nothing in common. But his pictures were really cute...so I ended up contacting him anyway
elaina Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 I wrote him an e-mail ending our 5 week mini relationship. It was kind of weird as he admitted that he also had doubts that we could make it long term. His doubts were mainly due to the fact that he is a sport fanatic and I couldn't care less about sports. He is into triathlons and regularly trains/does events as well as various other sports. We had a really good and open conversation. He also said that he got addicted to seeing me as he finds me "incredibly attractive", funny and the most intriguing person he has ever met. He was willing to push all his long term concerns aside if it meant that he will get to keep seeing me. We both had a bit of a cry but ended it on good terms. I got him to see that he was really seeing me for all the wrong reasons and this made the break-up easier on him. It also made me feel like I didn't fv..ck this thing with him up. We just weren't compatible. Hello Oceangirl, I'm glad to hear that ya'll ended things in a good way. I'm sorry it didn't work out. Yeah, some people are just not compatible with each other, and that's fine. I really hope soon a man comes soon into your life who is compatible with you and who ya'll can become good friends and lovers and eventual LTR. I am sure he will, just don't worry so much about it. Enjoy life and before you know it, he'll pop into it, lol. That's what I've noticed anyways. Desperately looking doesn't do it, but enjoying life and then here he comes seems to work very nicely for many people.
Feelin Frisky Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 Was the e-mail addressed "to whom it may concern"? SN inferred that it is immature to send and e-mail in this case. I wouldn't quite say that but if I received such an e-mail it would seem an extra bitter pill to swallow in that I didn't rate a phone call at least. Just sayin'.
Author OceanGirl Posted October 7, 2010 Author Posted October 7, 2010 He is a top guy and he handled the whole thing so gracefully and was really respectful. I ended up giving him an OKCupid award writing how great he is. Hopefully this will help him find a nice girl.
CrestfallenNoMore Posted October 7, 2010 Posted October 7, 2010 He is a top guy and he handled the whole thing so gracefully and was really respectful. I ended up giving him an OKCupid award writing how great he is. Hopefully this will help him find a nice girl. You know, anytime I read recommendations from other women about a guy on a dating site, all I can think of is "Great, now I have a visual of someone he's slept with. Eww" I've been told by my male friends that the same is true in reverse, so I hope no guy ever writes one for me. Sorry, totally off-topic. Congratulations on cutting him loose if he wasn't what you wanted.
Author OceanGirl Posted October 7, 2010 Author Posted October 7, 2010 You know, anytime I read recommendations from other women about a guy on a dating site, all I can think of is "Great, now I have a visual of someone he's slept with. Eww" I've been told by my male friends that the same is true in reverse, so I hope no guy ever writes one for me. Sorry, totally off-topic. Congratulations on cutting him loose if he wasn't what you wanted. Hahaha sometimes friends do it too...
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